When you're getting over someone?!
Question: is it ok to think about this person until you finally stop thinking about them because you see there is no point in it; or is it better to stop thinking about them completely right now - which is hard if not imposssible? thanx
Answers: is it ok to think about this person until you finally stop thinking about them because you see there is no point in it; or is it better to stop thinking about them completely right now - which is hard if not imposssible? thanx
Dear Shery, the "Best" way 2 do it is 2 consider that person dead ...so nothing 2 return 2 ...nothing 2 think about... life goes on...:)
p.s.: this is how chinese ppl. deal w/broken relationships.
for your own mental health, try to focus on something else
Try to not think about them and when the thoughts come try to block them out by busying yourself with something else.
After awhile you will start to think about that person less and less.
It's best to move on and not to relive the past...you will "probably "never forget a past relationship...but over time-you will think of the relationship less
Eh, I try not to fight the inevitable. You're going to think about them...and you're going to think about them even more when you try NOT to think about them, you know?
In my experience, things are really tough for awhile, but if I just distract myself with whatever, I come home and go to bed and just feel worse. It hits like double time. You'll be mopey and sad for awhile, and that's expected. Just don't let it go on too long (when people start saying something and they're getting annoyed, that's when you know to start distracting yourself). For now, just relax with the feeling and ride with it. One day you'll wake up and you'll be like, "Why was I so upset about that? Ridiculous," and you will be single and ready to get out there again.
yeah it will be impossible not to think about them, as you have to greive for the relationship like someone has died. especially as so many things will bring back memories of them for you, i know as im going through it now myself. some days i feel awful and all i think about is them and others are better but keeping busy and going out and meeting new ppl is the solution.
It is completely natural to think of the other person as you said, next to impossible. My advice is to go ahead and do it otherwise you are stuffing your feelings and eventually it will be more of a hinderance to try and readjust your mental state to "not" think of them. You are thinking of them so why try to brush those feelings under the carpet by tellling yourself otherwise. You can only allow yourself to move on if you deal with it now. Eventually you will find that is neither getting you anywhere or benefitting you and you may in fact come to certain realizations that perhaps what you saw in them was only due to your own perception and may not be entirely true. Until you find a way to accept that maybe those perceptions were false you won't really be able to let go. Sometimes we have to wallow in our own self pity for a short time to come to certain understandings of our own behavior. If what you want for yourself is to be the best you, you have to come to grips with your own limitations and oversight. I think it is best to go with the flow because you never know when those feeling or thoughts are going to arise. You have to deal with them to move on otherwise you are just prolonging your pain.