Moved back home for boyfriend and now we broke up..how do I get past this regret!
Question: Last year (my freshman year) of college I transferred to a school near home mostly to be with my boyfriend. I went from living on campus to living at home. We recently broke up and I am starting to have major regrets. I didn't like the first college I went to, but I feel like if it weren't for him, maybe I would have transferred to another school that was still away from home and still live on campus. I feel like I gave up on the real college experience just because of him, now I am bored living at home and don't have many friends at school. It hurts to hear high school friends talk about their college experiences. I feel like mine just doesn't add up. I do not want to transfer again because I don't want to waste my time or money with the progress I have made so far toward my degree. How can I resolve this resentment toward him and my regret for this? I wish I could turn back time!
Answers: Last year (my freshman year) of college I transferred to a school near home mostly to be with my boyfriend. I went from living on campus to living at home. We recently broke up and I am starting to have major regrets. I didn't like the first college I went to, but I feel like if it weren't for him, maybe I would have transferred to another school that was still away from home and still live on campus. I feel like I gave up on the real college experience just because of him, now I am bored living at home and don't have many friends at school. It hurts to hear high school friends talk about their college experiences. I feel like mine just doesn't add up. I do not want to transfer again because I don't want to waste my time or money with the progress I have made so far toward my degree. How can I resolve this resentment toward him and my regret for this? I wish I could turn back time!
you can't. you just need to take what you have and look to the future. the only thing you should regret is later on in life if you don't learn from this experience. we all do things we look back on and wish we did different, but unfortunately you can't.
1. You took a risk and it backfired - acknowlege this asap
2. You knew that breaking up was a risk at the time you transferred - and you knowingly took that risk. You can't regret it now and it would be unfair for you to have any resentment toward him because you were an adult and knowingly took that risk.
3. Instead of sulking, you need to get out and start volunteering, join your local college events, get out and make a difference in the world. College isn't all about the beer parties.
4. Uh, is college supposed to be about getting a degree or parties??
Sounds like you don't have your priorities straight, you don't know how to make friends and you are whining because you miss your old school.
Time to grow up and start appreciating your new school and time to start making new friends and some sort of EFFORT.