I got to much stuff to do and i cant cope, help?!


Question: i'm 18 im an idiot and i know everyone go's through this but i cannot cope, im so **** at everything i really am, i still havent found my talent, i've got very few friends who i seem to not be connecting with anymore and i've got to much to sort out just to make my future less bleak, i've got my teeth, hair, health, career, life out, i have no idea how to pay taxes or any of that and i keep hearing about more things i have to do as an adult that i just cant do, worst off all i feel like im going nuts and i cant tell anyone cause im not connecting with anyone, i keep arguing with myself properly, i talk and dance alone in the street, im obsessed with radiohead, i cry for no reasons although im not depressed, i have not 1% of any connections with my family, i dont tell them anything, im a teenager, i dont drink, smoke and im celibate and i feel like i shouldnt be, im constantly thinking of death and im a huge fachist and im confiding to strangers on the net, 2 more years and then im gone


Answers: i'm 18 im an idiot and i know everyone go's through this but i cannot cope, im so **** at everything i really am, i still havent found my talent, i've got very few friends who i seem to not be connecting with anymore and i've got to much to sort out just to make my future less bleak, i've got my teeth, hair, health, career, life out, i have no idea how to pay taxes or any of that and i keep hearing about more things i have to do as an adult that i just cant do, worst off all i feel like im going nuts and i cant tell anyone cause im not connecting with anyone, i keep arguing with myself properly, i talk and dance alone in the street, im obsessed with radiohead, i cry for no reasons although im not depressed, i have not 1% of any connections with my family, i dont tell them anything, im a teenager, i dont drink, smoke and im celibate and i feel like i shouldnt be, im constantly thinking of death and im a huge fachist and im confiding to strangers on the net, 2 more years and then im gone

its hard growing up...all of a sudden you realize all the stuff that comes with becoming an adult.
it's tough!
You need to appreciate who you are. If you can't appreciate and love yourself, there is no reason that other people should. right?

it's a good thing you don't drink or smoke - it just causes more problems.

Try dealing with one thing at a time.
Thinking about ALL the things you have to do is too stressful.

Don't give up so easily. Life is hard.
If we give up, we'll never get to see our future..
and I promise it gets better!
And you're not alone!

Do you have msn?
I'll talk to you there if you want...
I'm 17 and I know what you're going through..
:)

It's over NINE THOUSAND!!!!

go to a counselor

Me too. Only i'm 34..........................And I drink and smoke. ( I'm married, so i'm also celibate)

Start working out, learn to relax, and get a girlfriend. Life will get marginally better:)

What's up with the weird 9000 thing? That's 1:50 out of my life.


GL..........Rich

well dude seems like you're heading for the self inflicted coffin.

Try to make sure you don't leave the family with huge finacal debts when you go.

Get a job, pay for your funeral, your coffin, arrange everything, make sure you don't leave blood, guts, and other body parts for the loved ones to have to remember. Make sure to leave a written journal explaining how you feel, what's going on and why you want/wanted out.

Some people will tell you suicide is "bad" and you are going to cause great big aching wounds in the people who are around you if you choose that avenue. You have to realize that.

If you choose to stick it out and see what you can make of it then GOOD for you! Kick tail and take names.

Find the book "Sun Tzu on the Art of War." That'll give you some idea how to make waves in the war of life.

Dude best advice learn to live well no matter what's been done or who's doing what.

It is absolutely normal to feel a lot of anxiety. The transition to adulthood is heavy. And if you feel like there is no one you can get help from, it is very daunting. You are trying to establish who you are, and determine how you will face the world.

You've taken the first step by reaching out. The next step is to reach out to someone who can advise you locally. It can be as simple as starting with, "I'm scared / confused." or "I don't know what to do." or even more simple: "I need help."

Its not easy to ask for help. Its hard to admit that you can't do it by yourself. But the first step to maturity, is asking for help when you need it.

Write down a list of everything you are worried about.

Identify the type of people who can help you with those type of things.

If you can, talk to a guidance consular at your school.

Regarding taxes. No one knows how to do them. The easiest way to learn is to just do them.

If you can, take a personal finance class. It teaches a lot about how to balance a check book, and pay taxes.

Another handy class is Home Economics. Just learning how to do the basics around the home is helpful.

Some of the most interesting people haven't figured out what they want to do with their lives yet. And they are well into their 40s and 50s.

Its normal to not know what your calling is. Some may know where their passions are at an early stage, others don't. They find it by experiencing what the world really is.

Growing up is what it is. Its a lot of constant questioning. Its overwhelming at times. But you will get through it.

Don't take this rudely please...but there is too much "I" "I" "I",
Stop focusing so much on YOU...and start reaching out to other people. Life is hard, there is no doubt about it. But look at it as an adventure rather than a jail cell. Sit down and prioritize what you want. Literally, make a list of goals you want to accomplish...from small to great. Start saying to yourself "I am a success" and "I am sure my life is good". As for taxes.,,,Find a good tax man, take in your list of receipts,
pay $100.00 for peace of mind. One less thing right there.
And as far as the things you feel you should be doing like drinking, smokeing, and not being celibate...think of your spareing yourself from...Alchoholism, drug addiction, and possibly a STD...And claiming 2 more years and your gone...
forget about that...not an option...whats the good in that? Once you do that, you can't stick around for the ride, which is
good, bad and indifferent, but learn to love every minute of every day. There is this saying, I have come to love, "I once felt bad cause I had no shoes, til I met a man who had no feet." Count the blessings you do have, and work to acheive the ones you'd like to have. I wish you the best truly. Take care.

Heart2Heart





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