Addiction ??????????!
Question: ive got an addiction t amphetamine and alchol problems i was clean 4 18 months after 11 years of abuse of alchol around 400 units a week and 5 year addiction t amphetamine aroun 2 ounces a week, i started again in september last year nowhere near the levels i was, but headin that way, i decided new year t give my all t kick, i suffered 2 minor fits but withdrawal wasnt anywhere close t wat i went threw in detox, but yesterday being wendsday i started again, 8 days i lasted am i just a failure, im slowly destroying my relationship with my fiancee, and young son, but i just cant seem t keep of it, should i just walk away from my family and leave them in peace? im starting t think that could be best 4 everyone? am i thinking the right thoughts? or am i just a p rick who dont realise wat i got? ide appreciate honest answers
Answers: ive got an addiction t amphetamine and alchol problems i was clean 4 18 months after 11 years of abuse of alchol around 400 units a week and 5 year addiction t amphetamine aroun 2 ounces a week, i started again in september last year nowhere near the levels i was, but headin that way, i decided new year t give my all t kick, i suffered 2 minor fits but withdrawal wasnt anywhere close t wat i went threw in detox, but yesterday being wendsday i started again, 8 days i lasted am i just a failure, im slowly destroying my relationship with my fiancee, and young son, but i just cant seem t keep of it, should i just walk away from my family and leave them in peace? im starting t think that could be best 4 everyone? am i thinking the right thoughts? or am i just a p rick who dont realise wat i got? ide appreciate honest answers
I know myself wat it is like to have an addiction and its hard to break free from it but only u yourself can break that vicious circle, you urself must really want to stop doin it, u can do it for ur family if u really want to as u will end up losing them in the end if u don't stop, think of the money u r wastin, when u could be puttin that money away for ur sons education or a roof over ur family's head, that way u r been selfish, if u wer single u can do want u want but u have a child, i know the buzz is great but the buzz doesn't last forever, withdrawals are not forever either think of it like this the withdrawals wont be there forever but ur son will be, keep away from the people ur doin it wit, keep away from anyone that is doin drugs as the temptation is there, it is mind over matter, a vicious circle, only u can help yourself, if u cant do it on ur own tell ur fiancee & she can support u, ur not a failure dont think like that, i hope this answers helps u in some way & best of luck & remember ur not a failure, go & be a good boyfriend & a be a proud dad to ur son, all the best
avent we all. stop drinking vodka red bull and you will kill 2 birds with one stone... just do things in moderation.
OK u need to go to a support group or something rather than just doing it on your own. Now with the fiancee it clear that she still wants to marry u if shes with an addict because most girls wouldn't put up with it, they'll just quit but shes a fighter and believes in u. With your young son dont leave him really, think about it do you think this sounds right "my dad left my when i was a kid because he'd rather have drugs then me" Do everyone a favor including yourself and be strong, stick to your guns and family, you deserve one.
Addiction is a serious disease. Have you kicked these habits on your own in the past? Why don't you consider treatment? It would show your fiance that this is not the life you want to lead! I mean because seriously is it? I would hope not! W/ having a son and everything. He needs you, not the drugs and booze. It's just a temporary shot.... the booze is going to ruin your life and it's not going to give you a second shot @ a life w/ your family.
There are plenty of people out there who want to help you! You just have to seek out for it! Please... do. Do it for you ... and if not then for your son!
I wish you luck.. God Bless!
Hey, buddy, you are dealing with addiction here! What did you learn from all of your using? That the urge to do it again keeps coming back. You lasted 8 days and messed up. Well that is 8 days clean isn't it? You are still alive and not in jail or in an institution so you have another opportunity to stop using again. You don't have to continue with doing what you want to stop. Yeah, so you messed up. That is what addicts do. Get into an NA group and go as many times a day as you can find meetings to go to and you can do that with AA too. That is where you will find the strength and knowledge you need to get well and live clean. You need to take one day at a time and say "Just for today, I will not use." Sometimes we addicts need to cut it down into even smaller increments of time and say " Just for this hour, I will not use" and when the next hour comes along we do it again and again until we have made it through the day. Don't be so hard on yourself for relapsing. It happens! But what will you do next? It is entirely up to you. Grab your phonebook and find where you need to be going, get the meeting schedule, and get to those meetings. Go to as many as you can. You can go to 90 meetings in 90 days for starters. That is where your help is, man. It helped me keep off Meth once I started taking getting there seriously. But it is up to you. You know what you will lose if you don't! You have the option to do something about your life. Don't just throw it away and give up all hope.
You need a support system to break the hold. Is there an Narcotics Anonymous groups in your area to help you out? It's very very hard to kick these things on your own, but people who have done it are the best people to help you break this habit. If you can't find someone in the phone book, try either your Citizen's Information Bureau or simply go to a doctor or a local hospital for the address.
I think for you a huge part of the problem is the feeling that you are alone, and knowing that there are people out there who have gone through what you are going through and come out the other side will help you, because you'll feel like there is someone who understands.
Keep well. Don't give into it and run away, you are doing that anyway with the drugs. Face this and find the help you need. The help is out there.
I have similar problems, I have an eatinf dosroder which is anorexia and bulimia, its something I get help for, but I have come to the realisation that it is an addiction. I dont get a high from being bulimic or starving, but I do forget my problems, I go for the quick fix, I do it to get a relase from my feelings and I am guessing this is why you do drugs/drink.
I think you need to get some more help. Some support which is not emotionally attatched to you, it could be costly if there is nothing on the nhs which siuts yu but I am sure alcohol and anphetamines dont come cheap, and therapy comes on a sliding scale in terms of fees in most places, meaning you pay what you can, and if you are on benefits this wont be more then you can afford.
You shouldnt leave your family, this is a way of giving yourself permission to carryon what you are doing and to not get help. It also wont stop the problem of affecting your family. Just because you are not there, it doesn mean they wont think about you and it doesnt mean they cant still be adversly affected. And they wont get any closure if you just up and leave to go away and carry on what you are doing, if anything, it will make things worse.
You need to find a support group in your area fopr drink drug problems- IN ADDITION- to the support and therapy you get from a working professional (whom your doctor can refer you to if you ask).
I think that you CAN do this, you have proven to yourself that it is possible as you have done it before, you relapsed probably because something came along that made your life more difficult and you couldnt cope, so you did what you felt would helped you to cope, you dived back in to your additictions. This may have been a concious decsion but it could also be a decision you didnt think about, a subconcious decision. Eitherway, its changeable and it will be far more helpful if you can have professional support to do that. Before things get out of control again.
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