If you were suicidal..?!
Question: Would it really help if people just told you that..
You're just selfish
You're just greedy
You don't value life
Get over it..
Some of you people lack emptathy.. Personally, if I went to strangers for help.. The crap that some of you people say on here would only push me to the edge, just a little more.
Have some empathy, people.
The question: Do you honestly believe that you are helping a suicidal person when you tell him or her these things..?
This question came up after reading responses to the "I'm suicidal" questions.
Answers: Would it really help if people just told you that..
You're just selfish
You're just greedy
You don't value life
Get over it..
Some of you people lack emptathy.. Personally, if I went to strangers for help.. The crap that some of you people say on here would only push me to the edge, just a little more.
Have some empathy, people.
The question: Do you honestly believe that you are helping a suicidal person when you tell him or her these things..?
This question came up after reading responses to the "I'm suicidal" questions.
I agree with you. Where is the empathy?
I do not think it is helpful to make mean, cruel, or ignorant statements to a severely depressed individual.
Most people who are that depressed just want to stop the pain. It seems to me that it is especially cruel to infict even more pain by passing negative judgment on them, or making cruel statements.
I suffer from depression. I take medication. I have had years of therapy to help me learn to deal with my situation. One of the "tools" that I was taught was to reach out to someone when it gets so bad that I don't want to live anymore.
PLEASE DON'T HURT ME when I ask you for help.
If you can't help, I can understand that. But why would you want to HURT, when you could simply choose to do nothing?
People should be ashamed of themselves for saying things like that to someone who is suicidal.
People that ask that should be ashamed to come on yahoo answers acting suicidal.
I don't think it helps, but the thought of someone killing themselves is overwhelming and naturally anger gets in the way.
The way i see it, you can only change yourself.
focus on the good not the bad, Seek help find a friend o talk to about your problems, write what your grateful for on paper.
I agree will you100%. I almost took my life. And when I see questions like that, it breaks my heart. Only the people who have been there really know what it is like. We are not selfish,
nor stuiped, and yes I believe in God. I also believe in a "forgiving God". Unless you've been there, don't judge us.
No you're not helping people by telling them things like that - suicidal people need help, and those comments are definitely not helpful. I did a research paper on suicide in psychology this year, and to sum it all up, many suicidal people just don't get enough emotional attention, and the best thing you can give a suicidal person is your friendship and encouragement to live.
That is not at all helpful. It's like rubbing salt into someone's wounds. The person is obviously feeling down on themself, so why would you want to criticize, belittle, accuse, or otherwise lower their self image even further? There is a lot of bad advice floating around on here given by people who don't know what they are talking about. For something so serious, I wish the suicidal person would seek help from a professional instead of on here.
I tried it a long time ago. When pills started working I realized I was being selfish. My best friend told me that. It worked for me. The other responses wouldn't work for me but maybe someone else. Everyone is different & respond different. Unless you're there u don't know what will work, so they try anything hoping it will work. My friend reminded me of my children & how they were going to feel & blame themselves. When you try suicide u are not thinking of anything but yourself. Not what you're doing to others that love u. u are selfish!
My fear is if "they" mention it,
joke about it,
talk about it
"threaten it"!
It is possible! At least "some" of the time!
More often than I wish I knew!
Not "trained" in "THIS",
But I will always, lend an ear!
Happy New Year!
I think I probably would kill myself if I were suicidal and people who knew nothing about me told me that I was selfish. If I were to put a question on here like that, I'd explain WHY I wanted to kill myself, I did that once before at a very bad time and the great people of Yahoo! Answers helped me through it. Life is hard sometimes and I think most, if not, all people get suicidal at some point, people should think about their own lives before saying stuff like that to others.
I honestly believe ANYONE saying that to a suicidal person is helping them.. To hate their lives more, it's not right, what if you said that and they really killed themselves? What happened to being good people?
No, I don't think it would be helpful to a person who is really suicidal to hear/read those things
I think that some people really think they are being helpful they just don't fully understand how to deal with the situation
I agree completely. I do not frequent these forums often due to simuliar reasons. I have to remind myself of a few things often.
This world is made up of all kinds of people.
There seems to be an over abundance of children on these forums. These children seem to have a lack of basic supervision and guideance. They don't seem to think before they type out responses and hit enter. And a lot of the people, child or not have their own issues going on. If they are on the mental health board going over questions it is probably safe to assume they have a need they are looking to have taken care of. Whether it is basic information for themself or a friend/family member, a genuine desire to help people, or a need to try and overcome their own feelings of inferiority by putting others down.
By pointing out someone elses problems all the time it prevents someone from having to aknowledge their own.
And lets face it , there are those out there that are just angry and bitter and they only way they know to deal with it is by making people feel as crappy as they do.
I do agree with you though. The world today has increased amount of stress, violence and chaos but a drastic decrease in basic human kindness. A sign of the times I guess, but definately not a good thing.
My personal favorite is you are going to hell why would anyone who is fragile want or need to hear that do people writing that think it's going to scare the feelings away
I think that people need to understand a person who is reaching out for help doesn't need judgement they need compassion and support and for whatever reason have come here for that
i was suicidal and most people don't know how to help and they may say alot of bad things to you but some are very helpful. yahoo answers have helped me alot and i'm thankful for this site. Alot of people don't understand and sometimes for real after years of depression the person kill themself(i've known of a real case). they usually mean it, it's a matter of time and if they can get help and think things through themself also.
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