Self-Confidence???!


Question: I have a real problem with self-confidence. Sometimes to the point it prevents me from doing things I really want to do. I don't know why I am this way. How can I gain self-confidence and feel good about myself?


Answers: I have a real problem with self-confidence. Sometimes to the point it prevents me from doing things I really want to do. I don't know why I am this way. How can I gain self-confidence and feel good about myself?

get a diary and in it write everything taht you like about your self and taht you have. atars with the most basic of things...like you can walk ,and you can speak english( there pple out the who cant) and if you speak another language even better.
now after you have written these all daown. put on your fev music and stand in your undies in front of a mirror and read them out loud. " I AM A FULLY FUCTIONAL WOMAN! I CAN SPEAK! I CAN USE BOTH MY HANDS PROPERLY! I CAN SING AND DANCE AND SHAKE IT! I CAN WRITE AND READ...and so on...do this at least once a wekk and you will notice your confidence go up.
i used tohave low self esteem and my threapist told me to do this...it works even though the first couple of times feel silly

if you have a low self confidence, think of the situation or whatever resulting in the exact way you want it to be

EX: think your going to fail a math test because you think your stupid. think your going to pass it with an A

I can relate to that to a degree. - I will be interested to see what your answers are...

Hi,

It's pretty easy to develop confidence. First, what are you good at? Second, can you excel at it? For instance, I love college and therefore have excelled with a high gpa. Another way to build confidence is to work out. Furthermore, giving yourself small goals everyday to accomplish, such as doing all your chores or homework or volunteer service will also boost confidence. Be creative, this should be something that's fun for you.

Hey, what ever you do dont stop it from doing things you want to do!!!

When in doupt FAKE IT, infront of people, maybe even to yourself !
Advice i can give in increasing confidence is
1) Look in the mirror and talk, sing dance do anything to make you feel good!
2)Put yourself in uncomfortable situations (one step at a time) so you eventually breakout of your habits of turning away
3)Any opportunity you get to be seen-take it!
4)Join a new class whatever it is, dance, art,tennis where you dont know anyone.
5)Sport is good, because you motivate your body, work as a team with other and as an individual.

Ill try and think of some more!

Good Day,
Hope it helps!!

M.Q

P.S- never put yourself down and if other do stand up for yourself another way to get confidence !

1st of all think of the reason that y do you feel that way!!! n if you don't get any reason then you just hv to think of yourself as the king of the world!!! you can just think of yourself as someone special n even if it doesn't help you can record your own voice speaking..."listen everyone i m really gr8 n i m really special not as dull n dumd like others!!! i m really special!!!"...what you r passing from is from infrearity-complex...in that condition you feel yourself small from others...just just do what i said n you'll really feel better...n yup also don't do everything that others say also show some attitude...like all cheear leaders do in high schools!!!...that will really help!!! BEST OF LUCK!!!

don't worry i am the same so if u find answers i will

Im curious to see your answers coz Im the same! It stops you living your life!

Stop expecting too much from your life... have realistic thinking... mix-up with people... avoid being alone...

Interaction with small children is the most powerful tool for killing such feeling...

And stop believing that stress is lack of self confidence... if you feel low that does not mean that you have a low self confidence...

Self-Confidence means to "confide in ones Self." It has to do with the connection to the "inner you." You might even say it is the connection to the divine soul. If that connection is not stable, or if it is weak, you will have a lack of self-confidence. A self-confident person knows who they are and feels comfortable with their own inner self.

Read this free online resouce... I think it will explain this connection to the inner self better than me... "Gospel Enigma" Find it at the top of the list at new free books.

Also, Yoga would help since that is all about the connection to the inner self. So there are ways to correct the problem.

Hey,

I'm in the same situation as you.

I lack self-confidence and have a subconscious "mini-me" inside my brain that just loves to hem-and-haw about that fact any chance it gets. However, I have developed some of my own little ways of fighting off those feelings, along with the sometimes overwhelming desire to stay inside my room all day, that it creates and working to improve my current situation.

The most effective strategy I use is always being prepared for the situations I know I will feel most vulnerable in. In short, I am always carrying on mock conversations in my head. I know it sounds strange but it might work for you. I just imagine I am talking to someone about anything that is on my mind at the moment, all-the-while in a calm, assertive, and confident manner. I try to be as eloquent and clear as possible in these (imaginary) discussions, even focusing on hand gestures, body language, and facial expressions I want to portray.

Furthermore, I think of a role model and always keep their confident personality on my mind, so that I always have an example before me as to which I can mimic in behavior in any given situation if need be. Pick someone who you just love to watch in movies, for example, or a great historical figure. My idols are mostly particular politicians, like Dennis Kucinich. For me, people like him are the ultimate model in self-confidence. He is a U.S. Senator, very well spoken, represents his beliefs with a true and deep passion and doesn't care if someone dislikes him for that.

That is the key to self-confidence-at least for me. Discover your opinions on things particularly important to you and you will simulataneously develop a very strong and passionate personality that will exude confidence on its own. And always remember that certain person you look up to because of their confidence, working on adopting and weaving their personality in with your own unique traits.

If nothing else, always remember to forget what happened in the past, no matter how bad you have to fight your brain from wanting to relive it inside your head again. Always look ahead , focusing on the new opportunities to change yourself in the way you want to be and KNOW where you WILL be sometime in the future.

Maybe you don't know exactly what I am talking about (too deep maybe?) but I hope you will find out what works best for you, whatever that may be.

Peace





The consumer health information on answer-health.com is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions.
The answer content post by the user, if contains the copyright content please contact us, we will immediately remove it.
Copyright © 2007-2011 answer-health.com -   Terms of Use -   Contact us

Health Categories