Why do I have feel so empty and hollow?!
Question: I have a 4.0 in college studying to become a doctor, people say Im really attractive, and I feel that I'm a good person. But I feel so sad in my life. It's hard to make good friends and I feel disconnected from people. Most people have happy lives with brief periods of sadness in between but it seems like I have a sad life with brief periods of happiness...yahoo answers seems like a stupid place to get advice but when you are a sad perosn, any enlightenment is very welcome..
Answers: I have a 4.0 in college studying to become a doctor, people say Im really attractive, and I feel that I'm a good person. But I feel so sad in my life. It's hard to make good friends and I feel disconnected from people. Most people have happy lives with brief periods of sadness in between but it seems like I have a sad life with brief periods of happiness...yahoo answers seems like a stupid place to get advice but when you are a sad perosn, any enlightenment is very welcome..
It sounds to me like you are a victim of "somebody training." That is where you believe you have to become or do something to become somebody. In the process, you lose touch with your own self and become who your parents, peers, college, and society have molded you to be. The way back to is to find out what we really want and who we really are. It is realizing the weaknesses and fears that every person shares. It is realizing that there are no strangers nor different classes of people, that essentually, we are all equal. The key to feeling less insecure in one's self is to stop focusing on the self. There is no way to fill one's self except through some higher power or something. Another human being cannot fill us, so it is futile to look there. Connecting with others is not about getting, but giving, and giving in all senses of the word, and without strings or keeping score.
I agree with JustJoshin999's advice, and the advice about finding a faith community. Other things one can try is volunteer work. It helps you to feel worthwhile and you get to meet great people along the way. Self-help groups, support groups, 12-step programs (like Co-Dependents Anonymous), civic clubs, etc., are all good places to be, find oneself, and meet others.
drinking makes everone feel better :) it puts me in my happy place
Becoming a doctor is like a trip through a very dark tunnel; a lot of pain, loneliness. and even more. But stay focused on the light at the end of that tunnel.
Once you come out; life will become meaningful and beautiful.
Trust the way!
Sounds like you need...
romance. :)
I am the same way, but now that I have all sorts of romantic fantasies and adventures it's like, as you said, happy life with brief periods of sadness!
... Do you have obscure interests, per chance?
dont worry things will get better. I know just how you feel.But lets not let anybody else fool us. honey palease. beleive me everybody goes through hard times they are probably better @ hiding it than we are
all too common a problem. You like many others are so success driven, so career oriented, so in tune with everything you need to get ahead, you've lost what it is to have fun. If you continue to go as hard as you are now, you'll probably have a breakdown by 30, and a heart attack by 45.
You've got to learn to let go. Let your hair down and have some fun. Learn when to say F**K IT!!! Have some fun, find yourself, act like a kid for a day. Wear comfortable clothes and go hang out somewhere. Hell, go to the park and have fun on the swings and slides.
Point being, you need to reconnect with what it means to be human, not just successful.
Some people are just born happier than others. Maybe that sounds too simple, but how else do you explain it? Ever known a person who seems cheerful as a daisy from the moment they wake up until the moment they settle down again? The type of person that loves to give and can't stop smiling? Then there are the people who seem miserable every waking moment. If we're all the same then why such a stark contrast between individuals? Can their lifestyles really be that different from each other? Happiness truly is something that comes from within. You have to find it, if you can. I would suggest the self-help section of your nearest book store. A lot of the books will probably tell you the same thing. "Just be happy." It starts with appreciation. Appreciate what you have. Appreciate the entire world around you. Not just the big things but the little things too. You'll see how it works.
Oh yes, it's also, in my opinion, good to spice up your life with humor.
i think its normal many feel like that..
Aww I totally feel your pain....I myself feel the same sometimes....I feel like if I was born depressed....not quite alot of people understand me so I spend alot of my time writing down my feelings or thinking too much! (maybe thats my problem!) but I try to see the positive out of this negative situation, like I use this opportunity to try and be there and comfort and encourage people that are in my life or that cross my path, cuz I feel like a smile, a hug, or a word of encouragement go such a long way.....those are the kinds of things that nurture the soul. Maybe God put a couple of "sad feeling" people here for a reason and we just gotta make the best of it. As they say God never gives us things we cannot handle. =D We deserve to be happy don't you think? Well I truly wish you the best seems like you're doing great already and just take the positive out of the negative and you'll be fine =D Never forget that you are special!!! Happy New Year!!
Find a great church with lost of people around your age and make great friends. Get involve around campus and aroud the community.
ive been through that. i used to be happy and sometimes sad but after a while the sad started to outweigh the happy and i just felt numb to the world.
I think insead of being depressed, you might actually be suffering from depression or bipolar disorder. a therapis can help a lot, and if its bad enough and your willing to try, medication can help too.
but please dont do anything drastic. people do love you amd truly care about you even though you might not feel it.
Dear Jenn, fist of all, I congratulate, in the near future you will be a doctor, being a doctor , you must care about people around you, find out what something they need most, by doing that , you will understand your life will not so empty and hollow, and many people will like make friends with you,and you will feel so happy, In the beginning of the new year, let's pray for each other, life will be better , happy new year.
Read the Bible. Maybe God is missing in your life.
It's symptomatic of depression. See young women's depression, in section 13, at *ezy-build, below. My standard post follows: See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as herbal remedies, Inositol, or SAMe. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even many weeks to become effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels. Spend some time studying up on this. Yours may be dysthymia, as opposed to true depression. The same treatments apply, however.
Find some inspiration, get in touch with your artsy side. Write songs/poems, paint, decoration, photography.
Or maybe get a pet, they're wonderful.
Find something that will give you inner satisfaction make sure it shows(through your hobbies, art or pet).
I hope you get better. Good Luck and Take Care. :)
You are probably under an enormous amount of pressure right now. You probably have numerous stressors that you are trying to juggle at this point in your life. Anyone would benefit from counseling, but most are too shy to open up to someone until things get really bad. You belong to the Worried Well, a category of folks who are not mentally ill but would benefit from professional counseling. Counseling will increase your chances of successfully completing your MD or Ph.D. Look up the research and college retention rates. I recommend that you utilize your student counseling center at your college. Remember that if you get a counselor who you are in any way uncomfortable with - you can fire them and ask for someone new=0) Give it a try - it will probably open some doors.