Is it normal to have an extremely grumpy 17 month old 60% of the time?!
Question: My husband and I spend quality time with her reading, playing etc and also leave her to play on her own as well.
But lately she has been having tantrums and bursts out crying for no obvious reason.
I've considered she might be getting her 18 month eye teeth, but this has been going on for at least a month now and I don't know how much more I can take.
I'm too scared to take her out as she always looses the plot if she doesn't get her own way.
Are there any natural remedies I could try to calm her down?
Answers: My husband and I spend quality time with her reading, playing etc and also leave her to play on her own as well.
But lately she has been having tantrums and bursts out crying for no obvious reason.
I've considered she might be getting her 18 month eye teeth, but this has been going on for at least a month now and I don't know how much more I can take.
I'm too scared to take her out as she always looses the plot if she doesn't get her own way.
Are there any natural remedies I could try to calm her down?
It could be alot of things. Is she going through any big developments? Learning to walk, talk, etc. That could be part of it. Babies learn so fast and take in so much so quickly that a lot of the time it can be overwhelming and exhausting for them and they have trouble calming down. The teething does not help at all either. Is she getting plenty of naps during the day and lots of sleep at night? Plenty of sleep is really important. I do NOT think that your baby is "taking advantage" of you or "lording over" you. She is just a baby and these are the types of things that babies go through. Just keep giving her all of the love, cuddles and attention that she needs and wants and eventually she will grow out of it and be more independent because you created those bonds of trust with her when she was so small and having a difficult time.
In regards to a natural remedy I bought an Amber teething necklace for my 10 month old to wear and it is fantastic. My husband and I love it. It seems to have really helped him to be a little bit calmer. I would look it up the information on how it works and what not is very interesting.
she is lording over you already
you and hubby must establish the word no,
and be disciplined in your lives, about agreeing on what is No and what time is yes
establish patterns
stop all fighting between the both of you
all of it, and do not fret or become troubled at her behaviour, as it iwill be you who are feeding the fire.
be the loving parents , but you must see to it that you know what the word NO means.
Oh and Friends, you had better wise up to the ones that irritate the calm functioning of your family
as for natural remedies,
chamomile, for you also, no alcohlic based calming remedies, as this is a stimulant, and will lead to worse things
and then one must consider God who will keep you at rest if you keep the faith of the Bible
for the promise is that you will be saved from far worse troubles if you continue in the truth of the Bible,
1 Timothy 2 : 15
Well...it could be some her teeth, which is very uncomfortable when some are coming in...and you could tell that if her gums are swollen....and get some salve, use ice, etc....
But some of this is she is headed for the "terrible twos"...which is tantrum time.....and I didn't understand "she looses the plot" if she doesn't get her own way?.....you are the boss...not your child.
She is learning to use her attitudes against you and it sounds like she is starting to win.
Realize you have to draw the limits...and when children can't find their limits, they feel very insecure. She needs to know that you and your husband are a united front, and are the ones in control. Then she will feel secure. So she will test those limits...and needs to find they are there. If they are constantly changing..."because you want her to feel better", then she can't tell where she is at limit-wise.
Tantrums should not win her anything. When she is just trying to get her own way, you need to just let her have the tantrum, but have it gain her nothing. If she has a tantrum out in public, just let her do it....don't act embarrassed....your attitude will let her know, this doesn't work.
If she gets out of hand...too cranky...she can take a nap...and you need to tell her, "I think you need a rest right now"....
If she is just "putting it on"....she will quickly decide that isn't working either. If she needs "time out"...sit her on a chair for five minutes, etc.
You need to decide what you will do when....and be ready to do it. You also need to be sensitive and figure out why she is crying...if she is hurting so you can help her. All of this is learning how to "read" your child...but not let her control you.
Or in another year, you are going to really have more problems.
An 18 month old should have a regular nap time , at least in the afternoon.. and..go to bed about 7:00 p.m. at night..and get enough sleep. Have a "quiet down" time before going to bed at night with the story, her milk, etc....maybe she is just too tired, but you should have time of your own in the evening, etc.
Children will cry if they need food, drink, uncomfortable or headaches which can be caused by toothaches.bad eyes or a lot more reasons?
But if this happens when you are shopping and you are embarrassed they will do this to get their own way try distracting the child.
At night give them a teddy bear to cuddle, play soft classical music, leave them with a soft night light.
If they start to cry let them cry themselves to sleep,the first night they may cry for five minutes but it will seem to be a lot longer, the next night may only last 2 or 3 minutes this will go on until they realise they are in bed to sleep