Husbands bipolar out of control?!
Question: My husband will not accept the fact that he has bipolar, and stops taking hes meds when he fell better and then all hell breaks loose. He has a very bad gambling problem hits me and he thinks that i need to get help because nothing is wrong with him i am the one that is sick and i need help. he has gone from a depressed state to over confident going out alot spending to to much money ,he blames me for everything all our fights he thinks i start i do get mad with him when he gets out of control oh and and we have gone from no sex to twice a day is that normal , this is the second time he has left us and we have 3 kids together and been married 13 years he has had this condition for 5 years now will i get my husband back?
Answers: My husband will not accept the fact that he has bipolar, and stops taking hes meds when he fell better and then all hell breaks loose. He has a very bad gambling problem hits me and he thinks that i need to get help because nothing is wrong with him i am the one that is sick and i need help. he has gone from a depressed state to over confident going out alot spending to to much money ,he blames me for everything all our fights he thinks i start i do get mad with him when he gets out of control oh and and we have gone from no sex to twice a day is that normal , this is the second time he has left us and we have 3 kids together and been married 13 years he has had this condition for 5 years now will i get my husband back?
He's going to keep getting worse until he stops denying his problem and keeps up with his treatment. He's going to keep blaming you if you keep accepting blame. He's going to keep blowing the money until you and your kids are in the street. The violence will escalate until you are mamed or killed. The kids will suffer PTSD.
You love him, but your duty is to keep your kids safe.
Get a grip on the finances and leave if that's what it takes.
Either he'll get the message that he must help himself or he won't. If not, you and the kids are safer if you seperate.
I'm sorry.
Look what you have done now....trust you to start all this trouble
haha joke :| (yeah i am laughing)
You tell me if it's normal, you prefare no sex, sex once, sex three times or god knows how many times...It's whatever he wants to have sex and whenever you want to have sex.
Time for you and the kids to move on. He will not get better and this is common with manics. They refuse to see that these meds are tools not cures and each time the mania becomes worse. It is no atmosphere for your children. They need a stronger role model in you then someone who puts up with his ways and him not helping himself. Bipolar does not come on suddenly. I am sure if you look back through the years you will remember other questionable times. I have been there........
Unless he takes his meds and gets professional help, it is likely you'll be living on this roller coaster for a long time. Bipolar is horrible to deal with, both as the person with the disorder, and the family system. The best thing to do is make life as stable as you can for you and your children.
i think you should insist on him taking his meds.
because you never know what might happen in time.
or tomorrow, in fact.
so if he does not start to take his meds soon, take yourself and the kids away from him.
because you never know what might happen.
he might get real angry one night and take it out on you and/or your kids.
better safe than sorry, i say.