How to help autistic kids have more patient?!
Question: my brother is getting older and less and less patient. He is good in lines but with waiting for the computer and trying figure things out, he is very inpatient and gets frustrated quickly. He is high funcationing and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how we can help him learn to have more patientice. We set timers but, like if we are about to go somewhere, and he is fine with that, but if we dont finish, right when it goes off, he gets very angry and frustrated. iknow autistic kids like doing the same thing in the same order at the same time day after day, supposably, but he is not like that is changes stuff around. but he wants stuff on demand but if we say no or hold on, those are the magic words to get him mad. please help give me ideas. im tired of him not understanding
Answers: my brother is getting older and less and less patient. He is good in lines but with waiting for the computer and trying figure things out, he is very inpatient and gets frustrated quickly. He is high funcationing and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how we can help him learn to have more patientice. We set timers but, like if we are about to go somewhere, and he is fine with that, but if we dont finish, right when it goes off, he gets very angry and frustrated. iknow autistic kids like doing the same thing in the same order at the same time day after day, supposably, but he is not like that is changes stuff around. but he wants stuff on demand but if we say no or hold on, those are the magic words to get him mad. please help give me ideas. im tired of him not understanding
Autistic individuals are sometimes difficult to understand or communicate with. Their minds are acting like a high speed computer often time looking and examining many issues all at the same time to the point that everything else is filtered out as background noise and therefore ignored. Communication begins with simple one or two word commands like working with a computer. Too much information causes the system to crash. Time and patience begins on your end and has to be passed on as relevant information so your brother can incorporate into his personality and way of understanding. I know this sounds cold and aloof but remember your brother is thinking on a different level than you which is why to understand him it is like programming a computer. If you use timers he has programed himself that when it goes off it is time and delays cannot be understood. He desires information and wants it now it is not just the stuff he wants but to understand it.
Many autistics are highly intelligent but they often have difficulty focusing on a single issue because of the large number of thoughts running through their minds all at the same time. He will learn patience by observing you be patient but be careful because if you get impatient it will cause conflict because he will not be able to resolve the conflict of two opposing views being expressed.
I wish you well in your endeavors.
How about you just learn to be done when the timer goes off? I mean, if you set the timer, just make sure you set it for such a time that you will actually be done before it goes off. If you aren't, you broke the agreement, and if you do that often enough he's not going to trust you about the timer thing at all. It's a two-way street...