My mum died a 6 years ago, and I'm still depressed and angry about it?!
Question: I tried medications and seeing a pyschiatrist and psychologist, but they never really helped me - just upped my medication when I was feeling more depressed.
I want to get past this and move forward in life, this is holding me back so much.
What can I do to move past this?
Thankyou
Answers: I tried medications and seeing a pyschiatrist and psychologist, but they never really helped me - just upped my medication when I was feeling more depressed.
I want to get past this and move forward in life, this is holding me back so much.
What can I do to move past this?
Thankyou
I'm sorry for your loss, and although it may be no comfort to you, I know how you feel - my mum died 7 years ago.
First off, you're right about the meds - they DO numb you, and although they are helpful for some people, they are not a long term solution.
I think it would greatly benefit you to see a grief counsellor.
This is a chart, which can help you understand the grieving process:
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You sound like your stuck around the "nuerotic behavious which blend into personality" which is whereI was stuck for years. Through seeing a counsellor and getting off meds, my life has improved dramatically.
Feel free to email me, I'm more than happy to help.
I wish you the best.
let me just say im sorry for your loss. That must be very hard to lose someone so cose to you.
You need to let it go. She is in a better place now. She is better off now. Theres so much suffering in the world, why would you wanter back to have that pain? Everyone will die at some point. You may be holding something back.
Did you do something that you wanted to apologize to her and you never got a chance? Try to find comfort in religion if you are not now. Find some inspirational music (Let it Be by the Beatles is a really good song). Say to yourself, "let it be" its over and done. Maybe you need to talk about it to family members or be comforted by a good friend.
Best of luck to you!
consider volunteer work at a local hospital, soup kitchen, etc - sometimes helping people in need helps you to see that maybe your own situation is not as bad as it could be-not to mention how much you'll feel/be appreciated
Well my great grandmother died almost six years ago and it still hits my family really hard especially around her birthday but what i do is remember that she is still some how with me and that all the happy memories we shared together. I have also just tried to focus on other things.
you have quite a hurdle to overcome... and even though you are doing psychologist and medication this may not be the ultimate solotion for you.. medication is only a temporary fix for a long term problem
The first thing you have to do to get mentally past this is accept what happened, and be at peace with it... i know it feels impossible but just look at it this way... these things are already pre ordained.. they are meant to be, unforunetly, and there is really nothing any of us can do to change the outcome of them... when it is our time my dear its our time.
Your mother would want you to be at peace with it, and move on, she would not want you dwelling and suffering over it....
Your be ok, and you will get past this, you can work through it, if everyday you tell yourself there is nothing i could have done, and it was meant to happen you will feel so much better...
goodluck
Learning to cope with the death of someone close to you is never easy, but most people come to terms with these events over time. You say that you have sought professional help, but it needs to be someone with whom you can build a rapport over what is sometime a lengthy period. A grief counsellor may be more appropriate.
You may also find it helpful to do some reading, which will help put this grief reaction into perspective. Try reading some of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' work on loss and grief.
You will see from her work that anger is just one stage of the grief process which culminates in acceptance.
You can work through this and have a deeper understanding of life and death. You will emerge as a stronger person.
Good luck.
Try and think about it this way, your mom is in a better place, just because shes deceased doesn't mean you cant be with her...talk to her, tell her you love her and that you'll be with her one day again in heaven. I'm truly sorry for the pain and depression your going threw. I honestly know exactly what your going threw and how much it hurts you not only mentally but physically. I hope this helped a little, god bless and stay safe.