Is something wrong with me?!


Question: I feel like no body likes me but I do have friends and it doesnt even seem like they like me but sometimes it does seem it. I kinda feel like everyone is on my back and sometimes I feel like im going to be a failure but im 17 and applying to colleges and going to major in graphic design and i have everything planned but I think too much and just talk in my head alot am i crazy? i sound crazy saying this haha.


Answers: I feel like no body likes me but I do have friends and it doesnt even seem like they like me but sometimes it does seem it. I kinda feel like everyone is on my back and sometimes I feel like im going to be a failure but im 17 and applying to colleges and going to major in graphic design and i have everything planned but I think too much and just talk in my head alot am i crazy? i sound crazy saying this haha.

-I feel like no body likes me - Regardless of what you FEEL, this is simply not true. You are 17, and self-conscious. You may not be the coolest guy ever in the eyes of your peers, but you did just say you have friends. And I'll bet you have a family and God loves you. The family is the group of people that will stay in your life. Everyone in high school will pass from your life, probably as soon as your first year of college, if not, then a few years after. This does not mean that you should blow them off, but it does mean that you should stop defining whether or not you are a failure by their opinion of you. People like people who like themselves, and them. Try focusing on who other people are. Ask them about themselves and listen. See if you like THEM. You may not. You may realize that your standard for liking people is, "Do they like me?" Even if you find you don't think they are very deep or cool or smart, don't throw them away. Just be aware of who they are, not how they make you feel about yourself. If you are focused on others, making their lives better for knowing you, you start to see things clearly. Like why they may treat you badly.

-but I do have friends and it doesnt even seem like they like me but sometimes it does seem it.- Sometimes friends give you a hard time thinking they are funny, or they say things to make themselves look cool at your expense. If it's the first thing, they are true friends than can't read your mind. If it's the second, they are "frenemies".

-I kinda feel like everyone is on my back - Life. Everyone has a problem and they see people to take it out on. But it's really their problem. They just project it onto you.

-and sometimes I feel like im going to be a failure - You MIGHT be heading for failure. But before you can avoid that, you have to know what you are here to achieve. Now purpose is irrelevant if you don't believe in a Creator or a supernatural. If you were an accident, than my advice to you is to make a list of all the things you want to buy or experience in life and just stick with that. There's your purpose. But I think everyone was born for this: Love God, love others, love yourself, be real, find something to do that makes you come alive so you don't live numb. Now the only question is, how are you going to go about the first two? There are so many ways, because we are all so different. What do you love? How can you use it in this way. Make a list of your goals or ideas for goals and what the first steps to those goals or experiences are. You're only 17, you've got time.

-applying to colleges- cool

- and going to major in graphic design - cool

-and i have everything planned- Sorry, life never turns out like you plan it. The best you can have is some things to aim for and one or two things you won't give up on. Then hold onto those things and prepare for the bumpy ride. Five years from now, you will look back and think "Five years ago, did I ever dream that I would be this person, here?"

-but I think too much - impossible!

-and just talk in my head alot - Just go someplace nice and relax randomly alone. Just lay there and try not to worry about things.

-am i crazy? - no, you're at a certain stage

- i sound crazy saying this haha. - no it's a great place to be. Don't get too comfortable in this world. You won't be here forever. Don't get stuck, like most adults.

Sounds like stress. Take an hour or so to just chill.

is this a trick ?

crazy people don't know there crazy and don't go on computers to find out its just a psychological thing your brain is doing

no just stress maybe you should just stay home a day and relax sleep eat tons and just be comfey that always helps me and oh yeah pick me for your favirote.


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I think you're under too much pressure.
Try to relax. you're still a kid.

probly not

You are not crazy you are just stressed out about colllege and anything else on your mind.

Nothings wrong with you its what is called been a teenager and you're growing up, your body is going through changes and well hormones running wild... it will be fine. If you still feel confused and think that you definitely need help then talk to someone.

Nothing is wrong with you. You're probably just suffering from senioritis (not a real disease lol)...which means your just scared that after high school you'll suck at life.

It sounds like you've been pushing yourself too hard, as if you are neglecting yourself from relaxing. When we don't treat ourselves right, we feel unliked.

You are 17. You know what you want to do. You have set your plan in motion. Enjoy hanging out with your friends a little. Do something fun.

no you dont, ive been there before too, you just have to open up and trust in your friends. its you, not your friends. youre probably insecure about yourself, just try to gain more confidence.

Things get better after you graduate highschool. Wait till you get to college! So much better! Highschool is just the beggining. And trust me you will make more friends as you go along. Keep planning ahead of life and dont give up. Good luck!

You're probably not crazy. At 17 yrs old everybody but everybody feels the way u do sometimes. Keep doing what you plan to do with education and soon all these issues should clear up and you will look back and say --- HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAA!!!!!!

No you're not crazy. You have a lot going on, with a new start at college, which can cause anxiety (a new situation to be in that is unfamiliar). Anticipating what this will be like for you might be making you feel unconfident? or unsure of yourself and your abilities? In other words it is fear of the unknown. This is completely normal. You have friends, and I doubt they would bother spending time with you if they really didn't like you. Try to focus on your college course, and put your energy into doing well. You will meet a lot of new people there, and you will make a lot of friends. I hope this helps.

Don't worry brother your not crazy. 17 is a tough year. I'm 21 and i went through the same thing. Everything is very confusing and I am sure you have nothing but constant pressure on you from your family to get into a school and ride the norm train just like they did. Just take a second to relax. Your friends like you but they are confused just like you are. You will be meeting a lot of new people in these next couple years and the experiences you will have may greatly outweigh any other experiences you have had to date. Take a look around, this world is yours now.

There's nothing wrong with you :),
I'm sure there are a lot of people that really like you.

All seems really familiar to me,
I also have times when I doubt if people even like me,
still, I have a few good friends that make me feel like they do like me and that's enough for me :).

Good luck with the Graphic Design studies,
I'm in my first year now :), I'll probably end up majoring in Illustration though.

Noooo!! everybody feels the same, u know what just dont think about it anymore.. and just concentrate,always think positive never let yourself down otheriwise your goona end up worst that what you where on the first place.

The time between high school and college can be pretty stressful. There's so much change going in life and with friends. So don't think that you're going crazy. It's just another transition in life.

You're not crazy, but you are troubled. Feeling everyone's on your back and being afraid of failure must make life pretty tough. There will be reasons why you feel like this which you could explore and heal in counselling/psychotherapy. I hope that your school or the college you end up at will have a counselling service, so you can get the help you need. Please do go and make an appointment as soon as you can.

If nobody liked you, you wouldn't have friends. you say you have friends, so that's that one sorted.
If you think your friends don't like you, ask them. Make it something specific if you think you've done something to upset them.
Everybody thinks they might fail! That's what makes us such imperfect human beings.
The pressure you feel, is it really coming from others (teachers, family, etc) or are you putting unnecessary pressure on yourself?
I always write things down in a journal/diary to get racing thoughts out of my head. Usually once its down on paper, you can move on or look at it more rationally.
You're going to be fine.
If you feel you can't sleep/eat/function, then its time to see someone.

Sometimes your friends and family have other things to think about and seems they don't care, but trust me they care. I know they do because you said they "are on your back". No one wastes time on people they do not care about.
Perhaps failure is not the right word and its just the uncertainty that scares you but you. A failure would mean you are not applying at colleges and have no major at the age of 17.
We all fail at times. Some of us fail many times but each failure teaches us something. We just dust ourselves off and go try again with the lesson from that failure in our pocket.
Hold your head up and good luck. Your future is waiting out there for you.

lol man ... you need to chill out .
u r just okay and much like the pathethic folks out there like me... who are struggling with self esteem - but well time till make us great people - lol ..kidding good luck !

cheers





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