I'm too old for it to matter now but is there hope?!
Question: I just turned 30. The day of that transition from my 20's to 30 I guess I didn't get depressed... just kind of looking around and scared of the wasted time and lack of things to show for it. 30 years down the proverbial drain. What can I do now? I feel as though my whole youth is gone and now I am in the middle of young and old...It's been a month of unhappiness.
Have you ever felt this way? What situation caused it? How did you fix it?
Have you ever helped someone else out of a rut like this?
Answers: I just turned 30. The day of that transition from my 20's to 30 I guess I didn't get depressed... just kind of looking around and scared of the wasted time and lack of things to show for it. 30 years down the proverbial drain. What can I do now? I feel as though my whole youth is gone and now I am in the middle of young and old...It's been a month of unhappiness.
Have you ever felt this way? What situation caused it? How did you fix it?
Have you ever helped someone else out of a rut like this?
I'm 32...been there, done that EXACTLY the same nightmare when I turned 30.
Guess what, though? Life is NOT over! Who cares what you have or have not accomplished?
Contrary to popular belief, most women have NOT settled into a long-term career, family, and bought their own house by 30.
It's all good.
its not your age, its how you act. Get the hell on xbox live and own some youngins!
About to turn 46, and have experienced it several times. You just accept that you may have wasted some time and try to be better at using the time that you have wisely.
i feel this every b-day i have. i always knew i would die..... yes Die. by the time my 30th b-day came around. i began feeling this way at 15. im now 27......... and every year is like a countdown. thankfully i have found some new hope, and can actually see my life past 30.
at 25 ---- i had calculated a whole "how many days are left of my life" thing.
dont worry dear, life dosent end at 30, or at least i'm hopeing it dosent now,
as for ur rut.......... ive been the one who people have tryed to help through this, and all i kniw is that its frustrating, and people dont understand.
best of luck to u ..... and i think i believe it will pass for u too. sorry i cant be certain.
Yes, there is a cause for these feelings called "turning 30". I felt exactly the same way when I turned thirty. Then I decided to accept that I was a total loser and I would never amount to anything. I stopped trying to achieve things just to please other people and started setting more realistic goals for myself. As a result, I made a great deal of progress in my career. By the way your whole youth isn't really gone. The time for middle age keeps getting set back but I don't think it starts until 50.
Hey I'm 32. Welcome to the best decade of your life.
The day you turned 30 is not the big deal you are making it out to be. On that day, you were exactly one day older than you were the day before, exactly like everyone else breathing on the planet earth.
I didn't really enjoy my 20s like I hoped I would. An accident at age 22 made most of that decade a period of rehabilitation, growth, glory, and of course pain. A lot of that.
Your life is what you make it. Here's to a good one!
I've never been in this category before (not that I'm afraid of what I might learn about myself). I just didn't think of myself as an authority on the subject of mental health. I'm going to turn 53 next month, & I could write a book about the time I've wasted in my life, acute chronic depression, borderline personality disorder, & drug abuse. Most people may not be receptive to what turned my life around, but I'm about to share it with you anyway. Giving my life over to God (letting Him be my guide, instead of my desires), is what saved me from myself. I grew up in a United Methodist church, & when I turned 18, I decided to cast it aside to live life my own way. It took 3 failed marriages, having 3 children growing up with nothing because their mother & I spent everything we had on marijuana & alcohol -- then burdened my parents financially to pay our rent, utilities, & food bills, before I wised up. I've only been clean nearly 3 years, but the image of my past is enough to keep me that way. I'm now back in the very same church that I left. The "Prodigal son" has returned. My mother & my youngest sister were always strong in their faith, & I'm sure it was them praying to God not to give me up for lost that kept the lines open. I had to reach a low that I never thought I'd ever reach before I could find the resolve to never let myself go back there again. The answer to my ordeal (& yours) is to make the best of the time that's left, & stop dwelling on the past. Use that experience as I do -- trying to show a bad example that someone else can learn from. Have I ever helped someone else out of a rut like this? Brother, I hope I'm doing that right now -- for you, & maybe even someone else. This is my way of "laying treasures up in Heaven". Thank you for the question. If this helps anyone, then baring my soul has been worth it. My prayers are with you.
The age that was the worst for me was the day I turned 25. I realized that morning that I was no longer the carefree kid I was. I had responsibilities. I was married. I had a daughter. I was an Air Force Captain. I flew a 500,000 pound 8 engined behemoth know as a B52, with 5 other people on board who life depended on me. I had debts. I could no longer call my parents to find out what to do. I was really depressed and scared.
Then I turned 26. All that went away. I was having the time of my life. I was doing new things everyday. My daughter was growing astronomically. The games and things I did in my youth were just good stories to tell when at parties we would end up playing can you top this. Life was interesting and fun.
I am officially 59 now. I tell everyone I am sixty, who cares. I am alive and living large. I will be 60 on March 15Th. It will be just another birthday. But I really celebrate June 17th as my birthday. That is the day 8 years ago my oncologist said I was officially in remission from non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. If I can beat cancer everything else is unimportant.
My age of tragedy was 25, yours is 30. As you grow older you will discover birthdays will come and go, but you will grow older. Important things to you today will change tomorrow. Life is fun, like I said I am 60 and almost a third of my life has passed me by.