Please tell me if my feelings are wrong?!


Question: I have spent the last 3 years of my life isolating myself from friends and family because I gained 80lbs.I went through a BAD/EMMOTIONAL breakup and ate to deal with the pain. I didnt completely isolate myself and even tried to hang out with some of the same people who accepted me when I was thinner. Guys that used to love to be around me and call me...dont call me or even see how im doing since they saw how much weight I gained. I was so very depressed about gaining weight that i even considered suicide..the weight gain really took a toll on me. Now i finally decided to take charge of my life and lose weight one and for all! Now I find myself very impatient about showing those who shunned me how I am going to be beautiful again. I want to party and go out and show the world what a new person I am. My question is...should I forget about showing those people..and not focus so much on my looks and what others think about me.?


Answers: I have spent the last 3 years of my life isolating myself from friends and family because I gained 80lbs.I went through a BAD/EMMOTIONAL breakup and ate to deal with the pain. I didnt completely isolate myself and even tried to hang out with some of the same people who accepted me when I was thinner. Guys that used to love to be around me and call me...dont call me or even see how im doing since they saw how much weight I gained. I was so very depressed about gaining weight that i even considered suicide..the weight gain really took a toll on me. Now i finally decided to take charge of my life and lose weight one and for all! Now I find myself very impatient about showing those who shunned me how I am going to be beautiful again. I want to party and go out and show the world what a new person I am. My question is...should I forget about showing those people..and not focus so much on my looks and what others think about me.?

HI
have i got a story for you That will make you feel differently about your situation
i was over weight and you know i was depressed about it i was ashamed to go out side even and work I never was over weight all my life but then it kinna just creeped up on me ,
I just did not want people to see me then a family member took a snap shot of me and OMGGGGGGGG i could not even believe it was me.
I took charge and vowed i would start a different way of life I started walking 5 miles a day beforw work also i started eatting the right foods and watching mt intake and drank plenty of water in 4 months i went from 188 to 151 see never mind the people you have no confidence in your self forget that concentrate on your self and everything else will fall into place i feel so much better about myself now I can't believe how great i feel physically and mentallly
no matter how hard it seems you can do it i'am 47 and i walk every day except sunday ,i just started doing arobics after work so i mat start to walk 4 times a week and arobics 3 times ,,, what ever you do ia'm cheering for you cause i know you can do it
best wishes

hi,

You are right on your wronge point.

Be Positive

You should just be yourself hun, if people want you to be someone your not get rid of them there not friends and if they were real friends they would accept you as who you are not who your not! and same to your famili x

I think any time you want to make a change in yourself for the positive...you should do it for you...not for anyone else. Good luck to you! You can do it! I have faith!

So you want a sweet revenge. Well, at least you knew who your true friends are. Let of of the negative feelings. Just lose that weight and move on.

The fact that you ask these questions shows there is hope for you. If you have the presence of mind to ask yourself if you are crazy, then you are likely not.
When you have lost the weight, and done the makeover, start fresh, new life, new friends, new relationships.
When you were overweight, you found out who your reaf friends were. REAL friends would not shun you because you gained weight. REAL friends see you for who you are inside. People who aren't worth your time are the one's who judge you by physical appearance. That goes doubly for lovers.

Don't give up on the goal - love yourself and believe that you can achieve whatever goals you set. But don't do it to show people up, that just means that they won! Those people that ignored you when you gained weight are shallow and don't deserve your friendship. Do this for yourself. Prove to yourself that you can take control of your lifestyle. So while I don't think you should focus on what other people think of you, I don't think that that means you have to give up on feeling great about yourself.

u are worth morethan just whatthe outside world sees it is your souo and heart thatmatters most it matters what u think of yourself not whatothers think. its great u are taking control of your life go and enjoy being you just always be yourself no matter if u weigh 500 pounds or 90 . i do know how it feels to have people look at u differnt because how much u weigh i am not skinny or fat now i am medium and that is fine with me . if guys don't talk to me beause of weight to hell with hem u deserve better we all do

I had a different answer for you before I read your edit. Now that I've read that edit I would say try to reconnect with your old friends. I have a feeling that they weren't shunning you or leaving you out, but the exact opposite.

Remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder that's you always put you first if people can't accept you for who you are they truly are not worth your time.Or deserve you.

Hi, you are Love incarnate - no matter what you weigh.
Be positive, use what ever emotions help you loose weigh. It just goes to show how shallow some of your old friends were. At least you now know where their coming from.
Start having fun, meet genuine people who just like you for who you are.
Don't worry what others think about you, ask your angels/guides to help you meet some new true friends, mean it when you ask them.It does work.
I'm sure you are still gorgeous, let go of your fears, they will only hold you back.
I have no doubt that if you want to loose weight you will, but do it carefully, be skill full and will full.
The world is your oyster.

hey you go girl. what ever you do in this world always do it for you. be strong and love your self first,the rest will fall in place .for sure get healthy,and that does not mean super skinny,just healthy.I'm a 9/10,used to be a 16/18.after a couple kids,and not taking time for me.now i got it together and eat better,stay active and most of all,stay positive.you are what you think you are .if you tell your self your fat and alone then you'll start to believe that .instead ,every day you tell your self your gonna be healthy and happy and you will be i promise.that's the way are brain works,it's your head and your life, TAKE CONTROL!!!GOD loves you and so do I.

Well don't go out with those people who didn't care for you wen you badly needed them.. Just ignore them.. Had I been you(which I hope I'll be in some years), I'll really teach all of them a lesson.. but euh, I don't give wrong advice.. so just ignore them...

Start life AFRESH with the good friends and be good to the good ones and don't repeat their mistakes....

So, what are you waiting for, just shut down this pc and go out, have some fun dear... you need it.... and deserve to be happy..!!!!

Smile...!!!

first of all, feelings are never 'wrong'. They are either helpful or destructive.

You MUST get out and start living your young life again. That is the only way the weight will fall off. You may want to start by joining weight watchers or some other 'group'. You'll make great new friends and meet some very courageous women.

Believe me darling, there is a lot more to being a full, productive, intelligent, happy woman than what dress size you wear.

Improve your life and the weight loss will follow.

who cares what anyone else thinks? Are you happy? What makes YOU happy? If losing weight makes you happy then ultimately you will be healthier. Obviously those guys only liked you for 1 reason. Why waste your time by continuing to make it your problem? Stop living in the past and start moving on. The future is what matters now.





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