How Do I Get Over Being Raped?!
Question: Ok... So Im Gay, Im 14 And I Was Raped By A 42 Year Old Man About 8 Month's Ago... And Its Torn Apart My Life... I Can Get Over It, I Cant Sleep, Consentrate Or Think Straight. And If I See Anything That Reminds Me Even The Slightest Bit Of What Happend I Break Down In Tears. Any Idea How I Can Forget, or Get Past It? =(
Answers: Ok... So Im Gay, Im 14 And I Was Raped By A 42 Year Old Man About 8 Month's Ago... And Its Torn Apart My Life... I Can Get Over It, I Cant Sleep, Consentrate Or Think Straight. And If I See Anything That Reminds Me Even The Slightest Bit Of What Happend I Break Down In Tears. Any Idea How I Can Forget, or Get Past It? =(
By all means get in touch with a mental health person so you can work through this. It's a horrible thing that happened to you, but it's not your fault. Tell your parents what happened. A 42 year old man has no business doing anything to a 14 year old. Get the authorities involved. It will be easier to deal with once you've found a professional to talk to. Good luck to you. God bless you. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Time.
That's not something you'll forget. Seek some counseling. Don't be ashamed. It's okay to cry, and it is ok to think and/or feel things you've probably never thought and/or felt before. Rape is a serious theft of anyone's humanity. In time, the rawness of it will wear away and you'll be able to go on with your life.
In the meantime, press charges.
Go to http://vaonlinesupport.org/support.html and www.rape-victim-support.com and http://www.rainn.org/ Call (USA)1800 656 HOPE Report the rape to the police as soon as possible: don't even shower (even though you may feel an overwhelming urge to clean yourself), and save all clothing, and anything else which may be contain DNA, or forensic clues. Many perpetrators are brought to justice this way, and removed from society, so that they can't inflict themselves on others. Also, the fresher your memory of the events, and description, the better. It may help to have a friend, or relative with you, to provide support, at this time. The very fact that you have done all you can reasonably do, is often an important first step in the healing process. You don't have to testify in court, if you don't want to. Your statement, the results of tests, etc., are often sufficient by themselves, but, if you are feeling able to cope, your testimony is often helpful to the prosecution, and personally cathartic, although many, quite understandably, prefer to avoid any additional stress. Depending on your area, there may be rape crisis centers, hotlines, or women's refuges/shelters where you can receive counselling. Some find further therapy helpful, later on. Be aware of the possibility of developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, as well. Flashbacks, nightmares, difficulty sleeping, and just staring blankly for long periods of time are some symptoms. For more PTSD info, treatments, and links, see http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 33 - 34.
make that thing into a good one
think of all the other people he could of raped but he picked you that means he thought you were hot...
but did you tell any one you should also see a counselor to help
Oh man... I wished the one who raped you was a handsome man. Too bad.