Drug addicts - is it ok to love them?!
Question: I want to know what you guys think. I wrote this: http://www.helium.com/tm/749982/conquers...
After you read it, tell me if you think it's better to cut all ties or continue loving them. And if you know something that I didn't include, please tell me!
And, as always, I promise to pick a best answer. Easy ten points, huh?!
Thank you!
Answers: I want to know what you guys think. I wrote this: http://www.helium.com/tm/749982/conquers...
After you read it, tell me if you think it's better to cut all ties or continue loving them. And if you know something that I didn't include, please tell me!
And, as always, I promise to pick a best answer. Easy ten points, huh?!
Thank you!
that was a great article. very informative and accurate. I'm actually IN that type of situation now. the only thing that could have been mentioned was that sometimes when you try to "help" an addict that you love, you yourself can unwittingly become an addict as well. as i did. the same type of person that will stay with an addict, enable one, etc. is also the kind of person who is susceptible to addiction as well. as i said, i know that now. i sort of "learned" and became the addict i guess was always inside, waiting to come out. but hey, what do i know? lol very good job, i actually teared up a little.
~Lyssa
P.S kinda funny also how a person can love an addict and excuse their behavior but are unable to be the same way about themselves. i overlook tons of things my bf does but im terribly critical of myself. hmmm
I loved a drug addict once. He lost me my house, my sanity, and almost my kids, so I have to definately say NO! It is not safe to love a drug addict.
you can do both, just because you cut ties with someone doesnt mean that you cant continue loving them.
Why wouldn't it be okay to love someone with some problems? Addicts already do not love themselves, so it would be pretty disheartening to have no one else love us too. Just because you love an addict doesn't mean you have to support their decisions or lifestyle. Just remember there's a real person underneath all those problems.
It's a hard and difficult road if you choose to love a drug addict. While sometimes they may seem fine and coping it could be a second later that something will happen and they're off raving. Trust is another issue since an addict will lie, cheat or steal to get what they want. No matter who it hurts. For the sake of your health, your life and your well-being then you should cut all ties.
I think it is ok to continue loving them as they still have feelings and nobody like to be abandoned becasue of their addiction.It would be very sad to the person.
Just know where to draw the line.
It's best to cut all ties, and still love them. But get away from them so they don't drag you down with them. The may not get you into drugs, but they will bring lots of negativity to your life, which will bring you down emotionally, physically and mentally. They don't get better until they decide to themselves; don't be fooled by the way a druggy manipulates. The word for drugs in Greek, PHARMAKIA, doesn't translate into both drugs and witchcraft for no reason. It is all manipulation: Manipulation of the mind and body for the druggy, and manipulation of you, the co-dependent, or the person who tries to understand.
There are two kinds of love:
1) Caring love, in which you love the person no matter what and desire to help them over come what has sadly taken priority in their life. You want to do everything for them and make everything better. Although this is ideal and admirable, a lot of times it is very seldom practical.
2) Tough love, when dealing with someone who is controlled by something that is not good, such as drugs, then you need to let the person fall and hit rock bottom. You still love them in a caring way, but what good does it do if someone who is doing drugs, or is controlled by something else, and in the process of falling and hitting rock bottom they bring others down with them? There is no good that can come from that. So, with tough love, you love them but let them fall and deal with the consequeces of their actions. Sometimes, dealing with the consequences their self, they will realize the error of their way and want to ask for help to turn their life around.
In Summary, love and pray for them. But, use tough love to prevent what is controlling them from controlling or impacting you or others.
There are not many here but I anyways detest bad habits