Am I just being dramatic or does this sound like something serious?!


Question: During school days, sometimes I find it pointless to do anything since it's just the same thing every day. Then, on the weekends, instead of sleepovers I just use the time to sleep (I'm always tired, I need the extra sleep, and I'm afraid to relate to girls my age)
I'm constantly reading and writing and am involved in drama at the school. Except, the only reason I do these things is so that I can pretend that I'm someone else for that brief time.
Plus, I've taken it upon myself to constantly blame everything on myself and have a problem with regretting all kinds of simple stuff (i.e., I say something stupid to someone and I'll feel bad about it for months) Lastly, I'm practically addicted to breakup songs and the terrible memories they bring back. It hurts less to hear about breakups than listening to love songs, go figure.
My grandmother was a paranoid schizophrenic and I know it runs in the family.


Answers: During school days, sometimes I find it pointless to do anything since it's just the same thing every day. Then, on the weekends, instead of sleepovers I just use the time to sleep (I'm always tired, I need the extra sleep, and I'm afraid to relate to girls my age)
I'm constantly reading and writing and am involved in drama at the school. Except, the only reason I do these things is so that I can pretend that I'm someone else for that brief time.
Plus, I've taken it upon myself to constantly blame everything on myself and have a problem with regretting all kinds of simple stuff (i.e., I say something stupid to someone and I'll feel bad about it for months) Lastly, I'm practically addicted to breakup songs and the terrible memories they bring back. It hurts less to hear about breakups than listening to love songs, go figure.
My grandmother was a paranoid schizophrenic and I know it runs in the family.

It could be your age and the changes you are having to adapt to, but it could be depression. Please understand that depression of the type I am speaking is caused by some chemical imbalances in your body. They affect your perception of events, stimulus, etc. So, this does not just mean you are unhappy. And it is not something that you will yourself out of. So you should not feel any shame or guilt. You did not "cause" it, if that is what it is.

Those who say this is normal might be right, but it does not help you cope with the feelings you are having. Perhaps you can talk to your family doctor. Think of a reason you need to go and confide your concerns. As you say, do not be dramatic about it. Just explain your concerns.

P.S. not many teens are so self aware as you and that is a great start!

Would you be open to going to see a therapist? I think it would be beneficial for you to be able to talk to someone who can figure out where all this is stemming from.

You could have various psychological ailments. My advice is to seek professional psychiatric help.

sounds like anxiety . . . how old are you?

your normal believe me. there are lots of people like you. i relate to the sleep and lysol part but i love being me

hmmm maybe you have ocd. remember, it's not just compulsions, you can have obsessions, too

or maybe you are depressed? social anxiety?

probably see a shrink, they will help you deal with your problems.

you sound like a normal TEENAGER

The best way to know what is going on is to get an accurate diagnosis! I know this because depression/etc runs in our family, and we all thought my one sister was depressed but she was diagnosed as bipolar. So go see a good psychiatrist, and I hope everything works out well!

it sounds like you are more depressed than anything and you should talk to someone about it. Your parents are a good start and then maybe a doctor......don't let yourself get more depressed ..........unless you are just doing it for attention.
in that case you are just a drama queen!
Either way good luck

hmmmmmmm....
sounds like you have a really low self esteem.
You need to get yourself out there and step out of your little shell of depression or low self esteem. whatever it is.
theres no need to be like that. it's all in your head just get it out of there.

If anything, sounds like you're a normal, depressed teenage girl. I remember being just like that! Life is what you make of it. If you're not happy feeling the way you feel then change your circumstances. There's nothing you've written that makes me believe you have a mental illness, yah, you're a bit dramatic but that's what makes it perfect that you're into drama at school ! Get MORE involved in activities like that. There's other music besides love songs and break up songs too. How about just some good old happy music? Whether your feeling it or not, try listening to some and see if it doesn't alter your state of mind. Just another form of music therapy!

when you get set in one area that is about where you will stay explore more.

Talk to your parents or another adult you trust and tell them about this. You don't say how old you are but I assume youre in your early teens. That can be a difficult time I know, but if YOU feel there is something wrong and you are willing to ask on this forum, it's worth seeing a doctor to rule out any mental health issues, like depression.
PLEASE talk to somebody and see your doctor.

your an actress in disguise

I have anxiety and reoccurring depression and this sounds similar to the things I face at times.

You just sound like you need a therapist to talk to and maybe something like Effexor for depression.
I gaurantee you are not Schizo though at least not at this point. You probably just have a fear of becoming Schizo.
I have several problems myself including bipolar & Schizo & post traumatic stress syndrome.
You could become schizo later on in your life but dont worry about it right now.
Get off your butt, out of the house nad go have some fun with your friends.
Just being a teen alone is also some of your problem. they say its the best time of your life and guess what thier lying.
Being a teen is the most confusing and hardest time of a persons life!

Wow! Um... you know you don't have to choose to be sick. You can choose to be well. Thing is you should find things that make you happy and do them. Forget about your fear of germs. We all have them and we usually survive it somehow. Wanting to pretend to be someone else isn't really unusual. Look at all the actors. Sad songs are popular too, so you must not be the only one who likes them. I have the blame problem myself. I try my best not to do it though because I know for certain I did not screw up this world we live in. It was way messed up before I ever got here. Try not to set yourself up for sadness. It sucks. Good luck.

I am not a doctor but are you possibly JUST a teenager! I remember when I was a teen I used to listen to love songs and cry. I would think about all the terrible relationships and just cry. I did like to be with my friends but have you looked at the type of friends you have? Maybe your friends are a little boring for you and not as analytical. My neice is in the theatre and she just loves being someone else for a short time. As for relating to girls your age is it possible that you have a fear of rejection? I would talk to your parents about how you feel and would probably recommend you talk to someone about your feelings but as long as your are not having suicidal feelings and a sense of dread I would chalk a lot of your feelings to puberty and fear! try making friends with someone in the theatre program who has something in common with you! Good luck and please talk to your parents so they can have a chance to help you.

Get help lots and lots of help

I think u should try 2 have more confidence in yourself, and figure out the stuff that u like and don't like, and what u want, all that stuff, and on that just trust yourself and have confidence. That should help u enjoy life, and to not dwell on the little unimportant things. U should also get yourself something 2 look 4ward 2, & not worry about what your grandmother had, cuz by worrying and paying attention 2 every little thing you're just adding 2 your chances of getting it.

I think a lot of this stuff is in your head. I'm not trying to downplay it or anything but it's easy to manifest things in your mind that seem real if you think they should be real (i.e. plychological issues run in your family so you expect yourself to have one and start acting that way). Everyone gets tired of school sometimes and it often seems pointless but you've got to see he big picture and soldier on. There's noting wrong with drama(the school club, i mean, not social drama), especially if you're good at but it seems like your real problem is you don't like yourself. And while this seems bad, it's not so awful. just become someone you like. changing what you don't like about yourself is a lot easier than changing what you don't like about other things because you already have the only person's permission that you need, your own. Quit blaming yourself for things that don't matter and were not even you fault. dwelling on the past won't help the future and it will completely blind you to the present. So deecide to take charge of you life NOW, after all, you're the best suited person to the job. It might also help to find someone you look up to who you can confide in, they will affirm the good things about you and help you change the bad things. Bout mostly, don't lose hope.

How long have you felt this way? You need to tell someone about these feelings that you have. It sounds to me like you may be suffering from depression. How old are you? Adolescence is a difficult time and according to Freud the period of identity vs. role confusion. It is during this stage in which a person is confused about their personal identity and role in their lives. The fatigue is a common symptom of depression, along with lack of enjoyment in everyday activities. Do you suffer from anxiety, general/social? OCD is a disorder provoked by anxiety in which the person must perform certain rituals in order to relieve anxiety. If you feel you have the beginnings of this disorder it is important to seek treatment to rectify the behavior before it gets out of control and end up controlling every aspect of your daily life. You seem to also have thoughts of self persecution, as you had said that you constantly blame yourself for everything and have a difficult time resolving these feelings. As for the schizophrenia, this disorder can manifest itself in visual, auditory, olfactory (smell) hallucinations. It is a disorder with a genetic link. Do you have any symptoms of this disorder? Please talk to your doctor about the way you are feeling, there are medications that can work wonder for the treatment of depression and talking to someone about what you are going through will help tremendously. Also, there is a great web site that deals with a variety of disorders-depression, anxiety, OCD. It is a support community for sufferers where you can vent your frustations and recieve feedback, anxietyzone.com

Actually you sound depressed. At lot of what you describe is also very common behavior for teenagers, hence the term 'teenaged angst'.

Nothing you've said suggests paranoia or schizophrenia.

However, since all this obviously bothers you, you should make an appointment with your doctor and with a therapist who specializes in working with teenagers. Not because there's something mentally 'wrong' with you but because you are unhappy and seeking answers.

They can help -- a lot. Neither the doctor or the therapist will tell your parents what you tell them without your permission.

It is tricky. Being a teen (I'm assuming here) and having thoughts of not fitting in, worrying about "what is wrong with me" and looking for an explanation for it (OCD self-diagnosis), and pretending to be someone else are very normal. It may seem like everyone else has it all together but some people hide it better than others. Looking for a diagnosis to "explain" why you don't fit in is normal too.

It is a normal psychological passage for teens. It is sometimes referred to as "being in the spot light" all the time you are afraid that they may not like the "true you" and, probably, you haven't discovered the "real you" yet. Being a teen is TOUGH!! Like I said before, what you are describing is how I felt too from about 12-20. When I went to university, I took a (huge!) risk and stopping acting like what I though people wanted me to be. I was scared to death that people wouldn't like me but I found it to be a great relief (especially with dating) and I ended up much happier (really-not faking it anymore), with nicer friend and I became much nicer, I didn't judge others all the time and then I forgot that I thought they were judging me! The best thing I learned was this. I finally made it to the "super-cool-top -of-the-food-chain" social group. After a while, the fun wore off and I started seeing these people for who they were. The girls were way more F-ed up than me. They were rich and gorgeous but were SOOOO insecure (and mean b/c they were insecure). I really didn't like them and found that I wasn't having much fun. It made me realize "that wasn't me" and that I was OK with it.
(sorry so long)
If you find that your moods are suicidal, or keep getting worse or if you never feel happy, go talk to someone (counselor, doctor) because it could be depression. There is a fine line between normal teen paranoia and depression.

GOOD LUCK!!! I hope this rant helps you a bit.





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