Does anyone else experience fear and uncertainty in growing up and the future?!
Question: Hey everybody. I am a 19 year old male and lately, for the past few months, I've often been depressed at the thought that time is slipping away. I'm not really afraid of my own death, but the death of loved ones such as my parents. It also sad to realize that I am no longer a child and no longer going to have the same living at home life that I've grown accustomed to. Just everything changing as a whole (all the fads/pop culture/music, etc) and living in a bubble for the first almost two decades of my life, and having this "bubble" pop is really just giving me depressed thoughts. Hopefully at least one of you will be able to give some solid advice/insight into this issue, as I'm sure that many of you have dealt with similar issues.
Answers: Hey everybody. I am a 19 year old male and lately, for the past few months, I've often been depressed at the thought that time is slipping away. I'm not really afraid of my own death, but the death of loved ones such as my parents. It also sad to realize that I am no longer a child and no longer going to have the same living at home life that I've grown accustomed to. Just everything changing as a whole (all the fads/pop culture/music, etc) and living in a bubble for the first almost two decades of my life, and having this "bubble" pop is really just giving me depressed thoughts. Hopefully at least one of you will be able to give some solid advice/insight into this issue, as I'm sure that many of you have dealt with similar issues.
You are still a kid, but you are growing up and going through one of those natural changes. Things and phases of your life will always go through change. I remember when I was 19 and had thoughts like yours. When we like certain phases of our life we want everything to stay the same. I have a 19 year old son now, and I see it with him.
As a parent we want our children to be ok before we die. Death is a part of life. You have your whole life ahead of you and many many wonderful things to look forward to. Your parents do not want you to worry about them going and when they do they don't want you to grieve the rest of your life. There is no other love in the world like your own child and we want to go before our children.
You will come across many other stages in your life that you will love and be happy with just as you were as a teen. Life has ups and downs all the way through but it is what we make it. I have found that most guys are creatures of habbit and really don't like change as much as girls do.what you are feeling is so normal. You will be just fine.
I have fear all the time. We all do but no one will admit it.
i feel uncertainly everyday!
if you think your depressed get help. talk to someo one, and if you need to, get on some meds and stick with it. you can feel better!!
i haven't finished school and I'm always scared What happens next hold on tight
i've always wondered the same thing i'm 19 as well and i would hate to experience that type of devastation (losing my parents) at such a young age but life is about taking each step one by one. You get through it not over it and even as life changes you eventually go with the flow and end up growing into someone that can pave the way for your future seeds. I get depressed that the time i had as a child i spent putting on make-up and worry about what i was going to wear rather than spend the time getting to know my family more...its not too late however and even though alot has changed within the last decade alone i had a good surrounding that molded me into who and what i've become.... the way i see it is that what I have been taught and what little i experienced as will as what I've witnessed i will teach the world.
Good Luck!!
I'm not even 14 yet and I'm scared of growing up and my dad dying and stuff.
dude, all have to die one day so before dying do something very great that will make you and your parents proud before dying.
YES!
i was just talking to a friend a few weeks ago and i told her that lately ive been scared of what its going to be like when i get older. how will i live on my own? what will i do out of high school? how do i start these things that are so important? what will i be like next year? i cant even imagine what ill be like next year. its worrying me to death because since forever i used to be able to imagine what id be like when i grow up and now im stumped. i know what job i want but i dont know if its going to happen. i feel like i wont even exist after next year. its scarry.
i dont know how this would help you and i dont know if i could get help for believing what it would be like in the future. ive already turned to religion. i believe stongly in God, its just the whole thought of the end of the world and how it was predicted to end on 2012.
im terrified
Wow! I can't help you but it must be something in the air because i've been feeling the same way lately! I've had the feeling before, like anxiety about the future but it went away for awhile. Now it's back and I can hardly push it out of my mind. Like thinking about the future and what it'll will be like for me is almost as scary as someone holding a gun to my head. It freaks me out...will I hate my life? Will I be successful? How can I move out of the house? Will I have regrets?
I guess just feel content knowing that we almost all go through it (i'm 20). I mean, i'm i college and i feel like time is running out for me to get my act together.
There seems to be no cure, just take it a day at a time, and I guess talk to someone (it always makes me feel better) especially when I talk to another person my age with the same doubts and fears.