Why are we so hard on ourselves?!
Question: Hi all,
i had Bells Palsy which is paralises on my right side of face about 13 years ago. and again when I was 16 which was 8 years before the second bout.There is still some signs of the palsy I can see.I think everyone else can notice too,if they do they don`t say anything.I hate getting my picture taken because first thing I think of is,do I look ugly?
I am so low about myself this way.I keep thinking too bad I wasn`t as cute as that girl,or that girl.
I honestly belive I only get guys who want to take advantage of me because of this ugliness.
Does anyone have any suggestions.
Thank you in advance to anyone who responds.
Answers: Hi all,
i had Bells Palsy which is paralises on my right side of face about 13 years ago. and again when I was 16 which was 8 years before the second bout.There is still some signs of the palsy I can see.I think everyone else can notice too,if they do they don`t say anything.I hate getting my picture taken because first thing I think of is,do I look ugly?
I am so low about myself this way.I keep thinking too bad I wasn`t as cute as that girl,or that girl.
I honestly belive I only get guys who want to take advantage of me because of this ugliness.
Does anyone have any suggestions.
Thank you in advance to anyone who responds.
We all have trouble looking at ourselves and absolutely loving the way we look sometimes. Wanting to be like that other guy or girl - the "pretty" one. You've probably heard this before, but really, all you have to do is view yourself as being beautiful. You are the one who has to be with yourself for as long as you live, so just love yourself and know that you are beautiful. Beauty starts from within ones' self. You are as beautiful as you believe you are. And as cheesy as it may sound, it's actually true. As long as you have a good heart and live a life where you love and help others, then you have all the beauty in the world.
If you love yourself for who you are, then you'll find that all along, others have loved you and your beauty as well, but now you'll actually be able to notice it.
i just saw "hard on" in your question and though it would be a good one. Boy was I disappointed in this question
short questions are good to answer
We're always self-comparing ourselves with others. It's one of the things we naturally do to find where we lie in comparison with others. I'm sorry you feel that you are unattractive, but the good news is, people who are unattractive can become much more attractive with a good personality, than someone who is physically attractive with nothing of worth inside.
I'll tell you a little story. I just came home from my 92 year old grandfather's funeral. He suffered polio as a young man, crippling his left side, though he almost completely recovered. It only resurfaced when he was in his 80s.
My grandmother told me she wished he had looked like the woman her other grandmother had been (apparently, her grandmother was a great beauty in her time).
So the man who was hit with polio and the girl who wasn't the great beauty her grandmother was met and married and had five children and loved each other until my grandfather died at a ripe old age of 92 with loving children and grandchildren to celebrate his memory.
There is plenty of room in this world for people who have had crippling diseases, and for people who are not raving beauties as well. Just be yourself; most men find a woman who likes him far more attractive than one with a great figure and uncommon good looks.
Hard as it may be, try not comparing your appearance with anyone else's. Everyone is their toughest critic and I'm sure that no matter how you look, how you're perceiving yourself is worse than how others see you. Everyone has things they consider to be flaws in themselves and usually they're nothing to be concerned with. Just try and focus more of your attention on the things you like about yourself:)
You need to stop trippin'! It's evident that we're not perfect. We all have little things about us that will hinder our self esteem. I learned long ago that comparing yourself with another is the worst thing to do. Everyone is unique in their own way and that's what makes us different. I'm sure there are other qualities about you that outshine others. You can look at others and compare beauty , but there are some people who are attractive on the outside but they're ugly on the inside. It's such a dissapointment when attractive people have nasty attitudes. I think this makes them ugly. I say, be who you are and respect yourself and your body.