Has anyone felt this way before or is there something wrong with me?!


Question: I feel so stagnant in my life right now. Im not happy nor am I miserable. I always thought @ 27 I would be satisfied. Im not. I mean I thank god for my blessings health and semi decent job. But there is a void in me that is holding me back from enjoying life. Ive had some hurdles and have felt my way through the dark at times. My mother was mentally unstable which caused some hardships for me. But she and I are past that.I thought maybe becuz i don't have a boyfriend. But its hard to date comfortably when I feel I don't feel completely happy with ''me''. I am relocating to Chicago to finish my degree and to breath some new air. I want a better job and meet new ppl. But I don't want to take any emotional baggage with me. I am intelligent, attractive and enjoy ppl. But I also feel old and ashamed. I don't want to get to CHicago and run into the same problems. I want to enjoy my life and others fully. Am i depressed? should i talk to someone b4 leaving or is this comman?


Answers: I feel so stagnant in my life right now. Im not happy nor am I miserable. I always thought @ 27 I would be satisfied. Im not. I mean I thank god for my blessings health and semi decent job. But there is a void in me that is holding me back from enjoying life. Ive had some hurdles and have felt my way through the dark at times. My mother was mentally unstable which caused some hardships for me. But she and I are past that.I thought maybe becuz i don't have a boyfriend. But its hard to date comfortably when I feel I don't feel completely happy with ''me''. I am relocating to Chicago to finish my degree and to breath some new air. I want a better job and meet new ppl. But I don't want to take any emotional baggage with me. I am intelligent, attractive and enjoy ppl. But I also feel old and ashamed. I don't want to get to CHicago and run into the same problems. I want to enjoy my life and others fully. Am i depressed? should i talk to someone b4 leaving or is this comman?

There is no such thing as leaving all your troubles behind. They are part of you and need to be dealt with. It is not uncommon to feel stagnant, but you are doing something to change that now. Going back to school, looking forward to a more rewarding job, the chance to meet new people who have no expectations from you are all positive changes that are going in the direction that you want to go.

Now all you have to do is realize that life is not perfect, no person is perfect (excluding me of course), and that you have the advantage in what you are doing. Good luck.

Hmmm I too think the same as you. But I think that America has become such a "poor me" country. We dwell in self-pity (I too do this). I was watching Fight Girls and they were fighting girls in Thailand. It was interesting that all the American girls were saying things like "I had such a hard life growing up--it's a blessing to be here--it changed my life, etc." and all the girls from Thailand were saying "I'm fighting for my country"... even though their living conditions were much poorer than ours. If you think you need some help see a psychiatrist otherwise you can think about how you can improve your life and what goals you can accomplish.

No one is happy all the time, and everyone fears changes to a degree. Put the past where it belongs, behind you. I dont know what you feel ashamed of, but what ever it is, put that behind you too. Everyone has things they are ashamed of. Are you depressed? Quite possibly. It would not hurt to see a therapist, however, unless you have a real problem with depression, this too will pass. Life just isnt fun all the time. Problems make us strong, stress can bring positive results too. Happiness can be momentary. Focus on your goals and achieving them and give yourself credit for your accomplishments. Do not wallow in self pity or harbor guilt, it will bring you down. Good luck.

It could be a phase of life or just emotions about changing locations. However, if your mother had some mental issues it could be something else. Just for your own peace of mind, talk to your doctor. If he thinks it could be something, like depression, then he will either recommend you talk to someone now(which you should) or wait for you to complete the move then talk to a therapist in Chicago.
There is no real way to leave all your problems behind, especially if you are suffering from a mild form of depression. It will always be with you until you take the steps to handle it.

You need to be grateful for what you have, and get out of "the victiom" mind frame once you do this you'll eel alot better, I speak from experience

Everyone goes through a time in their lives of "finding theirselves." Right now you are trying to find a place in this world where you belong and fit. By moving you are hoping to find this place. If moving is what you need to do then do it. Get involved in new things and meet new people. Try things that you have never done before. Join a fitness center to exercise and eat healthy so you will feel good physically. Also remember to give yourself time to adjust to a new place. If none of that works then you may want to consider seeking professional help. It may be something from your past you may be repressing such as the emotional pain you went through with your mother being mentally unstable.





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