How do I handle this payment situation with an energy practioner friend?!


Question: One of my friends (we've been friends for 16 years) does a sort of healing/energy work (not reiki) over a distance and I asked her to see what she could do for a family member who was having medical issues. Normally she has charged me about 2 or 3 hours of time (at $50 an hour) when she helped me, but suddenly I got an email from her stating that she spent 7 hours of her time in energy work for my family member. I was shocked, wrote her back that I had no idea that she would have spent that much time and questioning her what made her assume I would ever be able to afford that much money - why didn't she warn me it would be so expensive?! She is offended and feels that I am ungreatful for her efforts for even questioning her about this. I told her I WOULD pay her, but I'm just concerned about how she presumed I could afford such a huge amount of time - but she isn't returning phone calls or emails. Help.


Answers: One of my friends (we've been friends for 16 years) does a sort of healing/energy work (not reiki) over a distance and I asked her to see what she could do for a family member who was having medical issues. Normally she has charged me about 2 or 3 hours of time (at $50 an hour) when she helped me, but suddenly I got an email from her stating that she spent 7 hours of her time in energy work for my family member. I was shocked, wrote her back that I had no idea that she would have spent that much time and questioning her what made her assume I would ever be able to afford that much money - why didn't she warn me it would be so expensive?! She is offended and feels that I am ungreatful for her efforts for even questioning her about this. I told her I WOULD pay her, but I'm just concerned about how she presumed I could afford such a huge amount of time - but she isn't returning phone calls or emails. Help.

I don't know much about this distance healing/ energy thing. Sounds like it's worthless, but that's ok. Sounds like your friend took advantage of you and it sounds like the terms of the agreement weren't completely worked out. Happens alot among friends- you think you can trust them, but in the long run friends can take advantage of you more so because they know your strengthes and weaknesses. I would just say call and leave a message that you need to talk. And talk in person to each other just say you don't have the money in total right now can you make payments (if you feel you still want the friendship with this person) but ask if they'll deduct an hour or two on their end since the kinks weren't worked out on timeing etc.....maybe both of you can work it out but take a little bit back to keep the friendship good. In my opinion they should have asked how long or just done the typical amount of time they worked with you (the 2-3 hours).....your decision. Hope it works out ! Everything happens for a reason they say- maybe this was a test and they didn't pass....good luck though....take care

She should have made some sort of contract with you beforehand.
On the other hand her time is valuable and you should send her something - send whatever you can afford as a token. Do tell her that in future she will have to agree an amount with you first.
Don't fall out over it though - it has probably been a misunderstanding on both parts!

You have already overpaid. Distance reiki is not worth anything. It has the same value as prayer - it is not effective and is definitely not worth paying for. Not a dime.

It is her fault assuming what you could afford and
the time spent is her word which she wouldn't even be able to prove in a court so she should be thankful you are willing to send her anything. Send her around $50. check or money order (so you know if she cashed it instead of throwing it in the garbage without opening) in a card and tell her that is your first payment on what you owe but please check with you to see what you are able to afford before she does any more healing.
If she doesn't cash it don't bother sending her more until you hear from her again.

That is about like sending her something she didn't ask for and then telling her she owes you a few hundred dollars.





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