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Question: I hope its not to long.
I was abused as a child in every way you can think off, now I raised my child the oppisite.I got married and he always told me what I was doing wrong.Granted I was but I have severe deppresion and I always went to work and took care of our daughter, there is not one day that goes by I dont tell here I love her.
I finally went back to school , I have dropped out 3 times but I found a way that works for me I do it online.You see i never even finished 7 grade but I passed the test to be addmited English is my fourth language. I am fromBelgium originally.
I did all I can to overcome everything but it seems its not enough. He and his family say we schould already have a house and I work crappy jobs.. its just been very hard for me to get where I am today. I know I would be futher in my life if all that would not have happend.They trat me like crap like I am trash and I feel like it, so am?Is it true?I have no family or friends to ask. S about the spelling. Thanks
Answers: I hope its not to long.
I was abused as a child in every way you can think off, now I raised my child the oppisite.I got married and he always told me what I was doing wrong.Granted I was but I have severe deppresion and I always went to work and took care of our daughter, there is not one day that goes by I dont tell here I love her.
I finally went back to school , I have dropped out 3 times but I found a way that works for me I do it online.You see i never even finished 7 grade but I passed the test to be addmited English is my fourth language. I am fromBelgium originally.
I did all I can to overcome everything but it seems its not enough. He and his family say we schould already have a house and I work crappy jobs.. its just been very hard for me to get where I am today. I know I would be futher in my life if all that would not have happend.They trat me like crap like I am trash and I feel like it, so am?Is it true?I have no family or friends to ask. S about the spelling. Thanks
Wow, I apologize for the way we humans treat each other. You are hurting badly. We feell your pain, but ONLY YOU can stop it.
Remember:
1. Each of us is born good and that can not change. What we do and what is done to us is something else (actions), but it does not change who we are.
2. We all have dignity and are unique. Since the world began and until it ends there will not be anyone like you. You will leave a mark on humanity. Special, huh!
3. You deserve respect.
4. You need to assert yourself and demand this respect.
5. As you give respect, again demand it from others.
6. Our self concept is shot when we are used, so what?
7. Move one, forget the past. It is gone and we can not bring it back. The future, we don't know, so live in the present.
8. Life is not fair, ouch! We are imperfect and our actions are imperfect. That includes your husband and his family.
9. Love yourself and others will love you!
10. Know that you will never be alone. God is always with you. He gave us will and some people abuse it. But we are always with Him and He is with us.
11. Look for the positive in your life. When you get zapped with a negative, turn it into a POSITIVE. If they tell you you have a crappy job,for example, say, Look at who's judging, are you perfect or something? Let bad comments slide off of you. Ignore them. Smile to yourself and think: BORING!
STOP comparing your self to what others think of you!!!!!!!!!!!
Hummmm. Let's see; the positives in your paragraph.( The capitals are what you don't say, but are the POSITIVES.
I was abused BUT I SURVIVED. I RAISED MY CHILD. I GOT MARRIED.He told me what I was doing wrong YET I KEPT GOING AND SUCCEEDED! I have severe depression AND I ALWAYS WENT TO WORK AND TOOK CARE OF OUR DAUGHTER. (I like the way you say OUR daughter, not my daughter or his daughter. Says something good about you!)
I TELLL HER I LOVE HER. I WENT TO SCHOOL EVEN THOUGH ALL ODDS WERE AGAINST ME! I pased the test, and English is my 4th language. I AM REALLY, REALLY INTELLEGENT! I have not family or friends to ask, BUT I HAVE MYSELF, GOD AND MY DAUGHTER.
It sounds like your husband and his family enjoy abusing you. It is illegal to abuse a person. It is a felony. If I were you, I'd call the police and report this psychological abuse. Get his family out of your hair. Get you husband straightened out. If he deserves you, he'd better treat you like a human, with dignity and respect. If he won't do it. LEAVE. THERE IS A PLACE TO GO, FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER. Go to a shelter for you and your daughter. In Texas, the state will pay for you to get help, pay your bills, support you, if you are abused. I am sure that other states or nations provide that protection for the innocent.
Finally, YOU don't DESERVE the punishment that they are giving you.
Remember all of us are with you, cheering you on. You are in our prayers. Ask God and immediately, He will act, but allow HIm to act in you 100%, because, if you don't He will not intervene in your life; He respects your will.
Good-luck and God bless you. Enough is enough!!!!!!!
you have me as a friend
yeh my family tells me the same thing
you know what., theyhave some of their own problems
they just LOVE to tell everyone else what our prblems are
stay strong
do right
and NO ONE
can tell yu are a bad person
be happy with YOU
Sorry this must be hard for you if it is so, it sounds made up to me so can I please have my two points and be done with it? I don't think you need to try to get a disabled check out of this do you?
sorry about all this! you are not trash or any of the names you said. you just think this because of everything that has happened to you.
If what i am reading is correct--i would say you a hero--and great humanitarian--a survivor--above most --have you consisted writing--as a hobby--
Hey you know what! we are not so different after all! I get beat to and get blamed for things i didnt even do! so what you can do is make it a motivation for yourself! what i do is i just think about my future child! I want to make sure that he doesnt experience what i experienced growing up! keep going to school and get your education! education can help you get a decent job, friends a good life and if you want revenge from your family remember "SUCCESS IS THE BEST FORM OF REVENGE" good luck with your life and merry christmas!
Not much.
You need more help then this site can give you. Please if possible talk to your clergy or call one of these help lines. You are doing all the right things.
You sound like a strong woman. You've been through a lot, yet you have kept going to improve your life and to provide a good life for your daughter. You're obviously also intelligent since you know four languages...that's incredible. Don't listen to people who try to put you down. It sounds like you're making things work for you and your daughter. If your husband is treating you like that, I would suggest talking to him about how you feel when him and his family put you down. If that doesn't work, try getting some marital counseling to work things out...if that doesn't work, you might want to consider getting out of the relationship. It's not healthy for you or your daughter to be around people who constantly put you down. If you have no place to go, you could look in the phonebook to see about going to women's shelter in the area...shelters usually take mothers and children in together so you wouldn't have to be separated from your daughter.
No matter what though, just remember, you are NOT crap and you are NOT trash. You have dealt with a lot and have survived and are now working to provide a good life for your daughter. Good luck to you and hope this helps.
i m so sorry but many hav suffered like that including me.i never left education now i m facing tough prbs in my 12 th grade bcz of severe depression and anxiety but i just know i hav to continue studies.i did studies all the time working so hard ,sometimes i remmeber myself lost in my studies and just can't imagine how i made to the present .truely destroyed and bullied i looked and went forward.its hard to deal when the abusers is your own blood.i seriousy feel destroyed when such things happened with me.hang on and be brave.i remeber the some guy like me who suffered like this and now is among the top professionals of his country He said to me once "i know wat my own blood relatives did with me but one day will come when they will look at me and imagine how i reached there"... HE took revenge and that revenge only resulted in his own benefits and the one who destroyed him even today his abuser when he comes in front of him,he tells him wat he did with him and now that abuser is just helpless and can't say anything excepting saying "i m sorry"... so pls as the earlier person said "SUCCESS IS THE SWEETEST REVENGE"..
Your already doing great!
the amount of Money you have or the worth of what you own are not what's important!
you have come along way and will progress even further.
don't rush it, just stay the course and you will get whre you want to be in time.