Scared of death?!
Question: hey im 13, a boy, and im scared of death. Not as much as me dieing but the ones that i love like my parents. I ve been fine in the morning, but at night i cant stop sobbing and thinking and even crying. 2 things that deffinetly afected with, someone i knew dieing in they sleep, and i saw someone get runnover.
I dont want to be scared. over the last couple days i coudlnt stop shaking and crying in bed. my mom had 2 sleep in my bed with me. i dont want any stupid answers but i really really need help. Im not seeing a therapist but my mom made an apointment for next thursday. i dont no if i can wait.
thanks alot i hope this will help me
Answers: hey im 13, a boy, and im scared of death. Not as much as me dieing but the ones that i love like my parents. I ve been fine in the morning, but at night i cant stop sobbing and thinking and even crying. 2 things that deffinetly afected with, someone i knew dieing in they sleep, and i saw someone get runnover.
I dont want to be scared. over the last couple days i coudlnt stop shaking and crying in bed. my mom had 2 sleep in my bed with me. i dont want any stupid answers but i really really need help. Im not seeing a therapist but my mom made an apointment for next thursday. i dont no if i can wait.
thanks alot i hope this will help me
Hey bud,
Your fear of death is VERY common. Your not alone by having these thoughts. Especially about the people you love, but beleive me, you will be fine! I too had similar thoughts at your age and as you get older youll realize theres no need to be scared. You have your whole life ahead of you and you just need to love your family every day and appreciate them being with you. Talking with a counsellor or someone close is a great idea but I think youll be just fine. Have fun your just a kid you dont need to worry about things like this at such a young age!
And beleive me when i was scared of dying, once I learne dthat there is more beyond this life, I felt much better. having a choice in a beleif is your choice and no one elses, and beleive me, theres more then just this life, We are here to learn and then we go on to a greater existence :)
Also, even if your not religious, churches and local schools should be able to help with any questions you have :)
Take care bud,
Joe
You have to accept that death is a part of life. No one gets out of this life alive.
ok u dont need to be scared they wont die for another say oh um a 60 years so dont worry............
wait...so you're worried of dying...or your parents? we cant avoid it, but there are ways to help prevent certain deaths...especially the ones dealing with your health. but based on what you've brought up, sounds like your scarred of what you can't control.
You have to live with ideas about what you want to be, a plan for how to be what you want to be, and surround yourself with pleasant people and inspiring books. Improve your education always, in and out of school. Look for the love of friends and relatives. Think about falling in love some day. You will be too happy to worry about death. All these questions will work themselves out as you learn more about life.
Well seeing a therapist will really help a lot. I just stopped seeing mine I'm about a year older then you
Just don't take the people you love for granted use every opportunity to show them you care
Don't fear death it is a natural part of life that whole circle thing.
Sometimes it helps to write out you feelings let them flow onto the paper and just keep you loved ones close!!
Hope this helps!!
im fifty im scared of it all the time but i try to do something for someone else every day so so that way you dont have time to be afraid also try praying to God to protect you every night
Everyone is gonna die im srry but its true if your so scared spend more time with the one's you love and just tell yourself my parent's are here now so know need to cry now.I used to be the same and i know how you feel.Just try to stay postive
Everyone dies, it's part of life and even if we lived on eart forever it'll get very boring. I know the thought of two people that are obviously very important dying is scary to you, it's scary to all of us. Just remember you have plenty of time to spend with them and that when they do go, they'll be going to a better place and that one day you'll join them :)
Death scares all of us, it's just you need to look on the positive aspect of death. Religion and spiritualiy can be really comforting if you feel anxious over death. I know your only 13 but maybe looking into having a deeper connection to faith, religion and such could help. And I'm sure that the therapist will help clear some of those overwheleming feelings.
Most people go through this type of thing at least once in their lifetimes. It's good that you're seeing a therapist. If you're religious, you may want to look into what your religion says about death, it might make you feel more comfortable. Let me know if you want links. Good luck.
Moms ok, go and see and talk to a therapist. Sadly enough death is inevitable and comes to all of us. try volunteering in a nursing home or hospital and get to know someone whos dying, most people can help you by just talking and you can help them and yourself by just being there. Good luck.
We have somewhat the same experience since I was young until now. I cry hard and I can't sleep.There's a question in me... What if my Dad will die tonight because of accident especially he is in sea (He is a seaman) , What if my grandma will die, What will happen to me. I love them both.
Just stop thinking it. Make a means that make you forget that fear. Be strong. Control yourself not to think of it.
This used to happen to me a lot. I would have the same fears and they would always bother me at night! It really sucks to think about, but you have to try and understand that death is part of living. The more you think about it, the harder it will be for you to accept it when a situation like that comes up. The less you think about it, the more time you will have to spend and enjoy with those you love before an unfortunate passing.
You could have obsessive compulsive disorder.
I'm about the same age as you, I used to worry about death and dying quite frequently, as well as our house catching fire, being robbed, or being raped.
Pay attention to your little "habbits," learn more about OCD, and see if it applies to you. If you have enough mental power, you can get over it without anybody's help. I did it.
Good luck!
I first want to say NO ONE should give you a bad answer on this...I hope things can get better for you...It sounds as though the trama you experienced could have caused Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. Which is completely normal for what you've been through. Your on the right track for seeing a therapist. Be honest with them and just know they will be able to help you cope with this in ways your mind can finally juggle this tragedy. Right now you just need to keep yourself calm, I know easier said than done...but if you take deep breathes
inhale through nose and exhale out mouth, slowly, three times.
Think repeatedly, "Everyone is fine" "Everything is fine" by doing this your replaceing the thoughts that overwhelm you.
If you are thinking of the positive thoughts your mind cannot go to dwell on the thoughts that scare you, and also are not
happening right now. Be sure to tell your loved ones you love them and care much for them. And rest assured, its gonna be fine. It is gonna be hard at first, because your in the habit
of thinking the worst, but you can back yourself out of those thoughts. I wish you much success in this...hang in there you
ve been through alot. You'll be on the right track soon. Keep heart. Take care.
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