How do i get my anger out with out harming my self?!
Question: my best m8 fancies my boyfriend and wont let it go that he doesnt like her ,but it may seem that he does, in result of this i have tended to harm my self and i dont want to do it anymore so how can i let my anger out differently.
Answers: my best m8 fancies my boyfriend and wont let it go that he doesnt like her ,but it may seem that he does, in result of this i have tended to harm my self and i dont want to do it anymore so how can i let my anger out differently.
Why harm yourself..... to force him towards you?
Are you sure about these feelings of your friend and boyfriend? Or are you just thinking these things..... sometimes that happens cause your friend is probably pretty or spontaneous. Maybe your man is a little too friendly.
If your man is too friendly with her, let him know how u feel. Tell him he has to pay you attention in front of her and show her who he's with.
But if things are the way u say they are..... try to move on. There's 8,000,000 men out there. Someone is bound to be your other half.
I also read books of encouragement, self esteem, and how to progress myself. It helps me with more knowledge and the man i'm with, sees that there's no stopping me. I can leave him at anytime and I can do it with my head held up.
Keep your head up, girl!
shout or cry?
get a punching bag
Exercise.. you can release all that anger by doing exercise. Maybe join a gym and use their punching bags. Sorry to hear this, but at least your not out hurting anyone. Hurting yourself isn't good either. Try the exercise, or running. Best wishes.
See if you can learn more on meditation and yoga. I was very sick in the past but thanks to relaxing with yoga and meditation I have control now. I'm not healed, but have control...Good luck
See self harm, and anger management, in sections 16, and 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris
it is a individual thing maybe the gym would help or anything that lets you get the feelings out painting poetry any ting you can think of does not have to make seance just has to work
good luck
It's gonna be hard, but what you have to do is not be angry.You've have already let your anger out in many ways. If you continue to do this, you are letting them torture you.Go to church or something.(Seventh Day Adventist churches are awesome)
Go for long walks, do something fun to take your mind off self.
Do these things with your boy friend, learn to trust and share views open and honestly.
Self harm usually is because you are feeling some kind of pain.
Self harm also is a form of divertion, so I think you need to learn to use very positive diversions, and building self esteem, and an open mind, sharing it with your fellow is a good start.
Also go see a doctor and explain what you feel, but again telling your boyfriend, with out getting angry, and asking him to share ideas of how to do things together more, so can build on what you have.
GET help.
If you do these things and you still feel jealous, then get out and get busy, helping others , even getting a pet, so you learn to share better, and RELAX, even get healthy by walking or caring for your pet etc.
Sandy
It's important to recognize what your motivation is in harming yourself - if it is to capture attention versus expressing anger, then there are different approaches.
Express your feelings: try writing (journaling), drawing or talking to someone. Talking with your boyfriend seems like a good start to figure out where the insecurities are in the relationship.
Be well.
There are many way to re-route your anger. You could do exercise (ie walking, go jogging) If you can get hold of a bunch bag they are good, I bought one and when im mad I go and hit it and pretend its the person who has most annoyed me. Also is your into something like music or poems maybe write one saying how you feel. A few years ago someone gave me an elastic band to put on my wrist and everytime I was about to cut myself I would pull on it as it is a pain like a cut but doesnt do anything to your skin
try talking about your angry feelings. get support . And talk to someone you trust.
Don't be alone when your angry either.