I recently had a miscarriage...?!
Question: i recently had a miscarriage and before i did, i had a very healthy sexual relationship.. now that im ok to have sex again my sexual relationship seems to be going down hill..
its been a while since i had sex but lately ive been feeling "in the mood" but when it comes to it.. i feel like im not ready to have sex..
is this normal? ive never had a miscarriage before this.
i do get horny but when it comes to anything going in (foreplay or sex).. i get very hesitant and dont let it happen.
i dont understand why i feel this way... its like i want it but im scared?
Answers: i recently had a miscarriage and before i did, i had a very healthy sexual relationship.. now that im ok to have sex again my sexual relationship seems to be going down hill..
its been a while since i had sex but lately ive been feeling "in the mood" but when it comes to it.. i feel like im not ready to have sex..
is this normal? ive never had a miscarriage before this.
i do get horny but when it comes to anything going in (foreplay or sex).. i get very hesitant and dont let it happen.
i dont understand why i feel this way... its like i want it but im scared?
This is actually quite a common response to what you have been through. Not all women will experience this after having a miscarriage, but many women do. You have been through a traumatic experience and a loss. It could be, as you say, that although you want to engage in that sort of intimate behavior that you are scared of it, after the miscarriage. My advice to you would be to seek counseling to help you deal with what you have been through. It might also help if you do some work on getting back in touch with your sexual side, teaching yourself that it us OK. Ways to do this include sensual massage, mutual touching where the intent us to explore each other but not necessarily to end in sex (this can also take off any pressure you may be feeling during a sexual situation) and masturbation. This may help you to re-find the things you enjoyed about sex, rather than associating it with pregnancy and loss. Whatever you decide to do, take it slowly at a pace that feels OK to you. Stop when you feel the need to and don't be afraid to talk to your partner about this. Best of luck xxx
You went through a trauma. Keep in mind there was a reason for the miscarriage, something was not right and God took the baby home. It is time to move forward. You can always consider seeing a therapist.
Your body wants it, but your "heart" isn't in it like it was before. Seems like you are grieving. I would be, and probably for a while. If I were standing next to you I'd give you a long, warm hug and a kiss on the cheek.
I hope you'll be okay. Probably you will in time....
everyone reacts differently to a miscarriage just remember it is a very stressful time for both of you and if you give yourself some time im sure you will come around
I lost two children to miscarriage/premature birth. After the second time...my sexuality took a nose-dive. It took counseling to find out how deep my fear of another loss was...and to get past it. You are in my heart and prayers. Hugs, Gina C.
it sounds like your scared of getting pregnent again. i bet you wanted the baby so nowyou dont wantto have sex because you dont want to get hurt like you did when you had the miscarriage
if you really want a baby you should keep trying if not just take the pill or use a condom sex is a good way to relieve stress
big hugs honey,i lost 4 babies this way and its all very normal to feel this way.
Try some form of birth control for a while ,till you relax and then plan on the next one.
relax ,you will get there i promise