How do I help my best friend get over her obsession with a guy?!
Question: My best friend has been obsessed with a boy for about 2 years and 8 months now (almost 3 years), and she doesn't even know him, and hasn't talked to him. He moved away 8 months ago and she still hasn't gotten over him. Enough is enough, already. She has other friends encouraging this when there is clearly something wrong. She thinks she can spend the rest of her life with him, which isn't going to happen either.
How can I help her get over him? I want to set her free, I hate seeing her in pain, and I hate how she's always depressed. I always give her honest advice, and she knows I don't think it's normal, but nothing seems to be working to get her over this. She cries herself to sleep and is really depressed all because of him. What can I do?
Answers: My best friend has been obsessed with a boy for about 2 years and 8 months now (almost 3 years), and she doesn't even know him, and hasn't talked to him. He moved away 8 months ago and she still hasn't gotten over him. Enough is enough, already. She has other friends encouraging this when there is clearly something wrong. She thinks she can spend the rest of her life with him, which isn't going to happen either.
How can I help her get over him? I want to set her free, I hate seeing her in pain, and I hate how she's always depressed. I always give her honest advice, and she knows I don't think it's normal, but nothing seems to be working to get her over this. She cries herself to sleep and is really depressed all because of him. What can I do?
Pray for her...
Sometimes people snap out of things when u give them tough love and a reality check. If they were never together, what is the deal? she needs to realize that her behavior is NOT normal... this is not just a simple crush
don't know sorry
mabey shes in love
how old is she?
take her out see movie, go to mall
you cnat and obsession is obsession. she may have OCD. google it and find out more. is she liek that with other stuff?
aww thats so sad :[[ try introducing guys from your school to her or go on a double date with her. goodluck.
see if you can get her to join a new activity, club or something you both can do together that will expand her horizon and allow her to meet new people so that she can get over him.
Show her another boy who likes her then maybe she will get interested in him.
Talk to your friend's mom. She should be the one dealing with it and hopefully she will listen to her mom. Good luck and hopefully she will get better soon.
Happy New Year :-)
You just need to be supportive and let her know that you are there for her. Try to encourage her to get some counseling, this is definately not normal behavior. Talk to the friends that are encouraging her and try to help them understand what it is doing to her. She needs counseling!
Go out and spend time with her, have fun make her forget about it. Get her to see a counselor because it seems like there is something else wrong that she isn't telling.
i think u should show her there are other guys in the world and if there is anyone who has a crush on her it will probaly open her eyes to see that its better not to dawn on what never happened and what could happen .
You may have to go "over your friend's head" per say and tell someone that has authority over her about her obsession. It's not healthy for her and even though she may get angry with you, she will be helped in the long run. That's just one option right there..........
Give her a effing boyfriend?! Do her a favor and take her out somewhere to meet guys!
It sounds like maybe she has some depression problems. Encourage her to talk to her parents about having her evaluated.
There are other things that are natural uppers like sunshine, chocolate, shopping...
If it turns out that she's not depressed then this is something that's gonna have to run it's course. Once a cutie comes along and sweeps her off her feet, she'll forget all about whats-his-name.
well, is there a reason she is that way? Like a history of mental illness in the family or too many emo songs? I mean, if she and this guy were very close for awhile and he broke it off then that makes sense, but to go on for that long?
Force her to go out with you and your friends or at least make her be more sociable. Everyone needs time to get over it but she is pushing the limit!
wow that sucks
I've seen this many times before.
the only clear medicine is time.
thats it.
With some people, it just takes longer.
if you say she's depressed, don't let her do anything stupid like cutting herself. Keep both eyes on her.
Peace.
This girl needs some professional help, dear. It is one thing to worship your favorite celebrity from afar (trust me thousands do), but when you get to the point that you cant function on a daily basis because of your need for another, then we're past admiration here, and well on our way to stalker. Perhaps she has a school counselor or trusted adult friend that she can chat with? This is unfortunately, not something that you can help her with. She needs to pull herself out of this one on her own. However, being her friend and dealing with the depression (to a point) is basically all that YOU can do for her. The rest IS up to her. But she needs professional advice on this one, especially if depression is a factor. Good luck to you both.
I think you need to have your friend e-mail or call the guy and let him know how she feels. I was obsessed with a guy for 3 years in high school and he didn't even know I existed. I told everyone and their brother that I liked the guy and everyone and their brother told him I liked him. I think he was a little freaked out but one day (after 3 years) he came up to say hello to me. I just froze and turned away. To this day, I regret not talking to him to let him know that I liked him. Even if he had rejected me it would have given some type of closure or helped to stop my obsession with him. I am married now with 3 children but I still think about him to this day. Your friend has an obsession and nothing you can do or say will stop it unless she talks to the guy to let him know how she feels. What's the worst that could happen? Even if he is cold and rejects her it might make her feel better than she does now and also help her get over him. Of course, he may be intrigued or flattered and they might start communicating. You can't help your friend get over someone she is obsessed with. Only she can do that for herself by confronting him with her feelings. Hope this helps.
Can you possibly speak with her parent(s)? She needs professional intervention as this is a mental weed that eventually will take over the lawn!
Good Luck!
p.s. not to scare you, but a personal note her. My significant other is a widow because the deceased refused to take his meds and tell the professionals the truths, and he maneuvered a pistol to his temple leaving behind four beautiful young daughters with a lifetime full of questions and disappointment!!