What are the stages to coping with your emotions;if your in theraphy?!
Question: 1. Become aware of your emotions.
2. Do not judge them or yourself.
3. Accept the things you cannot change.
4. Change the things you can.
Answers: 1. Become aware of your emotions.
2. Do not judge them or yourself.
3. Accept the things you cannot change.
4. Change the things you can.
These are the skills that helped me with my emotions.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) combines cognitive and behavioral therapy, incorporating methodologies from various practices including Eastern mindfulness techniques.
By being real with your self about the problem.
Also be realizing why it effected you, also finding was to over come it with self thought. Also with prayer and excepting something for what it is and growing on that.
Good Luck
This is as individual as the individuality of people in therapy. I know that feels unhelpful, so I'll try to sketch some possibilities, but please don't take this as absolute truth. Often we do bits of one stage, move forward on that bit, but then we're back at an earlier stage in respect of something else.
The first thing is to recognise the emotions as they really are. For example, someone who feels angry a lot of the time may be keeping themselves away from knowing that under the anger, they're actually very hurt and wounded. Getting to accept the real feelings can be a quite a challenge, because we've built a whole defence system around those feelings - we've been doing that since we were tiny kids, so it's tough letting go of the ways we've protected ourselves.
Once we've recognised the feelings as they really are, we begin to track them back, to make links, to recognise something of the context and situation in which they first developed - which may mean seeing what the trigger really is (so, for the angry person I imagined above, perhaps the hurt, wounded feeling came from when their dad used to push them away when they were little and wanted a hug, or when they wanted him to say they'd done well and he never showed a real interest).
Once you begin to have some sense of where it all comes from, facing the reality of that (in the example, that the father really wasn't very engaged and that it felt terrible) and feeling it (feeling the feelings you've been trying to defend yourself against for so long), THEN things begin to really shift.
The final stage is coming to terms with how it was and having some compassion not only for yourself but for the other people involved. In the example - realising that yes, father was not really able to engage with his kids and it's sad, a loss for him, and nothing can change it now - and accepting that you might not want to try so hard with him any more because you're never going to get what you wanted.
I hope this helps.