My dad has a problem?!
Question: during the gulf war my dad severely injured by a bomb blast, he survived but many of his friends were killed and dying around him and these last few nights he's been having very violent dreams often ending up either hitting himself or the wall and he shouts out really bad things and goes really crazy. last night i decided to go see what he was doing and he jumped up grabbed me and started shouting you ******* killed them and hit me in the head but in still in a state of dreaming. its getting worse and he is getting really depressed about it one for dreaming about his friends and 2 for hitting me.
does anyone know why these last few days hes been acting like this as it happened many years ago and how to sort it
Answers: during the gulf war my dad severely injured by a bomb blast, he survived but many of his friends were killed and dying around him and these last few nights he's been having very violent dreams often ending up either hitting himself or the wall and he shouts out really bad things and goes really crazy. last night i decided to go see what he was doing and he jumped up grabbed me and started shouting you ******* killed them and hit me in the head but in still in a state of dreaming. its getting worse and he is getting really depressed about it one for dreaming about his friends and 2 for hitting me.
does anyone know why these last few days hes been acting like this as it happened many years ago and how to sort it
Right, sir, let me tell you, that thing about not being able to afford to see a psychiatrist is absolute b*ll*cks. I'm presuming you live in the UK, seeing as this question was asked on Yahoo! Answers UK & Ireland.
Phone your dad's GP (doctor) right now. You may actually be visited by a locum doctor but at least your father will be seen.
The situation is absolutely abysmal. No-one that's served their country should have to deal with this by themselves.
If you are seen by a locum doctor, telephone your dad's GP tomorrow and insist that something is done. Keep phoning and pestering him/her. A GP can make a referral to a psychiatrist, and it will be on the NHS. You will not have to pay.
Click on the link below. This will take you to a page with regards to SSAFA (Soldiers, Sailors, Airman's Families Association). There are some telephone number and addresses on there that are local to the address that you give in your profile. Speak with them, and ask what support they have available for people like your dad, and tell them that it's urgent. Explain to them exactly what's happening with your dad, and see if they can get someone out to see your dad ... like right now.
I agree with Georgie 100%. Don't be afraid to telephone for the police. Your father, obviously, is not in full control at the moment, and you must look after yourself and your mother.
Could it be the anniversary of their death?
HE NEEDS TO GET HELP BEFORE IN THIS STATE HE HURTS HIMSELF OR SOMEONE ELSE.
CALL THE VA FOR HIM.
....he needs to talk to some one about it...it may have traumatized him?.....i dont really know but i hope everything works out
yes he should see a counselor it is post traumatic stress disorder i have it and almost commited suicide tell him to get help before it is too late
Maybe he's bottled in lots of his emotions to do with that horrible experience, and something may have happened recently to trigger him to finally let it all come out in the recent days. Maybe you should take him to the doctor...or maybe you should have a talk with your dad's doctor, or ask your own doctor on what you can do.
Sounds like your dad has PTSD post traumatic strees disorder. Contact your local VA hospital. I'm thinking he should already be enrolled. You should be able to talk to some counselors there who can advise you. With the holiday tomorrow probably not anyone to talk to unless you have an emergency. I've worked with these patients. Please call the VA in your area. They will screen and treat him.
Wow. Sorry you are going through this.
It sounds like your father has PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder. WHen you have PTSD you can have "dreams" that occur in the non-dream cycle of sleep. That may be why your father did not recognize you - he may well have been in a stage of sleep and not awake.
Regardless, he needs help. Since he is a veteran he should be eligible for VA care, and they are reputedly doing good work with PTSD these days. You can always start with your family doctor, too, but he will need referral to a specialist.
If the issue is how to get him to realize he needs help, you may relate the story you shared with us. If I were your father that would be a very sobering thing. If he is a "walk it off" kind of guy or the kind who thinks that therapy is for wimps, I would tell him that you are really, really scared that he is going to hurt himself or you and that, as his son, you really need him to be around and be fully present for you.
If that does not work I would ask your doctor or guidance counselor for help, or even call the local VA and ask about PTSD treament. Someone out there will know how to handle this. Unfortunately, your father is not the only veteran who is dealing with this.
make him see a doctor.
its good for him, and you can be in ease knowing that the situation will be taken care of. he needs to check up on his health, incase its getting more serious.
not a question for on here friend-your mother or family member should encourage/accompany him re: a dr-professional capacity.
my best wishes to him-also you and family.
Hey There,
He has Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. . . which happens to those who have been affected by the war, and he needs to get professional help otherwise it can be very bad. . . Please talk to him about this and show him these sites.
http://health.yahoo.com/mentalhealth-ove...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-trauma...
well the psychological theory on something like this is that he is suffering PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).
What happens is when you or me or anyone experiences a really stressful or scary or harrowing event, and we dont know how or have the chance to deal with it at the time, our minds turn into auto piolet, we think we are ok, the stressful event appears to be something we think we have gone through, but actually what has happened is our minds have "stored" it so we can get through the next moment/day/month, even few years. We get on with life as per normal and often think little- and in some cases actually forget about the events.
When our minds sense it is safe enough, or if something triggers the memory of the original problem, the memory or the event and the emotions and all the thoughts resurface, its our subconcious trying to deal with it and get through it. Only thing is that we are not always as ready as our mind thinks we are.
It sounds like your dad has alot to come to terms with, there is help availible and a good place to start would be to see a gp who can refer him to someone who can help him work through the issues and deal with whatever he experienced, come to terms with it and stop living his life under its control.
we all have problems,some people hold there problems,some people can't,if it gets this bad you need help.you have to report,i can't say anymore.
Your dad could be suffering from a condition called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which happens when somebody experiences something so bad that they may not react to it immediately because of shock, but it is stored like a memory and comes back to that persons mind in every detail every so often. He may need to go to a doctor?
My sympathies to you, your dad and your family.
Your government sent him to fight a stupid oil war, but won't pick up the check when something goes wrong. Is there anyone in America who really thinks universal healthcare is such a bad idea?
If you and your mother feel threatened, or your dad is hurting himself, call an ambulance, be sure you tell the ambulance what is going on so they can come prepared, they may even suggest to call the police as back up.
Unfortunately he may have as someone suggested post traumatic disorder, and this can happen at any time after a traumatic event, sometimes major stress can trigger this. Your dad needs help, even if he says he is ok.
Don't hesitate to call the police/ambulance if he is self harming or threatening to you and your family. So please insure your safety of your mother and yourself, especially if you have younger siblings.
i would in your situation ,ring the samaritons, who i am sure will help your dad and your family to sort out the help he needs. they are in a position to advise you and are available at any time so dont wait ,do it for your dads sake.