Anyone ever feel like this? What made it stop?!
Question: Okay.... about two months ago my bf broke up with me. We have broken up for short periods before, so I figured it was just going to be one of those times. So.... we still lived in the same apartment for about 4-5 wks. after the break-up. EVERYDAY I would hold out hope that he would just realize how much he loved me and come back to me. But, EVERYDAY it would get WORSE, he was always mad at me, and it seemed like every other day he was talking to one of his exes and/or voicing interest in another woman. It made me feel TERRIBLE!!! I was taking like 7-8 tylenol pms a night just to get to sleep. So... we kept fighting and I kept feeling worse until my mom finally "rescued" me and made me move out of the apartment. That was about two weeks ago. And now I FEEL WORSE THAN EVER. I have a new apartment, better hours at my new job, etc. But NOTHING makes me feel any better. I talk to him almost everyday and hear about his exciting new life without me and pretend as if I don't care.
Answers: Okay.... about two months ago my bf broke up with me. We have broken up for short periods before, so I figured it was just going to be one of those times. So.... we still lived in the same apartment for about 4-5 wks. after the break-up. EVERYDAY I would hold out hope that he would just realize how much he loved me and come back to me. But, EVERYDAY it would get WORSE, he was always mad at me, and it seemed like every other day he was talking to one of his exes and/or voicing interest in another woman. It made me feel TERRIBLE!!! I was taking like 7-8 tylenol pms a night just to get to sleep. So... we kept fighting and I kept feeling worse until my mom finally "rescued" me and made me move out of the apartment. That was about two weeks ago. And now I FEEL WORSE THAN EVER. I have a new apartment, better hours at my new job, etc. But NOTHING makes me feel any better. I talk to him almost everyday and hear about his exciting new life without me and pretend as if I don't care.
Cutie Pie, hang in there - you WILL BE FINE, but it takes time! YOU ARE NOT ALONE - almost every woman has been through a breakup that was debilitating.
I've been through a couple of devastating breakups (like yours) where I couldn't foresee ever being happy again - no end in sight to the pain - and today I'm happy!!! It is true that it takes time, but it also takes a couple of other things...
First of all, DO NOT TAKE ANY ACTION THAT WILL HARM YOURSELF. I KNOW THAT RIGHT NOW YOU CANNOT SEE THE END OF THIS PAIN, BUT IT WILL - WILL - WILL PASS!
Without a doubt, talking to him every day Is doing a number on you. DO NOT talk to him! I know this is SO hard, because he's like a drug that you think you need, but trust me, DO NOT TALK TO HIM FOR TWO WEEKS (or get any info about him) and see how you feel. You will start to feel better!!! And after two weeks, you'll probably already feel so much better that you will be sorry if you talk to him! And don't be surprised if he tries to call you. Tell him the truth - don't pretend - tell him you're in a lot of pain and you need some time off to heal. Be firm. Take back your own life (we tend for forget that we own ourselves.)
SEE A COUNSELOR! This last time I could barely function but didn't think a counselor would make a difference. OMIGOSH I was so wrong! She SO made a difference! Go! You have everything to gain - what do you have to lose???
Even though you don't want to do anything right now, FORCE YOURSELF to find an interest. Get a cat, take a class in something you might enjoy - heck, even knitting or sewing! (Don't laugh - I thought knitting was for old ladys until I tried knitting a scarf. Now I'm hooked and it is really, really cool!) You won't want to do any of these things at first, but force yourself a little bit at a time.
EXERCISE - sounds stupid, but it really helps! I don't mean you have to go to the gym - you can just take long walks. I took a BodyPump class (didn't want to go - forced myself) with weights - the music was loud and fun, the instructor was great, and when it came time for the quiet cool down, stretching part, I would cry. But after the class I felt better - stronger - more in control. Movin' your body really helps.
You will get past this, but you MUST distance yourself from your ex. Get off that drug that's destroying you - detox - and get YOU back. HUGS! HUGS! HUGS!
Sounds like you're heartbroken. You should not talk to him every day. It gives you false hope. You sould go out with friends and find other intrests, rather than sit and think about how your life is without him. Turn to friends and family and just let him go. In time you'll feel better. It might take awhile, but that's how time works. Good luck
I'll bet you money to odds, that it's the over dosing of over-the-counter drugs that's significantly contributing. Turn on the TV and start getting interested in other things. Take long walks in the park. Get a cat or a dog to keep you company. Your drooping feelings will level off in time but stop taking so much drugs to sleep.
I have gone through the same thing. Every woman in the world has. I was once so in love with a guy, who wanted nothing to do with me, that I stayed in bed and didn't work for a year. I turned into an alcoholic because I thought the alcohol was the only thing that numbed the pain. DON'T believe this, or anything else your heart is saying right now. Some feelings like this go away slowly, and some NEVER go away, I hate to say it. You may always be in love with this person, I know that stinks to hear. From my own experience, don't do anything that reminds you of him. Don't write in your journal about him, don't listen to sad music that reminds you of him (punk and emo are the WORST). Do whatever you can to convince yourself you will find better, because you will. Trust me, if you BELIEVE this, then you will. I did! And now I'm married and have a baby on the way and whenever I think back on that person, I may feel a twinge of something, but it's easy to forget because you realize you could have missed out on someone that really mattered!
Time sweatheart, it takes time.
It really sucks , but the only thing that helps is time. try to do something that can keep you busy and keep your mind off him. Try not to talk with him as much, limit your contact with him.
Seek professional help to clear your mind, there is nobody or nothing worth the thought of ending your life.
i feel your pain
cry it out.
it worked for me.
forget about him and find someone else who is perfect for u.
wishing u well-
-i_used_to_be_that_one_emo_kid
You may have:
1) Seperation anxiety
2) Depression
3) Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
http://books.google.com/books?id=3NOSxEB...
will tell you to get plenty of sleep (in 9.5 hours of continuous total darkness), and avoid carbs (and booze) until spring
http://dmoz.org/Health/Mental_Health/Dis...
includes a link to a page of support groups.
Don't let him get you down everyone else is right.
You need to keep busy.
Hang in there :).
First off when you take to much of any pm medication it can have have the opposite effect and contribute to depression.Second anytime you have a major life change weather it be a new job moving or losing a loved one your go in to feel very nervous and out of sorts.Since you have all those things to deal with I can understand how you feel.I would stay away from the ex completely even talking to him or when other people bring up what hes doing now.You need to find out how to be by yourself for now don't worry about what hes doing what you here isn't likely the truth anyway.The main concern right now is learning how to be you again without being connected to him people forget that when their in a relationship for a long time.And if you really feel like hurting yourself find someone objective that you trust to talk to.Remember this feeling will pass you just need some tools to help you deal and some time to distance yourself.Goo Luck!