My life is frustrating? help?!
Question: - in grade 12
-stress for getting grades
- slacking off currently
- having no fun
- have little money (quit my job for studying)
- have no girlfriend
- have stupid friend who didnt want to do anything on new years
- I think i'm in depression ; cuz the doc told me a sign of depression is no sleep ..and i have that...but i told him i dint..
= VERY STUPID LIFE! Help?
Answers: - in grade 12
-stress for getting grades
- slacking off currently
- having no fun
- have little money (quit my job for studying)
- have no girlfriend
- have stupid friend who didnt want to do anything on new years
- I think i'm in depression ; cuz the doc told me a sign of depression is no sleep ..and i have that...but i told him i dint..
= VERY STUPID LIFE! Help?
Hi Alex,
If you think you are in a depression, you probably are, and the best thing to do is to talk with your doctor again and set up an appointment with a therapist. Clinical depression is a serious condition and you are obviously concerned with your symptoms.
While it's true that life is what we make of it, it is very difficult to make anything of it when we feel that all the forces are against us. Sometimes we need help, somebody to talk to, maybe some medication, and there is no shame in any of that.
As a senior, you do have a lot of pressure. There are people who will tell you this is the best time of your life and that you should make the most of it, but that's hard to do when you don't have any energy and you feel apathetic all the time.
Try working on one issue at a time. For example, if you really quit your job to study, then stop slacking off on the school work. If you find you can't motivate yourself, you need help. Talk to your parents about getting that therapist I mentioned.
I understand what it's like to be in your position. Everyone expects you to know what you want to do with your future, what profession you are going to enter, and all that. You feel you have a "very stupid life" and probably can't see that far into the future.
Maybe you could balance school with a parttime job so that you have some spending money. Encourage your friend to do more things with you. Try to make other friends. Let people see that you are unique and fun to be with. But hold off on the girlfriend until you are sleeping well and feel better about your life. Otherwise, you will be in a doomed relationship and just feel worse when it ends.
Asking this question here and listing your symptoms and situation was the first step. It is said that the longest journey begins with the first step. You are on your way, Alex. Hold on and make life happen for you, not against you.
Many blessings,
~Pasha
True that, I'm in the same boat!
pretty typical. The sooner you realize you have to make life fun, the more fun you'll have. your normal.
SORRY BUT WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD.GOOD LUCK.
eh your almost done with highschool... that crap sucked if ya jsut stick it out i bet your depression willg o away. dont worry about stuff liek going out on new years... its not that big of a deal
Yes, it sounds like you have some depression. You really should to talk to a professional about all of this. Ask your parents if they will pay for a therapist to help you deal with stress. If they won't, then you need to see your school counselor. Get this all off your chest and you will feel a lot better.
wait for a while and concentrate on studies qualify your grade choose a carreer .....join and do all the things for the rest of your life .....forget enjoyment and friends ....and this is no depression but signs of bad concentration
stop slacking off for a start. don't worry about a girlfriend right now, why don't you meet up with your friends and just have a good night. That should take your mind off your problems. Start getting into a good routine to study and don't stay up to late. You should start to sleep better once you get back into a sociable routine.
Chill. Life is short. Enjoy it. I'm not telling you to slack off, but take things easy!
1. Don't stress too much about grades. It's nearly second semester...who cares? I know the colleges don't care much...
2. Everyone slacks off. It's natural and everyone does it. Don't let anyone tell you it's wrong, as long as you don't make a habit of it.
3. Make fun! If your friends aren't making plans, you make plans! Be creative. I'm sure you can find time between some nights or on weekends to have your friends over. Play pranks on each other's cars (non-damaging ones, please!!!). Like, it may be funny to post-it note one of their cars...meaning you take a bunch of post-it notes and completely cover the car with them; thousands of them. It makes a day seem really fulfilling.
4. Sell stuff for money? Do odd jobs for the elderly neighbors? It's surprising how quickly one can make a decent amount of money if they put some effort into it.
5. So what if you don't have a girlfriend? It saves you a ton of time and money. You will get one when the time/circumstances are right.
6. Your friend IS stupid. Let him/her know that. If you have friends that don't want to do something, get your other friends to pressure them into it. It's called peer pressure and it's not always a bad thing.
Yes, you sound depressed. Are you in a "depression?" No, you're not. Take a step back from things. MAKE fun and chill out. You're almost to college! It's exciting.
Okay first off..
-RELAX; u have ur whole life to worry and stress.
-Study; try to up the grades...extra credits really do make a difference!
-Have some fun: go to the mall, make a myspace, find more friends. you can do it.
-Excerise; helps you to sleep few hours before bed. (or just 70 jumping jacks right before bed.)
Life is frustrating for most people. Today's times are very fast paced and stressful for everyoone. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You aren't alone. You are close to adulthood since you are a senior in highschool. With that age comes responcibility for yourself and your future life on your own. Life is not a fun filled bowl of cherries for adults. It is time to buckle down and get with the program or you will be out in left field when it comes time for you to be self supporting, on a strict budget to pay rent, maintain a car, pay for groceries, utilities, insurance, gas. You aren't likely to have much if anything for fun times for quite awhile. So get prepared. It is a tough world out there and it isn't going to get any easier. Girlfriends will come and go. Maybe it is meant that you don't have the distraction of one right now as there are more important things to focus on at the moment, like getting your grades up and graduating. You are just a normal teen experiencing the borderline between adult responcibilities and the old playtime days of younger years. Set your mind on what you need to do, 1 thing at a time and once you have your plan of action, you will sleep.
Don't be frustrating. You may find your true love at agemingle.com. I have met a wonderful girl there last week.
Life IS frustrating sometimes. Get used to it *smile* Really, if you expect otherwise, you'll just make things harder on yourself. And it isn't always fun, either. That's a Hollywood illusion... You've just gone back to school after the holidays. That's a downer in and of itself. (Believe me, your teachers feel the same way!!) Also, you're a senior, so you're on the brink of a big change. Life as you know it is coming to an end, but you're not there yet. Being on a brink is always frustrating, and you'll be on a lot of brinks in your life.
Take a deep breath. Have some compassion for yourself. You feel stuck, and that's understandable, but there are ways out... Do some research on coping with academic pressures. Explore your own feelings -- do you really WANT a girlfriend, or are you just looking for a distraction? If you really want a girlfriend, what actions do you need to undertake to get one?
Depression can be a temporary state based on circumstances, or it can be a serious, long-term state of being. Not sleeping can be a sign of depression, or it can be a sign of just having the blues. Which is yours? If you can't answer that, talk with someone who can help you figure that out... even if it's an 800 number for teens.
You don't have to be stuck with how you're feeling. Ask yourself what can be done to change your current circumstances. You have the power to change how you feel. Explore how to own and exercise that power.
I'm in high school too. Don't worry about your grades so much, stress is really bad 4 u and things always work out. Get out and do something physical i.e. sports team (even if your not good) good way to make new friends, or workout, (this could solve the girl problem) Try a new hobby or maybe learn a musical instrument. Music's a great pick me up. Just don't do nothing and don't be afraid to change a little. Good Luck! P.S. my name's Alex too.
sounds normal.
1.youre 12, you can slack off, your grades dont matter until you hit high school.
2.you can have a job?