Oh my god i don't know what to do... please help, suicide thoughts?!
Question: hey everyone,
I am just about a "normal" guy, other than one huge problem that I have that continually rips me to pieces: i just can't talk to girls. I can't even describe how shy i become when I talk to a girl that I find is good looking. but the thing is, i don't really show it, i just can't start up a conversation, i am worried it might be stupid and make me look like a foool. the way i talk to girls i think it may be possible that they think i am trying to get rid of them or im an ignorant person and don't want to talk to them but in reality its completely the opposite its just that i am extremely shy i guess they just don't notice it. anyway, today i was taking a course and it turned out that a really nice girl was sitting beside me and i could barely even look at her in the eyes i was so shy. i never started up a conversation and it was often very akward. this happens to me often and i have had a few suicide thoughts + using drugs to"get away" from it allPLEASE HELP!
Answers: hey everyone,
I am just about a "normal" guy, other than one huge problem that I have that continually rips me to pieces: i just can't talk to girls. I can't even describe how shy i become when I talk to a girl that I find is good looking. but the thing is, i don't really show it, i just can't start up a conversation, i am worried it might be stupid and make me look like a foool. the way i talk to girls i think it may be possible that they think i am trying to get rid of them or im an ignorant person and don't want to talk to them but in reality its completely the opposite its just that i am extremely shy i guess they just don't notice it. anyway, today i was taking a course and it turned out that a really nice girl was sitting beside me and i could barely even look at her in the eyes i was so shy. i never started up a conversation and it was often very akward. this happens to me often and i have had a few suicide thoughts + using drugs to"get away" from it allPLEASE HELP!
Life gives you challenges like this to help you grow. Face it and grow!
And, girls, even the pretty ones, are normal people too. Stop placing them on such a high pedestal. You're young and you'll learn. Have fun. Them drugs gonna take your money away though.
Actually, it's true that people go through suicidal thoughts atleast once in your life. (I've done it twice and nearly killed myself). Just persist through it, and you'll find that life is great.
Stay way from drugs!
Remember kids, down the road - not across the street.
don't do drugs it will make it worse so if you are thinking about suicide and you want to go see a doctor.. but a lot of people have those thoughts.. if you do proceed don't even think about it... well just try to at least say hi to the person and if they respond back well then there you go.. but if you cannot just write a letter to the person.
You're just very shy! It is common for guys to be shy talking to girls and likewise, girls talking to guys! Suicide, drugs, drink etc is definitely not the way to go! You don't need to harm yourself or give up your life for something that you can overcome with time and practice :) A genuinely friendly compassionate girl will understand and realise that you are shy :) No matter what the case is, you never have to harm yourself or turn to drugs/drink :) Think positively, prepare for the situation in your mind and just be yourself! Don't try to be anyone else! If you are nervous, it's okay, be nervous, that's how you're feeling and if you're feeling good, confident, that's how you're feeling :) Just don't worry about anything :) There's no point in worrying either and I do know that it's easier said than done, but you have your whole life ahead of you :) Good luck and just be yourself :)
Gee! You sound like me when I was younger! LOL Here is a little self hypnotic technique I used to help overcome my shyness: Get a picture of any female you think is very beautiful, and out it up on your bedroom wall or mirror. Visualize yourself speaking to her in the manner you desire. Once you can see yourself doing this comfortably, start practicing speaking to this picture, while you are recording the conversation. Play back the recording to see how you sound. You can even prepare yourself an opening line to get her attention, but you are going to have to figure out what else to say afterwards. Make sure you compliment her on her hair, clothing, makeup, dress ensemble because female normally put also of time in getting themselves ready to face the world, but they won't just come out and tell you this. If you find out things that are of interest to her, find out all you can about the subject so you can carry on a conversation with her about it. But again, that main thing is to practice, practice, practice. the more comfortable you become, the more relaxed you will be, and the less chance you will stick your foot into your mouth buy saying something stupid or incoherent. Good luck!
By the way, I also overcame my fear of public speaking the same way. I cannot tell you how embarrassing it used to be for me to pass out infront of all my peers.