Is he crazy-seriously?!


Question: My boyfriend has nothing to show for himself in his mid-thirties and has ADD, is bi-polar (at least slightly) and has been suicidal in the past. My question is am I wasting my time with him? I am a very level headed, successful woman and he is driving me CRAZY with his lack of self-esteem. We are working on it but at his age, is he too far gone? I might also add he has trouble sleeping too because his mind works overtime constantly. Is there any hope? The meds he was on made him suicidal and he does not want to take them anymore. What should I do? I really want this to work-he is such a super great guy in so many other ways.


Answers: My boyfriend has nothing to show for himself in his mid-thirties and has ADD, is bi-polar (at least slightly) and has been suicidal in the past. My question is am I wasting my time with him? I am a very level headed, successful woman and he is driving me CRAZY with his lack of self-esteem. We are working on it but at his age, is he too far gone? I might also add he has trouble sleeping too because his mind works overtime constantly. Is there any hope? The meds he was on made him suicidal and he does not want to take them anymore. What should I do? I really want this to work-he is such a super great guy in so many other ways.

Run...Don't walk to the nearest exit and get the heck out "O" there. He will only drag you down with him. If at his age he has never been married or at least living with someone for a few years, even more reason to dump his sorry a**. If you are successful as you say then he probably wants what you have. Don't feel sorry for him if you do dump him: I am sure he will feel sorry enough for both of you.

Tell him if he doesn't try to find more suitable meds you're gonna start looking for a more suitable boyfriend. hehe

I divorced a clone of your boyfriend..........We were both successful and there were things about him I absolutely adored, but when he flipped out - I just couldn't take it...........If he doesn't take meds..........it will make you miserable! Get him to try some different meds.............

I had a boyfriend like that too. DUMP HIM! He's only going to bring you down with him. He has to help himself. Is he even trying?

Wow, that is a hard one. Mental illness is very frustrating, especially bi-polar disorder. They generally stop taking their meds because it ruins their manic phase. Someone that is in love with a person with this disorder must be prepared for a lifetime of this behavior. Sometimes it will be great and sometimes it will be horrible. The basic element of manic depressive life.

Tell him gently and careingly that he needs better meds. Don't just leave him, because he has the tendacy to kill himself and that might make him doit. Just be really caring a bout it and maybe even go to the doctors with him. Good luck for the both of you. <3

You sound too arrogant for him. What with your description of him and then your description of yourself. I wonder what his version would be?? Perhaps he finds you over-bearing and controlling???

Just a thought. Probably one that will get me loads of thumbs down but I find it interesting when people come on so strong about themselves doing well and their partner doing crap. If you were doing so well, for starters, you would be in a better relationship.

I think your guy needs someone who understands his struggles better and doesn't refer to him as crazy!!!

Well as you can see from my question that I am not on a very positive incline right now, actually on a seriously sloped, downward spiral so mine is naturally to say that you need to decide on what kind of life you want, is love worth getting or giving it, do you love him enough to put the kind of time in that you are going to have to put in, in order to get any results out of this.
I know I sound cruel, it is okay because I am, I am bitter and know it and sometimes I care but not often enough obviously. I struggle to keep my sanity in my marriage and family, and I waved the white flag of freedom when I got married and brought our lovely families together, one piece at a time.
If, and at this point I am unsure anymore, I was level headed, it went out the door with the bathwater, life has run amuck and I am unsure of its worth in my life anymore. Rather selfish, I know but what can I say, I am forty and wont live forever darn it.

treating a problem caused by chemicals by adding more chemicals?







it doesn't sound right


but what choice do you have?





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