All I want for Christmas is for my son to take his medication.?!
Question: My son who is 21 has no money because he exhausted his life savings during a bipolar manic episode. Why wont my son give me my request??? Any ideas Y
Answers: My son who is 21 has no money because he exhausted his life savings during a bipolar manic episode. Why wont my son give me my request??? Any ideas Y
Because it is a wonderful feeling to feel free and uninhibited in our manic episodes... I wrote a piece in my notebook today about how much I miss those episodes since I've been restricted by my medications:
"Human connection, human connection, organic connection. Poeticism in its elation, passion is an emotion. Not the false pink association, but grey in explosion, with unidentifiable, brilliant images without sight- only feeling, only heightened perception. When it's right, the mind is perfect- not content, but exhiliration, accomplishment. Wholly personal, unrecognized and secretive satisfaction. Explosion, explosion, explosion. No release from the hot anxiety of passion's perfection is found but to bask in the light of your own creation. I want that back. I would kill to own that kind of emotion again. It is utterly fulfilling; now I am numb. I am a stoic, insignificant member of society, distant from common reality and intimate with the actions of the mind and pen. When the static breaks, I am only angry, furious, frustrated. Abandonment, dissatisfaction, anxiety, pain in every regard. I am far gone from reality. Can I ever return to that lovely fantasy? This "thing" has destroyed whatever once existed of me. It truly is lethal. "
Does this help at all to understand why your son doesn't take his medication?
Because he feels like you are trying to control him.
He is 21 and trying to use that as a grown up that can make his own decisions. I have that problem with my 21 yrs. old daughter, she quit her migraine medicine without me knowing and still has them everyday, very bad. They just want to have their own way good or bad. I have given her ultimatums, either do something responsible and get some help or move out. I am tired of her lying around all day and treating hear as a child, while she does absolutely nothing, but a little part time job. This may seem bad, but i have tried everything. I have made Dr. appointments and made her go.
Doesn't he realize what is wrong with him and want to be better? Does he know all the info. on his situation and what happens. Does he want to keep putting you through this, make sure he gets it and understand on one of his good days. Then push some for him to cooperate. Good luck===
It might be a part of the stigma or feelings of illness. People don't take their medications because they deny that they are ill, and for some they hate the side effects. I dislike the side effects of one of the meds I'm on (Invega) and hope to get it changed soon. Best of luck.
Because he is Bipolar and you won't be able to help him. He has got to want to take the medication and listen to the doctors. I'm so sorry for this and I am sure it's breaking your heart. My cousin is Bipolar and stole all of my grandparents medication and sold it for money. If it gets serious, try and see if he will go to a therapist. He has got to get on his medications or he could be dangerous to himself and break your heart. It's nothing personal so don't be insulted by this. Just try and work with him and don't give up. Best of luck to you and Happy Holidays!
And Your son won't give you your request because he's mentally ill. He can't think clearly, that is a part of mania. He's probably trying to moderate his moods by using drugs and alcohol. Drugs and alcohol are a lot more fun than lithium. If your son is high he probably could give a **** if he's spent all his money. The only way I would know to control him is to get a court order forcing him to take his medication (via injection at the mental health Center). Then of course he will complete treatment and most likely go off his meds sooner or later. I think you're just going to be in for a bumpy ride until he gets to be 35 or 40. I would try loving from a distance. You can't fix it for him. Tough love is the answer in this case. All you can do is love him enough to let him fall on his butt. Until he gets enough lumps to decide taking his medication is better than the bad things that keep happening to him. Sorry mom. I wish I knew better answer. Maybe somebody else does. Oh, almost forgot, don't give you any of your money it will be gone to and he won't care.