How do I balance my male/female energy appropriately?!

How do I balance my male/female energy appropriately?

I'm interested in balancing my male/female energies so that I can be happy. How do I do this the right way? I'm a male and obviously have too much male in me and feel unbalanced like female is missing so I reach out to find this missing link in a female but still not finding right one to make me happy. So now need to balance the male/female within. Has anyone succeeded at this? They say once you balance the male/female inside you, then you are happy and peaceful.

There is no 'right' way. There are a number of ways to balance your male/female or yin/yang energies - you just have to figure out which one is the right one for you. You may try meditation, yoga, Bach or other flower remedies, acupuncture etc.

Personally, I have found that a combination of all the above with introspection, essential oils, crystals and prayer works best for me. I have recently discovered that my 'blockage' had its roots in my identification with my parents, so I've written this de-identification prayer which I meditate on as often as I can. If this will help you I don't know, but if it resonates with your heart as you read on, perhaps you can write your own and meditate on it.

In short, I call upon my mom's Higher Self and I visualise her approaching with a smile (she's still alive, by the way). I thank her for the love she's given me and the fact that she brought me to life, acknowledge her as respectable and responsible being for her own life, saying that she has done the best she could for me in view of the way she was brought up and taught by her own parents. Then, I tell her that I wish to de-identify myself from her so that I can move on and develop in my life and so that she can do the same. This part of the prayer is the same for my dad's part.

Then, I tell her that I keep the most important part of her, her love, which helps me grow my own roots and develop like a strong and independent tree, feeling secure and autonomous in my life, my home, my space, my work and living harmoniously and in a balanced manner.

I acknowledge that the female side of me is the creator of my goals and shows me what has meaning and heart for me. Then I set my goals (this part is personal, so you can just write whatever goals you have, in order of importance. Just try to avoid any 'negative' words when writing this part. For instance, if you want to say "I don't want to be ill again" phrase it as "I want to be healthy".)

Then, I repeat the process with my dad, but after the common introduction, I say that my male side connects me to my direction and my purpose, helps me maintain good relationships with society and authority, helps me handle different forms of authority, assert myself while setting my limits lovingly and connects me to the Light and enlightenment. My male side is also giving me a perfect neurological system, psychological health, perfect brain function, healthy hair, teeth and nails. Through my male side I have strong will and take action to achieve my goals and connect with leader skills.

Then, I take a few seconds and when I feel ready I say that my female and male side are equal.

Remember, you're not less of a man when you acknowledge that you have female energy sustaining you. Everything contains yin and yang energy - even batteries! They wouldn't work without their + and - ends, would they? It's simply that we were brought up to believe (for centuries now) that men had to 'act' and women had to 'feel' that we're all out of tune. Thankfully, a lot of us are awakening now and trying to find this balance in ourselves. Then maybe in the future everyone will be free to be who they are, not their gender.

You may also want to check out the links below. The 'Re-member' book by Steve Rother and The Group has also helped me a lot.

Welcome and good luck!