Has anyone ever totally changed their lives?How did it turn out?!
Question: I want to move away from the area i live in, and move somewhere no one knows me and start again!
there is no really good reason for wanting this, except that i REALLY want to do it.
the problem with where i live is that its very rural, i dont drive, the local transport is rubbish, and i am about a 45 minute drive to any good shops.
Although i REALLY want to do this, i am scared about moving my kids away from an area in which they have grown up in all their lives. They have lots of friends on this street, as have i, and i'm worried that i am being selfish.
but i think that if i am happier (if i do move), then they will be happier too.
my eldest is 7 and youngest is 3, they are both boys.
And another problem is that i dont know exactly where i want to move to, probably the nearest town.
i am so confused at the moment, but have wanted to move away for years, a long time before i had the kids too.
Answers: I want to move away from the area i live in, and move somewhere no one knows me and start again!
there is no really good reason for wanting this, except that i REALLY want to do it.
the problem with where i live is that its very rural, i dont drive, the local transport is rubbish, and i am about a 45 minute drive to any good shops.
Although i REALLY want to do this, i am scared about moving my kids away from an area in which they have grown up in all their lives. They have lots of friends on this street, as have i, and i'm worried that i am being selfish.
but i think that if i am happier (if i do move), then they will be happier too.
my eldest is 7 and youngest is 3, they are both boys.
And another problem is that i dont know exactly where i want to move to, probably the nearest town.
i am so confused at the moment, but have wanted to move away for years, a long time before i had the kids too.
You should follow your dream. Your kids are still very young and will easily settle at school. You arent happy or content so give it a go. You probably wont look back. If it doesnt work you can always go back. You will find that in ten years time where you are now will still have the same people stood in the same place talking the same talk. It sounds like the town is too small for you, you've out grown it. Rather than worrying about the kids missing home, you'll probable find that in years to come it was the best thing for them. My parents moved away from the town where I was born, and when we used to go back and vist, I used to think thank god they moved from there.
I moved to another continent and it didn't change my life - for the better, just by moving from one place to another. I so much wanted it to be possible and feasible, but location doesn't change much, especially since you don't know why exactly you are moving in the first place.
I knew why I am moving away and what I wanted to change, but the location itself didn't do much.
BUT it was the beginning of something better I have to admit.
You know what they say - mommy needs to be happy first, otherwise no one is happy!
They haven't grown up much. The three year old won't even really remember the place when he's grown. Your oldest however, might give you some trouble but within six months to a year tops he should be fine. Don't let that hold you back. If they were teens I might give them more consideration.
Due to circumstances, I've had such major changes forced on me, many, many times.
Despite the fact that you are a parent--and from the sound of it, a single parent--you feel compelled to make this change. Because you don't drive, I have a feeling that you have been hemmed in, in some way, or had your freedoms restricted.
I think your children will be better off if you are happy. Children are not harmed by moving, in and of itself, and the necessity of adapting to new circumstances is often very positive .
There are studies that show that children who are exposed early to travel and moving grow up to be more creative, which makes sense, since they learn to be flexible, tolerant, and to deal with change.
But, as one who has gone through such things, I would caution you to take it step-by-step. Make a plan.
Learning to drive should be part of your plan. Whether or not you have a car, it will give you a sense of accomplishment and control, and increase your options in life.
Hope it goes well for you.
are you single mum?
i think you may be .. sorry if im wrong but maybe like me you feel u need to move to make changes in the hope of something better or a new love or just less lonliness.
ok im english but i moved to malta on my own last March and had an amazing summer met loads a new pepole and i love it here but it didnt cure the fundamental feeling of lonliness i have and for that reason i am set to move again by march next year probably back to the uk but somewhere different.
if you do move its probably best now before the children get to thier teens as i went through alot of changes in my earlyteens with family , schools and moving and i think it made me into a bit of a nomad.. i dnt feel at home anywhere.
i am 33 and have not got the ability within me to settle yet.
i say go for it but once you make your new bed lay in it for the sake of stability for your children as they grow up.. just be sure you are going to the right place do ya homework on neighbours and the area in general to be double sure its the right thing.
I to used to live in a rural town and I moved as soon as i could to the big town 10 miles away. Loved it at first and I suppose I still do. But every now and then I regret it. More so now that I have my own children and they cant enjoy country life as easily. There is a lot to be said for playing in streams and having adventure in the woods.
Wow, I really think you need to go for it! Especially if you have always lived there! This is the best time to go for it I think. Your kids are at an age when it is easy to make new friends. They may be sad at first but don't let this discourage you!
Coming from someone who left home at eightteen, cause I knew that it was not where I needed to be, I moved away, lived there for six years and I am now in the mood to pick a new location.
Moving to a new place was the best thing I could have ever done! I definately recommend it. And I say be brave, move somewhere even further than the next town over. It will change your perspective on life and give you a new beginning :)
Hi, I did it as I had an awful relationship so I ran from him went to a beautiful place where I knew nobody & started over. I am still there & it is still a beautiful place. BUT I miss my old friends so badly it crushes my heart & spirit. I long to bump into old friends that are no longer here & all the while I have dilemma - I am in a better place, but the people weren't better - just the place. So now it's limbo - & I never know whether I should go back. This happened over 10 years ago & my son says he won't go with me if I leave. I have no roots where I am now - people don't understand why I have no family nearby & it's not nice!!