I. Am. Going. To. Go. Crazy. Soon... Please help! I don't know what else to !
Question: Okay. There's a guy who is my friend. For the last three years he has liked me. I don't feel the same way about him, and he knows it. The thing is, he's become obsessed or something. He will not leave me alone. He always has to know what I'm doing, who I'm with, and everything. I've tried to be nice about it and act like a regular friend, but he seemes to take it the wrong way or get the wrong impression or just something. My friends have told him to back off and he told one of them that he was going to make me go out with him. I don't want to be mean to him but I don't know what else to do. He just seemes to ignore everything anyone says about me not liking him like that!! I've told him so, but he doesn't seem to understand!! He won't back off!! Any suggestions??? I really would appreciate it!! Thnks!!!
Answers: Okay. There's a guy who is my friend. For the last three years he has liked me. I don't feel the same way about him, and he knows it. The thing is, he's become obsessed or something. He will not leave me alone. He always has to know what I'm doing, who I'm with, and everything. I've tried to be nice about it and act like a regular friend, but he seemes to take it the wrong way or get the wrong impression or just something. My friends have told him to back off and he told one of them that he was going to make me go out with him. I don't want to be mean to him but I don't know what else to do. He just seemes to ignore everything anyone says about me not liking him like that!! I've told him so, but he doesn't seem to understand!! He won't back off!! Any suggestions??? I really would appreciate it!! Thnks!!!
u've gotta make him understand that ur not interested... no more being nice!! u've tried being polite and if he won't leave u alone... u've gotta tell him that u don't like him and that he has to deal w/it. if he gets too serious.. and ur scared of him.. i suggest a restraining order
Tell your brother to have a talk with him ;) !!!
Tell him that you enjoy his company as a friend and as a friend only, but if he doesn't back off, you aren't going to be able to handle the friendship anymore.
Talk with your school counselor. He might need to be talked to if he is bothering you that much, and the counselor may be the one, if he goes to your school.
be careful....sometimes guys like that will turn violent.
i would talk to someone who can help your situation.
good luck.
He's sounding like a full-blown stalker. Gavin deBecker writes a lot about dealing with stalkers in his book "The Gift of Fear," which I recommend reading. He'd no doubt say stop ALL contact with the guy, not even to say "Stop calling me." DeBecker says for every time you speak to a stalker (even the negative attention of saying "leave me alone"), you buy yourself six more weeks of harrassment. If he won't see reason, he's a problem.
It's a shame that so many movies and songs are made about behavior like this that show it as charming and romantic, when it's no fun at all to be on the other end, and it's generally creepy and obsessive. I wish you good luck with getting rid of him; it's unfortunate that you'll have to lose the friendship, but if he reads everything the wrong way, that's how it'll have to go.
I would definitely talk to someone about this. It sounds like he has become obsessed with you. You may have to be strong enough to be honest and direct with him. Of course it might be better if you have someone with you at the time while you do this. Be careful. If you have already talked to him and he hasn't listened then you should talk to a school counselor or your parents. Take drastic measures if you have to. Sometimes a person like him may not get the message unless you do this. Find all the support you can and get help.
sounds like you need to find someone else for him to like/obsess over instead of you
You need to cut him off and ring in someone else, like a counselor or whoever, to help you. It might be that he was a friend at one point but at this point, he is not your friend. It's okay and NECESSARY to be mean at this point. I