Should my friend still take care of her mom ?!
Question: Should my friend still take care of her mom !?
Should my friend still take care of her mom !?
she has been taking care of her mom since she was twelve , her mom had a stroke , now my friend is 28 her mom is getting on her nerves and require more help!. she says she is tired my friend has two kids and a boyfriend and wants to put her mom in a nursing home !. my friends mom has three other children one who is in prison for life and the the other two stays out of town !. they never helped her with her mom !. her mom is about 65 years old and she has to lift her up and down the stairs , give her medicine , bathe her , feed her and change her clothes !. her mom has been forgetting a lot of stuff and cursing my friend out for no reason !. she is also in and out the hospital a lot !. is she wrong for putting her in the nursing home !. i told her i would help her but she says its just not enough she is tired !. every day i call her her mom is saying stuff like i don't like you , you stole my money , any you are evil, god is going to punish you !. she also screams and beat on the wall !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
she has been taking care of her mom since she was twelve , her mom had a stroke , now my friend is 28 her mom is getting on her nerves and require more help!. she says she is tired my friend has two kids and a boyfriend and wants to put her mom in a nursing home !. my friends mom has three other children one who is in prison for life and the the other two stays out of town !. they never helped her with her mom !. her mom is about 65 years old and she has to lift her up and down the stairs , give her medicine , bathe her , feed her and change her clothes !. her mom has been forgetting a lot of stuff and cursing my friend out for no reason !. she is also in and out the hospital a lot !. is she wrong for putting her in the nursing home !. i told her i would help her but she says its just not enough she is tired !. every day i call her her mom is saying stuff like i don't like you , you stole my money , any you are evil, god is going to punish you !. she also screams and beat on the wall !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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this is something only she can decide as it is a very ruff decision!. In my family we have put both my grandmothers in the nursing home for s short time just for a break!. My mother took care of her mother for a couple years she was admitted to the nursing home for a short time and then she took her back home and this is where she passed was at my moms home with all of us that could be there with her!. as for my other grandma my grandfather took care of her for about 4 years and then she was in a nursing home for a short time a couple months to give him a break and then she came home with him again and passed there at her home with him by her side!. If she needs a break I say it is fine for a short time but don't forget her visit her still and if at all possible bring her home when her time is close just so she goes with family by her side and not strangers!. that is my opinion but she will have to decided herself!. Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
This kind of behavior is normal for someone who has had a stroke, and if your friend cannot do this anymore than a nursing home is an option!. And a decision that you should not hold against her either!. This is not going to get any better, and probably will get worse!. If your friend decides not to put her in a nursing home, then maybe she could get some home health care personnel in to help!.
Good Luck to you friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good Luck to you friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your poor friend!. She lost her childhood!. It's not a crime to put someone in a nursing home!. You said your friend has children in the home the don't need to see or hear their grandma cursing!.
I know you said she had a stroke but enough is enough!.
Your friend did her job!. Let her focus her attention oh her children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know you said she had a stroke but enough is enough!.
Your friend did her job!. Let her focus her attention oh her children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes she should i went through the same thing and now my mom is gone take care of her mom yes u neva now when her time is up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com