Is it NORMAL???? PLEASE answer!!!?!
Question: Hi Im Ashlee and Im 16 but annway is it normal to never want 2 get married or have kids or have a long term relationship? Like dating around and hooking up is okay but if it gets serious I cant stand it! It freaks me out and everyone I know wants to live in a big house and get married and blah blah blah but i dont want that. I think being single is way better and I see it like Im doing myself a favor by not wanting to get married or anything. Its one of my biggest fears lol. I mean Im not afraid of like going cliff diving but Im afraid of marriage and kids etc... pleez answer this cuz i realllly want 2 know if its wierd haha...
Answers: Hi Im Ashlee and Im 16 but annway is it normal to never want 2 get married or have kids or have a long term relationship? Like dating around and hooking up is okay but if it gets serious I cant stand it! It freaks me out and everyone I know wants to live in a big house and get married and blah blah blah but i dont want that. I think being single is way better and I see it like Im doing myself a favor by not wanting to get married or anything. Its one of my biggest fears lol. I mean Im not afraid of like going cliff diving but Im afraid of marriage and kids etc... pleez answer this cuz i realllly want 2 know if its wierd haha...
I'm not sure - but you sound pretty much like me. You're not weird! Everyone feels differently about things.
I've never had any interest in guys, or relationships...and yeah I've been down the road of 'Do I swing the other way?' and theres nothing. Neither way. Relationships don't interest me, marriage practically scares me to death theres no way I'll ever get married, and I seriously NEVER want to have kids. I hate them, the whole idea of it...it's not for me.
& because the norm is to be straight, and then theres gay or bisexual - people expect you to be like that if you get what i mean. which made it hard for me to figure out what was "wrong" with me, and i'm still questioning why i dont feel anything that my friends and others usually do.
i think i'll shut up now, but yeah, it might not be whats normally expected (which really, is just the stereotypical life...grow up, get married, have kids...) but its not that weird! its just who you are, be proud & dont let anyone get you down about what you think and feel and stuff :)
x
Personally, I'm not "afraid" of marrying or having kids, but it is also not the least bit attractive to me, and never has been. I'm not sure why, but it's just how I am.
Luckily, it's one of those things that *you* have control over. If you don't want to start a family or get married, don't, and don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choice. As long as you are genuinely happy with a life like that (and not just telling yourself you are to avoid confronting your fear), then I don't see a problem with it at all.
yes.. you will settle down later
No, that's not weird. That is completely normal.:) To each his own.
thats kinda like me...
i NEVER want kids... they annoy the cr@p outta me!!
i don't mind getting married...
but i LOVE being single!! i havent had a bf for years!! and i don't want one!!.. its weird
but i think its normal... i think you will grow out of it pretty soon
You are 16, so you have time to figure out what you want in life. Don't take life to seriously right now, because you will change your mind a thousand times before it is over with. So you're fine, just enjoy being 16.
You are still young and that doesn't appeal to you right now. You are probably the more healthy one in your group. You are not afraid to be alone. Most of the girls you know are probably insecure and want to make sure they have someone that will take care of them. It's great that you want to be able to take care of yourself.
I didn't marry until I was 35 - so I basically supported myself, made decisions for myself for quite a while. Around 29 or 30, I met the "right guy" who was also a secure person and then I wanted to be with him and have a family. It's good to take it slow.
Many of my gf's from high school married between the ages of 19 and 25 about 4 out of 5 of them have divorced and are on 2nd marriages and one is now divorcing her 3rd husband. So waiting is a GOOD thing!
At 16, you really don't need to worry about this. I promise you that by the time you are 21 you will have changed your mind about all sorts of things. If you don't change your mind about marriage, etc that is OK. There is no written rule that says a person is defined by their marital status. you have to do what makes you happy. Period! Cheers and Good Luck to you!
You can relax!
Your just 16 and you have plenty of time to decide. There is no reason to try and decide right now. As you get older your feelings can and probably will change.
It is OK to think what you want ahead of time, but, nothing is written in stone.
haha thats finee ... sometimes i wish i felt that wayy ... lol
NO ITS NOT WEIRD AND I FELT THE SAME WAY U DID. MY SISTER TOLD ME THAT WHEN U MEET THR RIGHT GUY OR GIRL YOU'LL CHANGE YOUR MIND. I DID, BEEN MARRIED 16 YEARS AND HAVE TWO GREAT KIDS.
DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT YOUR YOUNG HAVE FUN