Could this cause someone to feel guarded and shy?!
Question: A naturally reserved person has only had had a few close friends throughout her life. Her natural personality is sweet and kind and she has a huge heart. Majority of the friends she has had over the years have left her or criticized her because she didn't meet their standards. Could this potentially cause a person in their adult life to feel guarded, cautious and shy when making friends?
Answers: A naturally reserved person has only had had a few close friends throughout her life. Her natural personality is sweet and kind and she has a huge heart. Majority of the friends she has had over the years have left her or criticized her because she didn't meet their standards. Could this potentially cause a person in their adult life to feel guarded, cautious and shy when making friends?
yeah. it would hurt her trust in people because all of those who she has trusted have left her. put a big dent in that aspect of her life. it's hard enough to trust as it is. to put your trust in someone and have them turn around and abuse it cuts a person each and every time a person does it to the person. maybe she should look at the people she chooses to become friends with and work from there. strict church people, people involved in the community, etc are people who usually don't do stuff like that because they have big hearts themselvs.
yes of course
Of course it would
Yes, maybe u need to meet someone new, a nice guy (like me) who can make u feel comfoprtable as u break out of yer shell... someone who u can trust usually can help you move thru the next door in life
that way yer going thru it together
and it feels safer
Possibly. It may also make her spiteful and stand-off-ish. She may have found that it is better to be alone than to take a chance on getting hurt again. It's hard to change when you've been hurt so many times.
Going by this and something you previously posted (I'm guessing we're talking about the same person), it wouldn't help at all and if that person tends to be trusting very quickly then it'll hurt even more.
What they've met there aren't real proper friends, they're just people who've followed the same path but for whatever reason have decided to go off in other directions - sometimes peacefully and sometimes spitefully.
Not sure what standards this person would have to keep, but real friends don't set standards. They'll just accept that this is the person and of course give them advice, and sometimes have to be very honest, but they'll accept that everyone is different. The only time real friends will leave is if the person does something really horrificially wrong.
Once they find the real thing everything will become clearer.