Cutting is an inefficiant way to regulate feelings. I understand how you can be feeling guilt from the abortion and stuff, but don't take it out on yourself. Talk to a trusted adult, a counselor or even a psychologist if your feelings persist.
Get some counseling you need help and this is not the place to get that kind of help
You need medical help right AWAY!
I agree with the other two comments. You should go talk to a professional. You should know that at a young aghe you made a decsion that was right for you.
Listen it's a decision you made, and you made it for a reason. As long as you feel that it was the right one, you shouldn't feel any guilt. I don't know your religious background, but if you do believe in God, He loves you regardless! And if you don't believe in Him, either way, you weren't wrong in what you did!
Try to let it go, you are young, live your life! A baby wouldn't have been the best thing for someone your age. Under the circumstances that it happened it may have even been harder for you to deal with having the child. Your young, let it go, you weren't wrong AT ALL in what you did!
The guilt won't be permanent once you learn to accept that what you did was because you knew it would be in your best interest!!! Start the healing process by giving yourself some respect, the respect that you did the right thing for the right reasons and stop the cutting and starving yourself! From there it will get easier! I promise!
Hon, you did what you had to do. As sad as your situation is, and as bad as you feel now, one day you will see that it was the best decision for you. The guilt may well stay with you, but it will hopefully get easier with time. As for not thinking of it as a baby, it may actually help if you do. Maybe giving it a name and acknowladging it might help? Just remember that what happened to you wasn't your fault, and it wasn't YOUR decision to get pregnant in the first place. Because at the end of the day, it should be no one's decision but your's. You're so young to have been through so much, but you've got this far. You don't deserve to die, and I hope you realise that sooner rather than later. Hope this helps :o)
Sweetheart I'm so sorry. How awful that he raped you! What are you doing talking to your rapist? You should have turned his butt in! Your body, not to mention your mind and emotions are not ready yet for such a thing and while I oppose the mere thought of abortion, your body is just too immature and still growing to go through that.
Yes honey, you will always feel sadness for that spark of life...but you did nothing wrong! Women were created to create life...to be nurturers. It is men who kill (NOT ALL) not women. We are the mother's of our race and it is a gift from God...so it effects us in so many profound ways when we take a life...and it is natural that we feel sorrow for the passing of a part of us....but you do not have to go through life wracked with guilt. You were a victim. You do need therapy to help you get through this...it will not go away on its own. Please do not try to cut out the pain by cutting yourself, or punishing yourself in any way...you are not the only one who has ever been in this situation and it will get better...I promise it will...I'm 47 and I know what you're going through. I went through some very bad things when I was a child starting at age 5 all the way through my early 20's and I was raped 3 times by adults I trusted. I got better and now I'm married and life is so good, so precious...it will be that way for you too...but you have to go to someone you feel close too, preferably your mother and if not her someone you KNOW you can trust and then ask for counseling, so that a trained professional can help you through all the complex thoughts and feelings you are having...
Be a surviver...be strong...get the help you need and get well...
Love and God bless, Pami
Im usually against abortion, but i do feel you did do the right thing. I understand how you may have felt, so i think you did do the right thing. Please stop hurting yourself, all these struggles will only make your stronger. Go see a doctor for guidance. Good luck! =)
I will not say that i am for or against abortion but it did have some good points in your case as you discribed it.At the age of 14 you were really way to young to take care of a child which adoption would have been a choice.Now also the fact that you were raped and the age of 14 brings up another issue,whether or not you were mentally and physically stable to carry a child.This could have been a gift to you that you were able to have an abortion and could have saved your life.Many young girls that get pregnant have complications due to being so young that are very life threatening.I can say that whether or not you made the right choice at the time is besides the fact,That cannot be changed now and harming yourself is not going to help but will make matters only worse.Starving,harming or trying to kill yourself is not going to make you forget about what happened in the past but you can learn from your mistakes.If you feel that it was the wrong choice then maybe soon or even later on in life,it will give you the power and knowledge to guide someone else in the right direction.Making a bad choice or mistake does not make you a bad person.It does give you a reason to want to turn around and make wiser choices in the future and next time you will know immediately what choice is right or wrong.God can work miracles and this could be a miracle so please put the past in the past and use your choices as a learning tool and do what is right.You do deserve the opportunity to change and do right and god gives that to each and every one of us every second of the day regardless of age,sex,race or decisions we have made in the past.If you feel guilt or in the future you feel like you need to harm yourself then please talk to a friend a parent or anyone that will listen.If you don't have anyone to talk to you can email me and i will talk to you by email.
I would also like to suggest to you to talk to a school counselor which can point you in the right direction.
good luck on the future and god bless you.
don;t cut yourself and don't kill yourself that guilt will be with you forever but look forward never look back especially the rape part and you don't deserve it he raped you he will be the one going to hell you've done nothing wrong but you should've think thoroughly that in aborting you are killing human person but it's already done you should go to church an dask for repentance because your question identifies that you are deeply sorry for what you have done go to church and repent