What does it mean when your ex leaves you coz he doesnt know what he wants? NO a!
Question: recently split from my boyfriend, didnt go so well im a bit of a clingy person who takes it all out on myself by cutting my arms and wrists.
after calming down a bit and talking we realised he didnt know what he wanted and he thought it didnt feel right even tho he enjoyed spending time with me. so to me it sounds like he needs to spend time working himself out. he wants to be friends but i never have been friends with an ex before, and i want to but i also know that i am always going to want more.
when we said goodbye i went to give him a light hug and he gripped me hard and i think didnt want to let go i said i was really going to miss him and he told me he would miss me. something he hadn't said for a long time
basically im really confused and i dont want to lose him and i would appreciate the ppl who give real nasty comments to others to not comment as i am already in a delicate state of mind.
Answers: recently split from my boyfriend, didnt go so well im a bit of a clingy person who takes it all out on myself by cutting my arms and wrists.
after calming down a bit and talking we realised he didnt know what he wanted and he thought it didnt feel right even tho he enjoyed spending time with me. so to me it sounds like he needs to spend time working himself out. he wants to be friends but i never have been friends with an ex before, and i want to but i also know that i am always going to want more.
when we said goodbye i went to give him a light hug and he gripped me hard and i think didnt want to let go i said i was really going to miss him and he told me he would miss me. something he hadn't said for a long time
basically im really confused and i dont want to lose him and i would appreciate the ppl who give real nasty comments to others to not comment as i am already in a delicate state of mind.
I'm glad I'm not the only one in this situation. It really bothers me too, I keep wondering what I can say or do to bring her back, and of course, she won't tell me. How can someone who is uncomfortable with you, and doesn't want to be around you MISS you? I know alot of people like that, who contradict themselves on a regular basis. All I can suggest is ask him straight up-why isn't this working, and for future reference ask him what specifically turned him away.
It sounds like to me that you are scaring him by your actions of cutting yourself. This is not normal and you should seek some help. If you can get help and resolve this strange behavior, then he may come back to you. I know your upset and confused, but if you really like him, then keep being his friend and get some help from a professional. He may come back, and he may not, but you have to take care of yourself first. If your not willing to change, then your chances of getting him back are kind of slim.
Well - if you're going to want something more, then maybe it's best if you don't stay friends with this guy. I tried to stay friends with my ex-girlfriend but it just ended in both of us hating each other. So I personally don't believe people can stay friends with their ex's ... It's up to you what you are going to do
I'm in similar ,but different position to you.Have you and he been checked for mental illness, there are so many different types and conditions. You cutting yourself will scare a lot of people away, doing that wont attract him back or solve your problems. Maybe that's what he means by "he doesn't know what he wants" He is scared you are going to hurt yourself and doesn't know how to get around it, that's me anyway. see some doctors, try talking more about what the issues are, and you have to stop self harming, then he might feel better.
Well it sounds like he really loved you and didn't want to see you hurt your self and thought you needed some time alone to get better! I isn't right to cut you yourself and he was probably frightened by it! Get better and try to talk to him about it!!! It seems like he didn't want to let you go but felt he had to! Maybe he felt it was making the whole cutting thing worse! I wish you the best and hope that everything works out!
All these people, all over the planet, seriously striving to stop eating, smoking, drinking, gambling, swearing, grouching etc. Don't they understand? The only way to give something up is to take something else up. If you embrace the alternative enthusiastically enough, your arms will neither have the space nor the desire to carry what they used to hold. If your resolution involves a sacrifice, you won't keep it for long. It's got to be based on inspiration. What excites you? What's worth striving for?
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im real sorry for you, i think he does love you, but dosnt know how to handle you and your problems? Why not try and get yourself some counselling? dont even attempt to be just friends if you know you cant, or you will just end up feeling lower. Maybe once you start to go forward - with counselling etc, he will hear on the grapevine, that youre starting to sort yourself out, and will approach you?