How do you become stronger, strong enough to deal with the hardships life brings!
Question: i find myself, focusing on my past too much. the painful experiences of my past, often making me a victim. i try escaping myself, but i don't love myself. i constantly want to be somebody else. i think i am my own worst enemy. i let how others see me, view me, talk to me, etc. hurt me, and make me angry, mad, depressed, sick, lazy, etc. how do i become stronger, and brush the stares and comments off? thanks.
Answers: i find myself, focusing on my past too much. the painful experiences of my past, often making me a victim. i try escaping myself, but i don't love myself. i constantly want to be somebody else. i think i am my own worst enemy. i let how others see me, view me, talk to me, etc. hurt me, and make me angry, mad, depressed, sick, lazy, etc. how do i become stronger, and brush the stares and comments off? thanks.
Through personal growth and development, my dear. You have got to learn to toss what others think of you to the wind. Do one thing for yourself everyday. No matter how bad you feel, depressed, whatever, make the time to doing something such as pampering yourself or doing something that you enjoy or are good at. You will find yourself lifting up out of this net that you are caught in, learning day by day, 5 minutes at a time, just who you are and how wonderful you are. Light a candle each evening and gaze at yourself in the mirror. Banish all negative thoughts about yourself as they come up and replace them with something positive. This is a wonderful technique that I learned out of a spell book.
Also pay attention to who you are surrounding yourself with. Negative people who like to put others down for who they are can be like a psychic vacuum, and you have to eliminate these sorts of people from your life. This can be hard sometimes, as you will at times find yourself lonely, and may occasionally wonder if you are the one who is the problem. This has happened to me before when I have had to assess my life and clean house, so to speak. It seemed so empty without all the dirt and clutter lol. But don't give in and settle. And don't allow yourself to be a victim. You need to take your power back. the longer you hold resentments towards those that have hurt you, the longer you give them power over you. Release the binds that tie you. It is all worth it when you find you have drawn just the sort of people and influences into your life that you need to enhance it. Blessed Be!
I wish I could answer your question, dear, but unfortunately it sounds like we have the same problem. If I ever figure this out for myself, I'll let you know. For now I'm just seeing a therapist, taking antidepressants, and trying as hard as I can to make myself okay.
It's not working too well, though. Hope you have better luck than I've had.
learn the ways of the saints and practice them . practice makes perfect. or stay in your selfpity and misery.
I think the best way to get through those kinds of things is just focus. This is gonna sound kinda crazy but I was in jail for a little while and I was able to deal with most of those emotions just by adding structure to my day and focusing on what I wanted in life. I think we are all our own worst enemy but most people have a good idea of what they want, even if they sometimes wish they were someone else. Focus on that and structure your life to reach those goals and you may find you dont give a damn about what others think.
Go to the book store and get The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. This book has helped me through so many hard times, I've been reading it for years. Its not about religion - its just about being Present, being here and now. He explains it in this book so clearly and it makes so much sense. Give it a try.
Good luck.
Ekhart Tolle's message is simple: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment. And while this message may not seem stunningly original or fresh, Tolle's clear writing, supportive voice, and enthusiasm make this an excellent manual for anyone who's ever wondered what exactly "living in the now" means. Foremost, Tolle is a world-class teacher, able to explain complicated concepts in concrete language. More importantly, within a chapter of reading this book, readers are already holding the world in a different container--more conscious of how thoughts and emotions get in the way of their ability to live in genuine peace and happiness.
Go to the top of the nearest hill. Peel off the victims outwear that you carry around...put it on the ground cover with a rock. Now leave that victim up there and bring that woman back down and see who she will become. Believe in yourself and the past cannot hurt you because it is the PAST.
Unfortunately, there is no easy way to accomplish this. Friedrich Nietzsche said,