Should I stay away from my mother because of my alcoholic brother lives with her!
Question: My brother who is 50 years old is living with my mother, and it been three months. Everytime I go over there he seems to have a jealous fit with the time I have with her. Today the first day of the year and he start in on me over potatoes. He believes to be a great cook so he starts crictatizing me over how I am peeling them. On defending myself my mom believe I should just keep quiet and let him abuse me. So I left but I said to her I don't understand her why should let her handle it when all he does is continue the crap toward me. I decide not to see her anymore until he move out. Tell me what do you think?
Answers: My brother who is 50 years old is living with my mother, and it been three months. Everytime I go over there he seems to have a jealous fit with the time I have with her. Today the first day of the year and he start in on me over potatoes. He believes to be a great cook so he starts crictatizing me over how I am peeling them. On defending myself my mom believe I should just keep quiet and let him abuse me. So I left but I said to her I don't understand her why should let her handle it when all he does is continue the crap toward me. I decide not to see her anymore until he move out. Tell me what do you think?
personally I say yes, stay away. If you want to see your mom, call her up and ask her to lunch or dinner out somewhere without him involved. you don't need his abuse, and she shouldn't let him abuse you. But you have to do what is right for you. You never know how long he will live with her, and she might be getting abused too. Alcoholics do that or many alcoholic do that, I will rephrase that. I had an alcoholic boyfriend, and I couldn't handle it..... I called the cops to have him removed from my apartment, he was not on the lease so technically he should not have been living with me. So I took the courage to change what I could and that was to get rid of him. he was nice when he was sober, but he would steal from me, and totaled my car one night when he took it without my consent. I lost so much dating him..... I won't date another alcoholic again. I have had enough abuse in my life and I don't need anymore.
You should not let you mother suffer over it. She is his mom and wants to help him. She cant , but that s how moms are. But I am sure she loves you just as much and does not want to loose you. You cant make a mom choose between her kids .She loves you both.
Well i don't think you should cut her out as much as him.If she wants the two of you to be together maybe offer to go out to a restaurant rather than staying in the house. That way he can't pick on you over stupid things. Don't cut out your mom..She wont always be there..And as for the potatoes if he said that next time tell him " being you are such a great cook why don't you do it"? Good luck and God Bless..
Happy New Year!!!