Please this is serious.?!
Question: [[okay]] so like im on my friends Yahoo Answers! and she just posted about her being sick and her friend being scared.
She was diagnosed with a couple things wrong with her a year or two ago and now shes dying and only 14 going through this.
well i am that friend thats scared.
actually i am terrified for her and i know she is scared but i dont know why she doesnt want to show it.
and shes so totaly wrong she needs prayers more for her than me and i want a miracle SO BAD to happen.
why do you think she is worrying more about me than her?
why doesnt she seem scared at all?
Answers: [[okay]] so like im on my friends Yahoo Answers! and she just posted about her being sick and her friend being scared.
She was diagnosed with a couple things wrong with her a year or two ago and now shes dying and only 14 going through this.
well i am that friend thats scared.
actually i am terrified for her and i know she is scared but i dont know why she doesnt want to show it.
and shes so totaly wrong she needs prayers more for her than me and i want a miracle SO BAD to happen.
why do you think she is worrying more about me than her?
why doesnt she seem scared at all?
Maybe she truly is ready. Your denial will make this so much harder for you, and that is why she is so concerned for you. She loves you so much-and that will never go away. She will always be by your side, even if it's not in the physical sense. I know how hard it is because I've been through something similar. Denial ruined me for a very long time-until I realized how much my best friend really still was around. The dreams, and smells of him, the laughing out loud at sudden funny memories, or smiles that would break on my face-it will happen with you too. Then you will see that she's not gone, she will always be with you, and when your time comes, you two will see each other once again. So, it's not goodbye, it's more like see you later.
Take the time you have left to laugh, love and really live together while you still have this time. I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through, and truly hope I am not coming off harshly, but I just know where you are and want to try and ease the pain. I feel so badly for you, yet know that you are not losing a friend forever, yet actually gaining an angel and a guiding light to stay by your side until your time comes.
If she doesn't seem scared, it's because she has already had to do the work to cope with her reality. It's now your turn. Don't waste any more time with worry. It's time to live your livews to the fullest together. Create more wonderfull memories for the both of you to carry on with one another in your journeys. When the ones that you love go from this earth, they do not disappear, they stay by you throughout your life and watch over you, by your side more than ever.
The more at peace you can become with this harsh reality, and the more prepared and strong you can try to be, the easier it will be for the both of you, now in the days you have left together, as well as when the time comes. Of course it will still hurt, but at least you be at peace with it and not become full of resentment towards G-d for taking your friend from you, your friend for going, and the world for leaving you with a feeling of emptiness rather than the knowledge that she wil ALWAYS be by your side.
I wish you all the best and will pray for you both to truly be at peace with your reality, as well as your new journeys, still together-just in a different way.
She isn't scared because she sees this as normal or natural. She is worried about you probably because she is seeing the consequences of her actions but not wanting to stop these actions. I would talk to her parents or to her yourself. She needs some moral support.
If she really is terminally ill then I'm sure there are tons of support groups for people suffering like her. She is right to worry about how her friends feel and in a way not being scared might be helping her deal with this terrible thing that's happening to her.
Best of luck to you and your friend.
Amy s Death is nothing to be scared of. We must all face it! If you are saved and know Jesus as your Savior, which it sounds like this young lady does, then to die is to live. Her worry is how will you be after she goes to be with the Lord, along with her family. I also agree with you that she needs prayer, and that God does miracles! I am one of those miracles. I will partition a prayer right now and all of the Christians here if you would read this and agree we will then be in one accord making this prayer more effective. Father God, a child of the King is in desperate need of a miracle that we know you Father are capable of delivering. I speak life in to her body this very moment Father God ,and rebuke this vile disease that has brought her body in to the conflict she now wages a battle with. I remember the woman that just touched the hem of your robe Father God, because she believed Father, and desperately wanted the cure that she knew your Son Jesus could deliver. I ask Father God that this young girl's faith will be increased and like the woman that touched the robe of Jesus she will receive her miracle. That this miracle will be manifested in her weakened body right this very moment, that the life i speak in to every cell of her body will awaken and bring a revival of new life, because you Lord said if we knock the door will be opened, that if we seek we shall find, and finally Lord if we ask it shall be given unto us. I ask Father God that you will hold her, and the entire family in the palm of your hand, and shelter them with your arms. That every need will be met through you love, kindness, and mercy Lord. That each one knows you personally Father God as their Lord and Savior. I ask Father God, that you will also send a comforter to all including this young lady who asked for prayer for her friend Lord. And united as brothers and sister's in faith,and love, we ask in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, and all together we reply AMEN. Young lady stand firm in faith and speak to this disease as if it weren't, and to those things that are as if they aren't. The battle belongs to the Lord ,he has bought and paid for us all. You tell you friend that there are plenty of us out here praying, and that we send her our love. Steve
The thing is, when it happens to you it's easier to come to accept it as something you just have to go through. Those of us having to watch someone we love go through it have to hope up to the last second things will change.
They might, you are right to hope. They might not change, she is right to accept it. The thing is we all die eventually, we can't fear it. We have to make every second we have count.
Shes worried about you for the same reason you're scared for her. She must be an incredible person, I wish I'd gtten to her here on YA, we must never have crossed paths.
Life is a carnival ride. We get on it from someplace else, it's exciting, scary and fun, and it seems real. But eventually the ride is over, and we go on to a place that is real and much better. She'll be fine, she is just going ahead of us to the better place, ok?
maybe she is an actress and a major drama queen? ring a bell?
Big time illness or death are sometimes more difficult for those who care about the person, than the person themselves. It can be really shocking for others. What you have to realise is: just as you need to come to terms with the diagnosis, they also need the space to deal with their experience, without your own history/context/beliefs, interfering with their history/context and beliefs. You need to know, you and her paths might be quite different even tho you believe you have a history together. At these times, her experience is upper-most, just as it should be. This must be out of respect for your friend. Your needs are secondmost. What she needs...she will ask for. You must not presume.
When one is dying...one's thoughts should be about reconciling with one's past. You have no right to infringe your needs upon her. If you have issues, then they are yours to deal with on your own.