How can i help him gain confidence?!
Question: My husband had a heart attack, he underwent an agioplasty.Doctor has asked him to take medications regularly, all through his life. But he has lost confidence and has become very unhappy.He sometimes never bothers to take medicines even.what should i do now?
Answers: My husband had a heart attack, he underwent an agioplasty.Doctor has asked him to take medications regularly, all through his life. But he has lost confidence and has become very unhappy.He sometimes never bothers to take medicines even.what should i do now?
My father suffered from TVD(triple vessel disease),means all three veins blocked and his pumping rate was 16%.Doctors refused to do operation because he is above 62 and diabetic.After hearing this he said,"Oh! I'm living my bonus life".
After that also he was with his routine work and travelled a lot.He did go to his office.He was so courageous to drive the car.(Doctors advised not to drive and strain much). Slowly his pumping rate reduced and he lived more years than we expect.
He was Diabetic for 20yrs.He took medicines everyday until his death. Still there is a insulin bottle with my mother (on his memory).
Tell your husband death is not a punishment, everyone will die and let us live the life to the fullest.Tell him taking medicines are for living life without pain.
HEART ATTACK is not the end of life, It is starting a new life with new rules, that's all.
May be he miss out his favorite fried food,drinks etc., but tell him many people out in the world never even heard of it and tasted it. He was privileged to enjoy these days.
There are more delicious recipes which you can cook without oil.
Engage him in activities like chess etc. With regular exercise prescribed by Doctors he can be active.
Tell him 'DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY'. By worrying we cannot change anything. Always we should have a happy attitude.Whatever happens it is for our own goodness.
Cheer him up and BE POSITIVE.
if he won't take medications then try to get him active and if that doesn't work, since he's not moving get him this book Learned Optimism by Martin E.P. Seligman. it can teach you how to be more of an optimist. i wish i could help more than that.
try to remind him of the sweet things of life, try to make him forget about the incident even if for 5 minutes. The entire family should try and help out so he is not lonely. I am sure the same question can be answered in books or online in much more detail.
Facing our own mortality is a major life event... and not a happy one. This is a critical life transition stage. I don't believe that you can help him gain confidence, only he can do that for himself--but you can make suggestions that might help him move forward. Such as, finding a support group of men who are coping with similar circumstances. (The hospital might have this information, or your health insurance company may, if you have health insurance.)
Letting him know that you are aware that this trauma is not only physical but psychological and emotional as well would be supportive, I think.
Not taking is meds is a distorted way of expressing his sadness that his life could have come to this. Ultimately, it is his choice how he will respond to this--you can't MAKE him take his meds, but you can express to him how frightened his not taking them makes you... because you want him around.
I also feel quite strongly that YOU need to find support for what you're going through. Ask his doctor's nurse, ask at the hospital. This is a trauma for you, too, and you need to find ways of keeping yourself strong and centered in the face of this challenge.