How do you cope with sadness?!
Question: First, don't be afraid to cry and to give words to your loss. Next try to figure out how you can live your life so as to carry on the goodness of the one that was lost, how to give the world the good that you lost. If that doesn't cover it, think of the things that will bring joy to others and work for bringing that joy to others.
Answers: First, don't be afraid to cry and to give words to your loss. Next try to figure out how you can live your life so as to carry on the goodness of the one that was lost, how to give the world the good that you lost. If that doesn't cover it, think of the things that will bring joy to others and work for bringing that joy to others.
Soak in the tub and read a good book - Horse back riding - A drive in the car listening to favorite music
Friends. Works every time.
Think about all the things that I do in life that bring me joy and then do them when I'm feeling blue. Some things that I like to do is exercise, visit with family and friends, do some hobbies like crafts (sewing, cross stitch, etc.), join a club and one big thing that I do every year which is really suitable for me because I start to feel blue after winter has been around for a while is volunteer income tax. I find joy in volunteering and it's nice to do for people who can't afford it.
prayer. Talking. Listening to good music. Thinking about what makes you sad and find the positive somehow.
Sometimes u just live with it, like me.
watch a happy movie, eat tons of junk food, take a long hot bubble bath
I cry, it is a good release of pent up emotions. That is if you can cry (many people have no tears, or their tear ducts are blocked )
Then I start counting my blessings, and write them down on paper,I try for 5-10. O yes they are there I just need to think about them. I start with life itself..... If I get sad again, I add to my Blessings list, 5 more
good music always help
Hey smart guy......feeling a little less smart these days? We all do from time to time. Sadness is a very very heavy feeling and can get even the strongest person down.
Sadness is a response to a loss. Most people think somebody has died.....that is a loss. But think about it. You can lose a job, a friend moves away, a dear girlfriend dumps you and you loved her, you can lose a job, lose your house. You can lose a leg/arm etc. from amputation. You can lose your independence and are in a wheelchair. You can lose your drivers license (loss of independence). You can lose your hair.......etc. See what I mean?
Identify what you have lost. Know that you cannot bring your loss back. Know that in some cases, given time, you can replace that emptiness (you can never replace the loss) with something or someone else.
It is very important to acknowledge the loss. Then it is equally important that you cry. You must get angry. You must find a place to go where you can let out your feelings of sadness, frustration, anger, hate, back to sadness, "woe is me". Get it all out. All this is a normal reaction to sadness.
Depending on the loss, this sadness may last for months
But it is very important you do not allow it to control you and your activities and decision making. Give it it's own spot on your bookcase of feelings. Pull it down off the bookcase, cry, hate, get angry, just FEEL, AND FEEL HARD. When you are exhausted from all the feelings, put it back up on the bookcase of feelings so you can function with the other feelings that you have throughout your day. Pull it down again as you feel the need, deal with the feelings and place it back on the bookshelf.
When my own dear husband died, I found that writing letters to him helped a whole lot. It doesn't matter what your loss is, write down your feelings. Talk about it to yourself. Talk about it to the piece of paper in front of you or your pc. Whatever you use, it doesn't know a thing about you. Tell it all about your feelings. Save the letter in a folder.. Write another letter tomorrow, and the next day, and the next. Soon you will find you are writing only every other day, then weekly, then back to twice a week for a while. etc.
Slowly, as you talk, you will find your answers. They will be looking back at you. If you cannot write to suit yourself, or type, get a tape recorder. something you can talk to and play back and listen to as you sort through your feelings and find your own answers.
This is a positive coping mechanism. You will receive answers that tell you to get high on one thing or another, go have good sex, or some other stupid reply because of the lack of real knowledge. Please, never try to cover up the pain of sadness with alcohol/drugs
When you wake up it is still there, as strong as ever and not one step closer to resolution. You will end up ruining your life.
Good luck and God bless you and don't forget to let Him take care of your sorrow. He has more experience that either of us.
I am an RN certified in Psyc. Nursing.
I will keep myself busy. I do not like to cry alone.
I have been saving my sadness for when I get to my therapy appointment. I feel safer letting it out there.
I am afraid I might get too depressed if I let my sadness out when I am alone. This seems to work for me.
people usually avoid & run from sadness, so they suffer
that suffering is unnecessary
what I suggest is to meet it, to experience sadness completely, and this cures suffering
just once, try it