How to convince my wife to go a hospital and OB-GYN instead of at home with a mi!

I am 40 and I am 5 months pregnant. My oldest is 17. Being a Chiropractor I have studied this and Holistic Medicine.
A water birth with a midwife is great. I have assisted in them by helping the mother with spinal manipulations.
My husband feels the same as you. I live in Chicago and I found and researched Northwestern Hospital. They have a midwives there and you can do a water birth. You can still have your family setting but to ease my husband's mind if something was to go wrong, we chose this path. I am really content with it now that I have seen the setting and the rooms. Maybe this is something you compromise with your wife.

Personal Experience.

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The question I always ask women who think midwives and home births are a good idea is "what if something goes wrong?" Especially with a woman in her 40s the chances of complications are a distinct possibility. Midwives only help when no help is needed. If something bad happened the mother and child could be dead before you made it to a hospital. If she insists on using a midwife make sure she is a licensed nursing midwife. If there is one mention of herbs or natural medicine you should throw her out on her ***.

Presumably, your wife has has all the right check-ups and knows that the baby so far is in a good position for birth. Water births are actually increasingly common and are even done in hospitals/birthing centres.

In these circumstances, and with her history, why are you such a fear-mongerer? The fact is most children are born without complications that are beyond a midwife, and that midwives and nurses do most of the work in the average birth anyway.

The stats are against your argument. My sister had both of hers at home in water with only a midwife. The first had the chord wrapped around her neck, but the midwife handled it just fine. And my sister had a prolapsed uterus. The second went very quickly and no problems at all.

Has it even occurred to you that the best thing for your wife and future child might be better known by your wife and not you? Has it occurred to you that your role here is one of support, and that you're not actually do it right now? By all means help with a sanity check, but you're not the one going to give birth.

Midwives have their act together and can spend quality time with the patient. My sister has 3 kids and had them all at home except the middle child. The middle child was breach and the midwife picked up on this. He suggested that my sister go to the hospital instead of suffering and going through unnecessary pain. Things did not go as planned but she knew when to take my sister to the hospital. She stayed with my sister during and after delivery and was still there to support her. They are not going to let anything happen

Sister

My niece was born at home and it was a wonderful experience to watch. The midwife was incredible. I had my kids in the hospital and all the doctor does is pull the baby out. They are not with you your entire delivery and postdelivery.

I hope if you cannot come to an agreement for a home birth and I understand your concerns, maybe she will do a hospital delivery with midwife.

obviously your wife is smarter than you.

i am with her,

watch the film The Business of being Born

start convincing yourself that she's right, and everything will be great.

Hospitals treat people like animals

Go with the midwives and as previously suggested watch "The Business of Being Born".

Also, get your balls snipped for God's sake!

More and more women are going this route. I have several friends that their wives had midwifes at home. The guys were not happy at first but when it was all said and done....they were happy.

SHe has had 4 before I think she knows what her body is doing so go with it and keep the phone close just in case

Midwives are A. hard to find B. not nessacarily qualified and C. not exactly the best choice to deal with a middle age woman going on her 5th child