What do you do if it seems the whole world is rejecting you ?!
Question: because the internet and myspace and internet forums represent the whole of the world does it not ?
because people i make contact with on yahoo answers, myspace, and other network sites, just a handfull of people, that ive spoken to for a while and thought id made contact with...have just stopped talking with me or contacting me........appearing permenantly offline.........not iming me anymore through messenger.
people , ( u.s girls) stopped talking to me, then i discovered they deleted me off their myspace.
its like theres some stigma been associated with me, and people are being influenced to reject me.....not contact me anymore.....even though, i can't prove it.
this is really hitting me hard because im 30, with borderline personality disorder, i live alone...have no one to turn to...am lonely and isolated.
ive never made any friends in life or been in a relationship ever..
alot of hellish things have happened to me..bullying...sexual abuse..assaults. criminal record
Answers: because the internet and myspace and internet forums represent the whole of the world does it not ?
because people i make contact with on yahoo answers, myspace, and other network sites, just a handfull of people, that ive spoken to for a while and thought id made contact with...have just stopped talking with me or contacting me........appearing permenantly offline.........not iming me anymore through messenger.
people , ( u.s girls) stopped talking to me, then i discovered they deleted me off their myspace.
its like theres some stigma been associated with me, and people are being influenced to reject me.....not contact me anymore.....even though, i can't prove it.
this is really hitting me hard because im 30, with borderline personality disorder, i live alone...have no one to turn to...am lonely and isolated.
ive never made any friends in life or been in a relationship ever..
alot of hellish things have happened to me..bullying...sexual abuse..assaults. criminal record
Try to remain positive and focus on yourself. If you're not happy with yourself, that will show, and people will not enjoy spending time with you. Think of it as a cause-and-effect. What you project is what you get back.
Do you have close relatives who you can look towards for support and/or friendship? If not, you really need to go out and interact with people. Perhaps join a group, or a club where you feel you can meet people that you think you can get along with. If there are no clubs around your area, I suggest taking some kind of self-development classes (in an area you're interested in developing). It seems that the bullying and abuse you endured when you were younger has affected you as an adult.
It is hard and lonely to live an isolated life. I'm not sure about whether or not you've spoken to anybody about your past, but if not, it might be a good idea to talk to someone (friend, counsellor), because in order to move forward, you need to be able to face and let go of your past. Anyway, I wish you luck and work from within to find happiness.
Forget myspace, that isn't a life.
Tell your doctor that your struggling e.g. couciling may work.
It doesn't always work, then maybe try anti-depressents.
Once your fully focused, draw a draft of what your good at and GET A JOB!
After, try going to some adult fitness clubs to meet new people and get healthy; look on the web for ones close by.
If you want to get rid of the criminal record, equal its amount with carity work e.g. helping at a shelter.
good luck, I hope it helps.
I've been reading your questions over the past weeks and I don't know if you realise it but you are getting steadily worse. You come across as desperate and needy but NOT in a nice way. People will help you but not if you smother them and demand to be liked. With no offence but you can't keep cashing in on your past - you have to let go and live for NOW and what you CAN acheive - not what has happened and what you haven't achieved. You are letting your past hold you back and the only person that can change that is you. I would get back in touch with a mental health worker and work with them to get you back out into the outside world. The cyberworld on you PC is not real life and will ultimately do more harm than good. You need to meet real people and build your confidence. I'm sure you're a really nice guy with alot to offer in friendship if ony you'd allow the real you to shine through and not the clingy overbearing character that comes across on here xxxx
I'm going through what you're going through. It's really tough. My friend told me that the people who are mean for no reason are wrong-doers & ignorant.
You're the only one who can change your life. Stop looking to other people to solve your problems.
Dear Rochefor,
My heart goes out to you. I just want you to know that you are not alone. There are many people in this world going through something simular and there are many people in this world that love you without even knowing you.
Let them get to know you, the real you. Not the one that has a crimal record or personality disorder. That is not who you are. These things don't make you ...you.
Alone the fact that you were hurt, shows me that you are a very caring person. Focus on the good things about you; the more you like yourself, the more you will expereince others liking you too.
Many blessings your way
hi roch!!!
you are certainly wrong in thinking that internet and myspace represent whole of the world...
there are still people.... real people who can be contacted and communicated without the need of internet...
let me tell you one thing buddy... the very people who you find on internet are also victims of problems like you are having in your personal life. people who think that internet is the world have actually drifted away from the "real world". everybody out here is a victim of lonliness, rejection in some way or the other so we find a way out through internet by making false contacts..... this is the real truth my friend..
don't think that you are lonely... nobody is lonely. God is always at one's side. just take some time out to pray daily. dont be bothered about other people accepting you. let god accept you as a good human being. be kind, be honest follow the law, respect ladies. and allways do right. your good deeds will be counted at the end. it will also help u make a nice impression on the people around you. people don't notice anything untill there's a change in it. change yourself and you will see the difference in their attitude towards you.
don't forget to pray.... god and time heals everything!!
go for a new life.
all the best
People with borderline personality disorder do sometimes face prejudice, it's true, but so do the rest of us because of who we are. Many of these people who appear to be 'rejecting' you have their own problems. It's not always about you! (Although it may feel like it sometimes.) Ask your doctor to refer you to a good psychotherapist. Take responsibility for your life...we all have good bits and bad bits. A lot of us have suffered bullying and abuse; it's important to learn how to stand up for yourself. You're feeling abandoned...but you're not alone. Most people who aren't thick-skinned have been there at one time or another. Ask yourself if you're behaving inappropriately towards others, and deal with it - but don't let it damage your self-esteem. Work on your physical health - that will help your mental health.
Good luck.
Oh God Bless you,Im sorry to hear of you,r problems,Try not to feel so downhearted im sure that all the problems you,ve had in you,r young life must have left you with these terrible thoughts of rejection,Please talk to someone that can help you to get these things out of you,r sysyem .There is help out there ,start by talking to you,r G.P.There are good people out there ,sometimes when they dont understand people prefer to ignore things.but you must try to help you,r self by not keeping you,r self isolated,and lonely,Get out and find help and im sure you will find friends too when you you,r self stop hating you,rself .and living in that auful world you live in.God Bless you and i pray you will soon be living a good and happy life. Make it you,r resolution to change things for YOU.
Merry Christmas!!!! I still see you on here but I'm often too busy to answer. I work such crap hours!!
Sorry to hear you're having these problems... Tough break... People are right to say MySpace etc. is not the entire world, not at all! Some people don't even have a computer!
I think you could look at doing some volunteering, I think that would help. Try not to focus too much on your own troubles... There are always others worse off... If your life is a mess devote it to helping others. I believe you will feel better in the end. Good luck.
I would not let it worry you.
The internet is not real life. People on the internet can be anyone, and people often pretend to be people they are not.
So you can't really rely on people following up on conversations with you if they are not who they said they were- they are play acting.
You need to converse with real people from real life - that way you can see who you are dealing with.