Are there natural ways to increase my partners sex drive?!
Question: I am at my sexual peak (32) and I am going nuts! My partners sex drive is much lower than mine.. besides Viagra are there herbal remedies that anyone recommends or foods that help?
Answers: I am at my sexual peak (32) and I am going nuts! My partners sex drive is much lower than mine.. besides Viagra are there herbal remedies that anyone recommends or foods that help?
As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, and as one whose Practicum Report (thesis substitute based on actual clinical practice) was entitled "Male Sexuality" wherein I had to study both gender's sexuality in detail, let me recommend something to you that was first stated by women back in the 1970's (if not earlier) when they complained about premature ejaculation and about their partners not giving them any orgasms, or not enough of them, and on and on and on: Pay very close attention to your partner's "sex drive" or sexual arousal, etc.. Don't ask him anything about it, or demand any sexual "favors". Just study him, quietly and "from a distance" as the phrase goes. Don't tell him you're doing it and don't tell him you've asked anybody about his sex drive or how to deal with your sexual frustrations. Just study his sexual interests. There is a pattern. You just don't see it. Right now he may feel so much pressure from your sexual demands and other stressors in his life, and any alcohol or drug problems he may have,that he's not showing anything, so back off. Deal with your sexual needs in any other safe way you want, but do NOT pressure him or even relate to him that way. Over time, you're going to see patterns of sexual interest that you haven't seen in a long while. Do NOT try to take advantage of any of his sexually excited moments, even though they seem like an easy take. Just observe, and do so in such a discreet manner that he will never know you ever were paying attention to him. Enjoy your own sexuality without "demanding" that he participate or respond in any way. If you are at your "sexual peak" as you say, then your sexuality, not pressured upon him, may, if he's in good mental and physical health, arouse him to the point that he begins making sexual "advances" to you, and rather persistent "advances". THEN enjoy them, and build upon the knowledge you've gained about his sexuality to slowly but steadily begin filling your sexual wants through him, if you still want them with him by then. He is living his sexuality on his own right now. You do the same. If you and he want a sexual relationship as time goes on, believe me, if you do the studying and sensitive reintroduction of sex between the two of you, you'll truly enjoy yourself. And, by then, you will have explored new ways to enjoy your own sexuality, oftentimes which won't include him, that your "sexual peak" won't put too much pressure or demand on him. Trust me. My professors, male and female, loved my Practicum Report, especially since it was done in a time of so much one-sided (female) sexual demands and sensitivities. And the irony here is that much of my study direction was based on women's complaints about their sexual partners not satisfying them enough. I simply used their complaints as a basis to begin my research for my clinical study, and added on as I went along. God Bless you.
you are young and I'm sure you can excite him as you did when you first found each other .
just go back in time as you were when you begin to enjoy each other in the sexual way BUT !!!!________get a little silly and play roles that surprise him that you have not tryed before .
Experiment with his mind and wake up that little man that has fallen asleep on you .
you will see that all it takes is that women in you that you let go a bit dormant ,Bring her back and she will bring him back .
best of luck_oh wait !!! i noticed the little nurse outfit in your profile ,now there is a start :) :) :)
Before you start adding chemicals to his diet, focus on making him feel very loved and very special, without expectations on your part. If he's a 9-to-5 worker, when he comes home have things set up so he can relax and get rid of any stress that's built up during the day - maybe on the couch with a glass of wine or a beer. Get him to tell you about his day, both the good and the bad, and really listen to him. Don't tell him about your day unless he asks, and even then focus on the good and neutral things that happened, and bring the focus back to him. Give him a shoulder massage, even a foot rub. Add things like this gradually, not all on the first day. Dress in a way you know he likes, without going overboard. Be subtle about your own needs. And while you're waiting for him to realize that he's got the greatest partner in the world, scratch your own itch to relieve your own tension. (If things are going really well, you might try this in front of him!)
Make sure he has normal 31 yoa hormone levels esp. testosterone levels. These can be measured by an endocrinologist, if his are low this will reduce drive. Also make sure he is in good physical shape, if not then an exercise program like walking three times a week can improve conditioning and perhaps help things.
lick his balls.