I'm worried i'm making myself look worse than i am...?!
Question: when i went to see a psychiatrist/counsellor/social worker person recently, i was nearly crying before i even went into the room, and almost as soon as i sat down i started crying. i feel like such an idiot. but i just get so scared and nervous around people i don't know, especially when they're going to kinda interview me, and about distressing topics. i was so worried, i didn't sleep well the night before. once again i cried through the whole thing and couldn't look at her. i'm worried it's making me look like i suffer worse depression than i actually do. yes, i get low enough to think of suicide, and i think about it a lot, but most of the time i seem ok, i'm reasonably 'happy' around my friends, i laugh a lot around my friends. i do enjoy some things. and although i get nervous around people, i don't normally get so nervous that i break down.
i'm worried that they'll think i'm worse than i am. what do i do?
Answers: when i went to see a psychiatrist/counsellor/social worker person recently, i was nearly crying before i even went into the room, and almost as soon as i sat down i started crying. i feel like such an idiot. but i just get so scared and nervous around people i don't know, especially when they're going to kinda interview me, and about distressing topics. i was so worried, i didn't sleep well the night before. once again i cried through the whole thing and couldn't look at her. i'm worried it's making me look like i suffer worse depression than i actually do. yes, i get low enough to think of suicide, and i think about it a lot, but most of the time i seem ok, i'm reasonably 'happy' around my friends, i laugh a lot around my friends. i do enjoy some things. and although i get nervous around people, i don't normally get so nervous that i break down.
i'm worried that they'll think i'm worse than i am. what do i do?
This is these people's area of expertise-they have the training and experience to correctly judge the severity of your condition. It can't hurt to state what you have said here-that you are nervous about the session and didn't sleep well and that your responses differ from your norm. If you don't trust the therapist they can't help you, so consider finding someone you are more comfortable with.
Believe me, they've seen it all. This reaction is more common then you think. At least you're speaking to somebody. It's the first step. You'll get there : )
If you are or have contemplated suicide, then your depression IS bad. Try making a list of things you want to talk about with you counselor so that you remember everything you want to say. Talk to him/her about your suicidal thoughts. I think your main problem with the interveiw or session is anxiety. Talk to them about that.
I've had to see a phsyciatrist about some of my "wiring problems" and I found that unless I made myself seem worse than I am, I wasn't taken seriously. If you seem really bad your are more likely to get treatment.
However, if you really don't wantg to seem that bad, maybe next time you see her, tell her you're not usually that bad, and that you were just on a downer that day. HYowevever, i would reccommend just leaving it, as that way atg least you'll get treatment.
Hope things get better for you.
Don't worry about that; they are trained to understand things like that. Worst that can happen is that they prescribe treatment that you don't really need, which just means it won't help and after a couple months they'll try something else.
I _highly_ recommend a strict health-food diet and a vigorous exercise routine - strength/posture training and cardio. Take fish oil pills too. Of course it will take time to work your way up to a near optimal diet and even longer to work up to a good fitness regimen but you will feel some results right away.
I'm not saying don't seek other treatments; I'm saying that diet and exercise are crucial and WILL HELP CONSIDERABLY. They will directly change the way your brain functions, over time. You will become chemically happier and less anxious.
Feel free to email me through here if you ever want diet or exercise advice. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety for more than 2 decades and I'm getting pretty okay at it.
you wise up .. dont think to much its really great to meet new people i'm sorry to hear about you depression my sister went though this it got really bad last year but she's sort of her self again, her depression and self confidents was really low for 2 years dont let your self go down that hill
and if u say you have a goodlife consintrate on the good things
I wouldn't worry.. their job is to help you, not to judge you. They're used to seeing people who aren't at their best... so just concentrate on you, and don't worry about them or what they're thinking/feeling. It's their job.
The same thing happened to me, but it didn't worry me about what they thought of me crying. For me it was a release of emotions and the fact that i was going to get help. They must see this every day, i promise. Please don't worry about it.
Keep going to see the counsellors because they do a WONDERFUL job and they will help you. Your crying will only tell them that you are in a vulnerable state and need some help.
I am great now and back to my old self. You will be too soon.
Happy Christmas and take care. Think of 2008 as a new fresh beginning.
It sounds like there is a more serious problem....be honest with your therapist no matter what!! If you aren't honest then you aren't going to get the treatment you need...I felt like an idiot too, but now I am doing great. I found out that I am bipolar (manic depression). I am not a psychopath like some people were calling me...I can't handle alot of stress that is all. BE HONEST TO YOUR THERAPIST!
Its good to let the psychiatrist see you as you really are so he can do what is best for you.Dont worry about looking worse in front of these people , they know what they are doing and hopefully will sort you out . Spend more time with your friends and laugh more , I can sympathise with you as I have gone through similar , I think everyone does at some time in their life ............ take care and merry xmas xx
Crying is natural when you are depressed. I get nervous around some people too. Don't worry about crying in front of a councillor. They are used to it.
I hope everything works out for you and that you will soon feel better.
Hi - my advice would be to say exactly what you just said to the psychiatrist - maybe even copy it down so you won't be worried about expressing it properly. i have a different type of problem in that i have a phobia of doctors - so every time i go my blood pressure is through the roof, although i'm sure its fine the rest of the time, quite ironic really. anyway, if you explain it'll make you less nervous, and that will help you to relax more and show you're not as depressed as you might have appeared first time. good luck - hope you find happiness soon peacex
I feel like a total idiot. I misspelled my girlfriend's name and now she is avoiding me. You don't have the worst story here.
i dont think you have to go to a psychiatrist/counsellor/social worker or whomsoever, because you know ur problems & try overcoming it, you said ur comfortable with ur friends, so wen depressed& wen alone speak with dear ones & call them by phone, suicide is not the end for everything as god has sent you for some good reason. :-)
Stop worrying about it. I bet she/he has seen a lot worse. A lot of people burst into tears in front of counselors, etc. on their first session. It's hardly surprising when a person is carrying so much grief and stress and suddenly they have chance to talk to someone who wants to help them. You will get assessed over time, anyway, not just on your first visit.
Try getting some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to go along with your counseling. It's very effective for depression and anxiety. You can even buy books on it, like "Feeling Good", which is like having a pocket therapist. It will help you sort out your thinking patterns.
Good luck x
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